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Hey I have been talkin to this guy from my school for a few months and we have gotten pretty close. We talk on the interent everyday and we have chilled n stuff. Well last night me n my friend Loren met this kid John n then after he came back to my house, take it that we flirt alot n will joke around on the internet n stuff like ill be like im gettin in the shower n hes like aight ill be right over or just stuff bout kissin n stuff so ne ways he comes back to my house n I had wanted to kiss John about three times but I wasnt sure if he wanted me to or not so I didnt but then my friend went in my kitchen n he was right near me so I slowly leaned over n we kissed him, he tongued I didnt just cause I dunno im stupid like that lol n it was spur a the moment so I didnt think fast enough.But then after nothin happened. So after he left at like 430 in the morning he got home n I was online n stuff n I was like im sory bout this kissin thing n all but I figured hey its worth a try so I took a risk (kissing is no biggie really to me) n I wasnt sure if it was wanted or whatever. So John was like no its cool I didnt mind n all n hes like I was gonna make a move but I didnt kno if you wanted me to ( I dont know if he really wanted to or was just sayin it). So after I was like b4 I get to connected n i go over my boundries n stuff do u think there will ever be a you and me n he was like yea I do but just not yet cause I dont wanna rush n all n I wanna get back on my feet again cause he was just arrested for eggin a car with some friends, which I can understad I have no problem with that cause I dont wanna rush either, so I was liek aight I feel that same thats cool. So then I was like well was that a nice way a sayin no more of those unexpected kisses n hes like no thats not it those r cool. But the thing is his ex gf's friends hjate me n stuff n there all jealouys n stuff n told me not to talk to him but sorry I dont let ne one tell me what to do so I dunno if it will work out or what. SO my first question is do you think I should shot for a kiss again or maybe take it a step farther or let him make the first move? Then the second part is well if my parents knew he was arrested they would not be happy at all n prob not let me hang out with him but I look at it as he was havin fun he got caught it wasnt like he robbed a car so it dosent bother me but do you think I should just take the risk n follow my heart and just not tell my parents n hope they dont find out, or does it sound like John isidsnt really interested n he just didnt wanna make me look stupid by backin away? Help what to do what to do?

Hello, im just keepin you posted.. Mike just went hope so ill tell ya what happened... So were watchin a movie n we were RIGHT next to eah other n he had his shoulder on my head and when he would talk he would turn his head right towards mine and our mouths were like 3 cm away from one another. So we watched a movie and then didnt know what to do so we played sims on ps2 lol stupid i kno but hey suttin to do. so he was makin a house n he kept droppin all these signals liek we need a bed and who needs tv we have amusement with the bed n stuff. and when i kept gettin up n stuff he kept like tappin my ass. so i went to get up to get us suttin to drink so i came back n put the glasses down n he was layin accross on my futon so i went to like grab his shoulders n he put his hands round my waist n he was like yes n by then yea we were like mouth to mouth almost u might as well say but i back away n was liek damn susan lol like in other words urgh why do u have to have a girl. SO then went to bring him home and he grabbed my hand and he whole way home we were holding hands and he kept like rubbin my fingers and stuff. So im still lost at were I am in his mind...

SHe does not want anything to come between us because she is a B***h not to be mean but alot of people dont like her and she is very imature He had told me beofore that he definitly thought as me as more then a friend but I dont know where that exactly puts me maybe you have an idea of what place that puts me... I know it could lead to complications but I almost dont care only because I KNOW she dosent like him but maybe your right *Aimee*

Hey, I need help within the hour.. my friend mike is coming over to watcha a movie and I have been crushin on him for months.. he is my best friend but there is one little problem, he has a girl friend. But the catch is she is only going out with him because she dosent want anything to come between me and mike but everytime were together weer always huggie and holdie and its cute. But everytime were together its usualy in a group ot with one of our friends. But liek I said his gf does not like him anymore and she wants to dump him but wont because of me. I think this is a mean thing to do because if you dont like someone you dont do that to them. But anyways like I said were always snugglie and cuddlie and his arm round my shoulder and mine round his waist and stuff. But he is coming over just me and him in liek an hour to watcha movie or do whatever.... Do you think I should make the first move and kiss him? all my friends say I should and I have earned it and to stop always thinking of others befor me (which I have a tendency to do) I kinda want to because I do like him ALOT. I just dont know if I should, so im leaveing it up to you guys to tell me what to do... Thanks *Aimee*

Hey, I really think that you need to start to put your foot down. Yes your son is almost 16 but that does not change the fact that he lives under YOUR roof which means he follows your rules. My best frind who was like a sister to me my whole life and I had grown up with from the day I was born basicaly because our mothers have been friends since they were 6 went through the same thing except she was in your sons shoes. Her mother felt that she couldent stop her from going over her friend Justins house and wanna know what happened, she ended up moving in with her friend and his mother because her so called "friend and his mother brain washed her. You need to set your foot down becuase things will only get worse and for all that you know your son could get involved in drugs also, I dont think you want that. THis girl is obviously a bad influence. I am also 15 years old and im not a loser or anything I have lots of friends and lots of people wish they could be me im bringing that up to show that I understand how teens work and all the pressures of life and how influencial people can be, and even I can see that things are not headed in the right direction... If he says that he is going to this girls house tell him no, he cant and that he spends to much time with her. Take away phone prileges and internet privleges of his if you must. Tell him to hang out with other people and to get out and be a normal teenager. im trying to cut a long story short here but if you want to email me or im me my screen name is im2cute4u71188 or email me at email removed and will talk more in privite.. *Aimee* hope from what I have said is somewhat of a help

Hey everyone, this is kinda an update/continuation to my last post. But anyways one a my best friends Mike which I had said before I have fallen in love with, but he has a girl friend. His girl friend treats him like shit and well ill get to that latter but yea. Last night we had a stupid block party in my town and I went with my ma and my friend and after I called mike and was like why don't you come down and chill with us and so he did. Well me and Mike like the whole time that he was there had his arm around my shoulders and I had my arm around his waist and then after he was standing behind me and he had his arms round my shoulders/neck it was cute and he kinda like pushed his (thing) up against my butt and was like I woulda like to see ur face just then... From the info from my last post I basically got told just play hard to get and let him come to me which I did and the past few days he's been pretty close and stuff like that. But back to his gf thing. well about a month ago Mike went on a school trip to Virginia that only like 35 ppl went on, one bein his girl so yea I found out from one of his friends who im friends with that Mike told his girl susan then that he thought a me as more then a friend (which he had already told me) and his girl got mad at him for more then a day but she was planning on dumping him anyways cause she kept sayin it and how she was sick a him and stuff. SO then Susan got really clingy and this is because she told all her friends that she was only still goin out with him cause she didnt want ne thing to come between me and Mike, and that she was only still goin out with him for that reason. (me and his girl friend dont get along) so when I would talk to mike on the phone or school or internet what eva the case would be if suttin came up on that topic or whatever I would be like well im just gonna bite my toung and so mike one dayd was like if ur not gonna tell me then just don't say ur gona bite ur toung so I stopped saying that. SO then last night at the party I was like Mike the reason I dont tell u some stuff or say im gonna bite my toung is cause im not sure if u will believe me or think im lien and trying to cause trouble, and mike was like ur one a my best friends a course ill listen to you and believe you. SO I was like wel do you want me to tell you suttin and so I tld him bout the susan thing n how she is only goin out with him cause a me and he diodnt really say anything I think he didnt kno what to say and was kinda shocked that I had found out bout it so obviously I couldent be lien. But yea then he got all huggie and snugglie and stuff and I really do like hima nd we have alot of fun together and he is never that clingy and huggie and stuff, liek yea hill gimme a hug but never like hldin me like that and stuff. He does flirt with lotrs a girls but never liek this so im not sure if he was bein like friend huggie or just flirtin or like he wants suttin more from us and he is realixin that he wants suttin more of us. Everyone in school always is like you guys should go out and u look cute together and stuff. I hadent relaly talked to mike in like 2 weeks up until like 4 days ago then we got close again cause with finial exams and end of the year stuff it was hard. But his girl friend takes advantige of him and im sorry but thats wrong if you dont like someone dont go out with them out of spite... So can someone please help im a lil confused .... Thanks

Ok hun not to be mean but from your message you definitly sound like you still have some maturing to do. You have to understand that you are only going to be a freshman in high school and you have plenty of time to do the things in your mind (other ppl ur age do) I from past experience have done stupid shit but I give you credit that you didnt have sex yet save that its somethin u only wanna lose if your ready and you find a guy that is ment to be and isint just horny at the time so he can take advantige of you. Just play things cool for a whille and dont try and do things or ask to do things that yoiu know your parents would not aprove of, they will come around soon. Sit down with them and talk and let them know how your feeling. Somtimes you have to give a little to recive a little, compromize. It might come down to your alowed to go the movies with a guy if you go with friends but you have to be home by 9. Just give it time your yound and have plenty of time. Im a teenager to but I have learned the hard way and once I talked to my parents and compromized things were great, they love having me be friends with guys and my mom often will invite my guy friends over and if they call and she answers shill often talk to them on the phone. My relationship with my parents has definitly gotten stronger since I tookj the time and thought into how I should live my life compared to the way I thought I should live my life. I hope this helps and if u wanna talk more im or pm or email me and I definitly could give u some advicxe and past experience storys.

I have fallen in love with my best friend Mike who has a girl friend but he is only still going out with her becuase he thinks that she still likes him but in realality she dosent. His girl friend is only still going out with him because she found out that I like him and that he told her in these words "that he thinks of me as more then a friend". I am not sure exactly what that means, Mike told me that there is a transition time between friend and girl friend and that right now I am in the transition part. Me and my friend mike started to get really close and always talk on the phone and stuff all the time because his realationship was not working out with his Girl friend, but then he went on a school feild trip to Virginia that only like 30 people in my grade went on and one being his girl friend. THat was when his girl friend found out that I liked him and that Mike thought of me as more then a friend so she then became very clingy. Everyone knows she is only doing it out of spite, even her best friend told me this. As you can tell I dont exactly get along well with his girl friend especialy because of how she treats Mike. I dont want to get Mike mad at me and tell him all that I know because I dont want him to think im trying to cause trouble. Everyone says how cute me and mike look together and everyone says that we should go out. Mike means the world to me and I have fallen in love with him but im not sure what to do about it considering the circomstances. Me and mike get along very well and have alot in common. Since his girl frined got clingy me and Mike grew apart slightly. Mike knows that I like him because I told him straight out how I think of him and thats when he told me about the whole transition thing. HE also said that he definitly treats me different then other friends that are girls. Mike is my best friend and the one thing that makes me happy in life and that I dont want to lose. Can someone please give me advice on what I should do? [/b]