I just had this happen to me recently. Even when i got out of my relationship with my ex i was fixing to close all my doors to every men there was. Seriously, cuz i didnt even want to put up with anymore. I didnt even have plans to get involved and we clicked right off the bat. And I wasn't even looking into getting into it at all. And wasn't even in my plans at all. Nor, it was part of my plans or his. And now were best friends and taking baby steps for our friendship to develop on its own. I gotta say so far its been amazing for me. For him I dont know.