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guys are not monogamous people, its in their nature to have sex with as many people as possible. i have been with my man for three yrs he has a very low sex drive, i told him ill have a threesome so were trying to find someone. he looks at porn and masturbates. he wont have sex with me very often, maybe hes cheating? how can a guy be with one person sexually for the rest of his life especially if he doesent want sex with me now? im not strong enough to have an open sexual relationship. its so hard to think that he wants othe people way more then me. what should i do?

i have been with my bf for three years, and well i used to spy on him and check his cell phone, which was at least a year ago. well he keeps bringing it up and saying some things i do make him hink about it. what am suppose to do? i mean he gets soo mad at me for things i couldnt even imagine him getting mad about, like i called him on my way home and said i love you and asked what he was doing and he flipped out. i mean i can understand that he though i was like trying to see what he was doing like he was doing somerhing he shouldnt but i think he overacts and nothing i do is good enough. please give me some advice!

ok my boyfriend and i keep getting into the same exact fight over and over again. ill give an example: he told me hes going to a christmas party for work late one night, and that bugs me, (even though it shouldnt) so i guess i got all quiet and wasent saying anything and he asked me what my deal was and i said nothing, i dont have a deal. he said your lieing to me, and i said no im not. then he said i know you and i know your lieing and that it bugs if that im going to this party, and the only reason i told you i was going was to see how you would react. so i said i was sorry for lieing, but i didint want to say anything becasue its so stupid, and there is no need to get into a fight about something that i need to deal with myself. the reason hes mad is becasue i lie about things like that. my feelings i guess, i lie about my feelings becasue what i feel is really stupid and there is no point in telling him. what should i do? he said that if this keeps happening then we cant be together. whats the deal? im confused!!!

i definetly feel better about my relationship after reading everything you guys have written. my bf recently broke up with me for me not tusting him even though we have been together for three years. hes never really sone anything to make menot trust him but im having such a hard time and i think its becasue im very insecure. we are together again but if i dont trust him and become independent then were through he says. i know he lkoves me so very much and we want to get married, hes the greatest guy in thr world he even threw me a surprise bday party. i just am having such a hard time especially when i get bored like now!! i just wanna call him, i woner if hes loking at porn or talking to other girls or with other girls. i dont know how to get these thoughts out of my head but i know i need too. thank you all

thankyou for the reply and you are right. Now i have another question, we are back together now but just changing things in our relationship. hes not a very sexual person he was when we first met but now hes not, but he does look at porn. u think theres anything wrong, or why is he not sexual toward me? should i be upset and ask him about looking at porn or is it not a big deal? thankyou again!

my br of three years recently broke up with me becasue hes sick of me not trusting him, he said that he wants nothing more then to be with me and spend the rest of his life with me but he cant becasue i dont trust him. he also said he wants me to become indenpendent and that we cant be together as one until we have been our own person. i understand all of this and am trying to show him i can do this. he says were just friends, and that he doesent want to be with anyone else and doesnt want to date other people. im so scared hes going to find someone else, do u think he means everything or do u think its a way for him to get out of the relationship without hurting me as much. i just saw him today and he acted so different around me like he doesent care. please any advice

thankyou for everyones input, whats really funny is we have decided to go on a break, but not becasue of the sex thing. i havew always had a hard time trusting him so he sick of it, he says hes still in love with me but doesent want me to be so dependent on him anymore, and when i show him im not dependent then we can be together and get married. what does everyone think about that?

sorry i meant to say- but i have asked him and he said that he just insent horny all the time anymore, and that sex isent that big of a deal. He's an 18 yr olg guy how is that possible???

the guy i have been with for three years was a virgin when i first met him. honestly i loved it, it was a great experience, i felt special that i was his first. and its true girls like guys who pay alot of attention to giving them what they want, so dont feel offended if she tells you what she wants and likes becasye then you will learn her sweet spots. as for guys who cum within the first five min, my bf can cum in 1min or 1 hr it just depends on the mood. if you gf cannot get off to having sex, internally, then she may like it if you dont take as long and get her off manually. or vice versa. hope it helps

i have been with my boyfriend for three years. he has only has sex with one other person besides me. in the beginnning as usual we had sex all the time but now he never wants to. hes never horny, never wants to do anything we go for months at a time without doing anything. im a very horny person so it bugs me very much. do u think hes cheating on me? gay? just not horny? bored? he talks about how he wants to marry me all the time, were very much in love. and im very fit and in shape im fairly attractive i think. i dont know what the problem is. please help.

it sounds as though she likes u, just as much as u like her. but obviously i think shes a little nervous about the whole thing. so instead of asking her out, talk to her, ask her what she thinks about having a relationship with you and if thats something she would like or if now is not the right time. most important, LISTEN!!!! trust me look into her eyes the entire time you talk to her, u can tell alot and she will respect you alot more. sorry if i sound demanding im a physcology major so i deal with this stuff all the time. honestly the worst thing that can happen is she says she doesent have time, if she says that then say "no problem i hope we can still hang out." if ahe has never been in a relationship it will be hard for her and u its nerve racking, just listen and dont take things too personally. hope it helps

to tell u the truth girls do what u are talking about to get attention. dont flatter yourself too much when u say u think she denied the other guy becasue of u its highly unlikely. although a girls not going to waste her time flirting unless she at least likes the guy as a friend or more. you are both young so maybe she doesent want a bf just guys to hang out with. ask her to the movies or to just hang out as friends first. girls are picky!! find out what she likes dislikes, and she did just break up with one guy so maybe she needs some time to herself. hope it helps alittle!!