suram
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goodwaves im really sorry for hearing this, its really messed up, posting here does help... from my part ive ben through that not as intense though .... i think she backed off from the pressure, lets say her parents and friends are the biggest influence ever... FIRST I WOULD ASK WHY AGAINST YOU? WHAT IS THE CAUSE? and then i would say no matter what love cant influence you ever she would not listen believe me.... i think you should just text her and ask for a reason if she still doesnt reply then maintain NC for awhile i did that and eventually got my answer.... SECOND .... SHE could be hiding some form of guilt that she has done to you and hiding it not knowin how to come clean maybe she is thinking of telling you that she messed up.... i would like to know if u ever messed up? cause she could be holding a grudge on that? keep posting here it will help we are here for you buddy!!!
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ok buddy.... she is def provoking you to talk to her ... her attempt to to pursue giult on you is an act of defense against rejection... she feels pressure because you are not there .... give it more time and eventually breAk it to her with a breeze that you cannot be played with.. explain to her that you cannot be friends and if she wants you to respect her decision of being apart then she has to respect yours ... the good thing here is that she thinks you don care she is starting to believe that you really wont talk to her ... at first she thought she had you and you could not possibly... dont let the guilt do that to you if anything sh should feel guilty... let her know how serious you are about nc... BUT NOT JUST YET... BE PATIENT WAIT MORE ....
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ok but you claim you love her .... so then prove it for starters give her space to think ... you should not be ok with it it doesnt matter if she said ..... you should stop confusing her ... if you love someone you could not see them suffer and right now she is suffering from confusian so cure her by giving her (time ,space, )and plus its for the sake of both of you eventually it tends to be positive... " a wound is healed when left alone not when picking on the scabs it only tends to scar "
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dude please stop questioning us because apparently you don seem to respect her ok for starters you are on her page posting comments ..... if you really love her let her be she needs time to think you are abusing her space and thats really selfish of you .... lets assume you do regret and you do love her if thats so then give her the time and space to develop... you are only messing her mind....
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blender you put the words out of my mouth GREAT ADVICE!!! NO CONTACT DONT PICK UP.... she is thinking about you and it the call was not by mistake ..... make her feel really guilty and she will .... right now you are thinking what if and so on .... NO she callled to check up on you but deep inside she missed your voice and misses having you around .... She will burn down 6 weeks is still raw you have t be patient but it looks like she will break ... REMEMBER SHE MADE THE MOVE AND NOT YOU!!! THE BALL IS IN YOUR COURT NOW BECAUSE YOU KNOW SHE IS THINKING OF YOU BUT SHE DOESNT KNOW YOU ARE THINKING OF HER..... KEEP IT UP GOOD JOB.... NO CONTACT....
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SuperDave, I made all the mistakes, I need some guidance
suram replied to goodwaves's topic in Getting Back Together
okay buddy.... 1) read your message one more time and think about what you have said .... 2)definetly dont break nc, you are just looking for an excuse to talk to her.. 3)the way you are thinking about her she is thinking about you let it be known even if she begins dating others she would compare them (6 years). 4) she knows you have not forgotten about her but that is the PROBLEM!!! WE want her to know that you have forgotten her... NC stick to it it is for you to heal ... 5)about parents and all - it doesnt matter when 2 ppl love each other so much parents would not be an issue believe that.... 6) you say you believe in god well then you would know he wants the best for you... 5/6 times breaking up probably are signs from him telling you she is not the one.... 7)give yourself time to heal don break it by time you will see everything and sooner or later you would know whats best for yourself ... 8)you said unexpectedly she would come back right!!! thats because you have maintained nc in the past and healed in order to see that outcome so thereforeeee nc again is preferrable 9)don pressure yourself into thinking mode ... keep busy you will see you will tend to forget her.... im not superdave i do agree he is great!!! i hope i helped in anyway ... Goodluck out there we are with you if you need us... keep us posted. -
then be patient and not selfish!!! if he sees your value to its greatest potential he would not want to lose you... at the moment be there if he decides to abuse it fall back and you will see he would wish you were in his life......
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good job !! give yourself the space ...i personally think you shouldnt have been to open with him ..... but since its done you can relax and get yourself straight ..... keep us posted good job seriously make sure you maintain nc it will really help you!!!
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she misses me thats what she says and because we are in the same country
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ya i did !!! she says she wants to be alone she wants to be single!!!
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the biggest one actually respecting your decision..... understanding you thats what love is about... and then the risk of losing you would allow him to do alot of actions
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I HAVE 1 QUESTION? why would you want to leave such a sweet person if you love them? and i think you need to really appreciate what shes worth leaving her for someone does not imply you love her buddy!! it more like defines the opposite ...
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exactly!! that whi you should maintain nc at the moment .... if he loves you let him prove it and not by WORDS!!!
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b4 going nc (if you chose to) be honest about all with joey!!
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no more im worried when he is with you he wouldnt want anymore you know!!!!