Keisha

Well I am going to try to give you best advice or support I can. I am not in your situation, but I have been. This was a few years ago, but i was very much in love with a man who didn't feel it to the same degree I did. While i went on in the relationship thinking that I had someone who cared about me..he didn't even consider me his girlfriend! I was heart broken to find out that I wasn't even someone important to himand I considered him my whole world! I attempted suicide many times. That situation with him made my world seem impossible. I tried not to talk about it with anyone because their response was always "don't worry" "just leave him ". They didn't understand, its not as easy as it sounds. Now here comes the hard part. It took me a while to realize it but, I was feeding my own sorrow..I was not going to get over this If I didn't want to...and I didn't. It took me a year to fully let go. I didn't love myself, I was going through a stage in my life where I didn't know why I wasn't good enough, and how I wish I could be better for him. I wanted to be someone else..I thought things couldn't get any worse. He was the poison in my life, and the longer i kept him around the worse I felt. Only to realize the problem isn't with him..it was with me. I needed help. so I went and talked to my mom...who didn't really understand where I was coming from...so I turned to my doctor who referred me to a great therapist. I can try to cut the story short and tell you that I am still depressed at times, because for me it is a hereditary trait. However I have a extremely loving man in my life and I am on my to being very successful in my field of choice. I suffered alot more heartbreak after that 1 relationship..but every experience that held me down HONESTLY made mte stronger. have faith in yourself and please..if you can...find a professional you can talk to to. My response may have bored you...but I can understand how you feel....things CAN get better..if you WANT them to.

I read your situation..and my answer might be scary... but umm....it COULD be Sleep Paralysis or a form of Narcolepsy It could be just a medical side effect though... here is a web site..not to scare you or anything,..but i have heard of many cases like this..or read about it.. yours i think could be because of the medication...best of luck to you.. I am curious to know what you find out....keep me posted.. Contact your doctor before you jump to conclusions after reading the website. link removed

I feel really vain talking about this, but...I have a few experiences of my own. I'm 23 and my looks began to change (for the better) around 18. At first the braces came of and the acne cleared of...so it was a long road..lol...I was constantly stared at and noticed not only by men..but women. The women either look at me with admiration or envy. This made it REALLY hard to meet friends. To this day I have maybe 2 REAL female friends. I have others in my life however who will go out with me to help them attract men or use me to go on a double dates with her, just so the guys SHE wants to go with will come along. When we do go out she gets upset whenever no guys approach her and demands to go home. I am now in a fairly serious relationship so i avoid going out with her. I find myself trying to dress down or look less attractive when I go out with others to avoid attention. My boyfriend is another story.( he is also an average looking guy) He is absolutely infatuated with the way I look, which is great,but assumes THAT everything on this planet wants to be with me! He hates the fact that I work with people all day and I want to travel. So whenever we go out he can't keep his hands off me so everyone knows I'm with him. Even though i have been with him for the past 2 years..men from my past will not seem to go away...and the stares and constant "pick up lines" where ever I go..has become very redundant... So i must agree..it is not easy being attractive...but there are some days i wouldn't trade it in for the world!! LoL

Well I have been thinking about my situation with my boyfriend for a while before I decided to come on here for advice. After speaking about this with him seriously..I have to decided to make it work to the best of my ability. I really love him and I am accepting everything that comes along with him. Its going to take some patience on both of our parts..but we are both serious about this, and I am willing to be very open minded..who knows what I may learn or gain from this! Thanks everyone!! i feel a million times better after really talking about this with him and from all of the support and advice from friends, family, and you guys!!

Ok Genisis...that was better...lol Thanks everyone..I feel alot better

Genisis. I did not post my situation so you could try an advertise you and your desperate friends. I have alot of history with my boyfrind and I have a lot of love for him, i just wanted to make sure I was making the right decision for him, i don't want to take this situation lighty..I want to make sure that if I decide to stay in this, that it for good..I recognize how amazing he is and lucky I am, even befor he converted. So keep your useless comments to your self! Thanks for the advice Mandy!! Something to think about.

Hi everyone, I am hoping that I can get some insight from someone on my situation. I 'm 23 and have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. I love him very much and we have established something very worth while. However over the past month he has decided to convert very seriously to Christianity. I grew up going to Catholic schools and going to a Catholic church through my school years. However I didn't grow up in a houshold that practised any religion at all. Meaning my parents never took me to church and I learned everything I know at school. As I got older I have not been going to church and my faith at times has been questionable. I believe in God and I pray..but I am not as consumed in it as my boyfriend now is. He grew up going to church and living in a fairly religious household. Which I was fine with, he actually brought a bit of faith into my life. He has changed tremendously since meeting and spending time with old friends of his who have converted to Christianity. He hasn't changed for the worse, but he preaches alot and makes me feel like I need to be "saved" as well. I don't want to feel the pressure to convert like him or join his group of friends,(all of his friends girlfriends have). We have had some very serious argument lately, and I have decided to take a break until I decide if I want to stay in this. He tells me that even if I never change my mind and become as into this as him he will love me regardless. Can this really work? Or will he feel he needs to be with someone more like him? I'm not ready to explore what he is so interested in..It kind of make my uncomfortable. Will I ever be ready..I don't want to stay and then realize I can't do it. Does anyone think this is possible? Can we make this work even though we are so differnt right now? I am willing to try and understand, but not until I get comfortable with this whole change he is going through..its like being in a new relationship. I would really appreciate some feed back.. Thank you.