dreamer3

I know how it feels to latch on to someone and to be latched on to. First let's talk it from his perspective. There is no point in him calling you or trying to do things with you if he knows that you just going to do it anyway. He's not going to go out of his way to call you if he knows your going to call him. I definitely thing that in the least melodramatic way possible that you should try to talk to him and find out what he wants from a relationship and what you want, because it might be two different things. If he's one of those guys that doesn't really want to talk or worry about anything serious, you can play his game, stop calling him for a couple of days, son't act mad or bothered just do your own thing, hang out with the girls, or be by yourself, she what he does and where his head's at. If he calls you and says: "I haven't spoken to you in a couple of days." Then tell him in the nicest, maybe even in a jokingly way that the phone works two ways. I'm not saying play games, but don't smother him, you'll lose him. Try to spend more time thinking about why you are dependent, what's going on with you, just a thought. Never let you schoolwork suffer as a result, do everything that you need to do for school if not for yourself or your future, for how much it's costing. Guys have feelings and they like expressing but they don't want to have to constantly remind you of who you are. I hope my advice helped you in someway, and if you don't like or agree with the things that I'm saying don't worry, I'm not a doctor, I don't know what I'm talking about, it's just my opinion. From my personal experiences, distance yourself from the guy a little bit, don't avoid him, see what he'll do. Good luck!!!!!

I've never been married, but I've been the cheater, the cheatee, the other woman all of that. No matter how much you care for the person, nothing feels better than when you know that the person is all about you an just you. I'm sure you heard the term what goes around comes around, it's definitely true, you will never understand what his wife feels until you feel it yourself, unfortunately for you. You are doing to right thing and you know it, leave him alone, and if you see him, despite what he says or does, still leave him alone. It's really not worth it. I can be totally wrong, but this man seems as if he's missing something in his married so he tried to find it in someone else, but he's not looking for someone else to marry. Then he admiitted to you that he's cheated before, this guy is good and no matter what his lines are, I don't think that you're the only one that heard them, you might have just been the one that made him calm down, because he got caught. Good luck in whatever you do, but you will save yourself a lot of stress is you just chalk this up to a bad experience and move on.

Unfortunately, and I'm sorry to any good guys reading this, but guys are jerks. He wanted a reaction out of you and that is why he said everything he said, I don't know the whole situation but he sounds like he just needed a little attention and your phone call made him feel better about himself. I know it's hard but don't stress yourself out over this guy. I hope that helps, if you don't agree I'm sorry.

It's up to you whether or not you're a virgin. Technically your virginity is lost whenever the hymen is broken, wheter it is by masturbation or by sex. But to most people you loose your virginity when you have sexual intercourse for the first time. So it all depends on what you want to be, technically, if you've penetrated yourself you aren't a virgin, but emotionally, you are. So to answer your question you are a virgin. And no, you can not get pregnant form orgasming or masturbation, the only way you can get pregnant is if a male ejaculates inside of you. Luck you though for making yourself orgasm because I'm not a virgin and I've had sex with guys and I've never orgasmed.

The only place for me to start is the beginning. Before you read this, I'm young, I know this, but I also know my feelings. I was with a young man for approx. three years. I'm not saying we had the greatest relationship, but we were best friends, at some point it started going downhill. It came to a point where I needed a little space, so I shared this with my boyfriend and he had a little trouble dealing with that. He didn't speak to me for a couple of months, he said it hurt too much. I took the time that I needed and got myself together, when I felt that I was okay to be in a relationship again I shared this with him. He was obviously still hurt, but he said that he still had feelings for me and wanted to try over. We did, and it was going okay for a while, he was still resentful, but I expected that. After almost three years, we decided to take our relationship to the next step...sex. A week after both of our first experiences I found out, through a overheard convo that he was involved in some sort of relationship for the past few months with, you guessed it my best-friend. Now, I'm no one's doormat, so leaving the situation wasn't the problem, but then two weeks later, a very close relative of his died, quite tragically, and he called me, he said he understood that I was mad, but that he needed me, that my former best friend, at this point, couldn't understand him. I was there for him, conversations, a hug, or just a ear if he needed it, but it was with the condition that once he got back on his feet that I was gone. The day came when he started going out again, talking to other people, and I noticed he was improving, so with the agreement we made I stopped talking to him. Since then I've been involved with someone else, I have feelings for this person, but to be honest their feelings are stronger than mine, I thought I was over my ex and the situation with me ex-friend, until I heard that they are still together. I haven't spoken to her about the situation, because I would punch her dead in her face, and I haven't spoken to him because I know he's already under a lot of stress, but I still feel that I need answers. I want to know why, I want to know if they even think about me and my feelings, or if they regret it at all, I want to know if they know that they hurt me. Even when the both f**ked up I still worry about their feelings more than my own. What is it that I want, do I want him back, do I want my friends back? I feel completely alone, not to mention that ALL my "friends" knew about the affair and no one informed me. I'm sad all the time, I stay at home, to avoid places that I know the two of them will be. I don't know I'm lost, and it's sad because the only people that I have to talk to or to trust are complete strangers. I can't talk to my current boyfriend, because he won't understand that this isn't about him, it's about closure. I can't talk to my friends, because I'm still resentful that they all knew, plus they act like nothing happened everytime I try to bring it up. I would talk to his mother and sister about everything, but I don't want to bad mouth her son and her brother. What should I do and what do I want? I know that this is a long problem to read, and to be honest this is just a summary of the past three years, if you feel that you need anymore information to answer my question please tell me. I just want something insightful, something that is realistice, or just someone to care about me for once instead of me caring about everybody else all the damn time. Thank you for reading this even if you don't respond, at least I feel that people are listening to me. P.S. there is a little over a month before I leave for college, that could factor into your response.