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thanks for all the replies... umm she split up with me about 6 months ago. i have known my housemate for about a year and a half.. i have relied on him, during the last 6 months, and gone through everything i was/am feeling about my ex.. i dont know why he kept it a secret.? thougth. And i do appreciate that its none of my business, and my ex can / does talk to my / mutual friends... i just feel like a bit warry as the one person i was really talking to, is in contact with my ex, i dont want my ex knowing what im up to, who im seeing ect.. ect.. thanks

Hi. Me and my ex were together for four years, we split up 6 months ago.... anyhows i was looking at flights on the internet yesterday with my house mate, and she contacted him through MSN messenger.... I feel betrayed by my house mate, as he was the one there for me the last 6 months... he told me that they have been talkin via MSN... but had an agreement not to ask about anything about me.. She was pushing my housemate for information about me, what i am up to, whos the girl im seeing naw.. etc.. etc.. my housmate told me, that he wouldn't tell her anything about me. i naw feel like i cant trust my house mate either, knowing that he has contact with her. Sorry if it doesnt make sense... What should i do..? Ev's

Hey thanks for the reply... Umm reasons why we broke up She wanted to be 'young and reckless' (her words) for a while... we were pritty young when we got together she was 16 i was 18....! she was about to go back to university (2nd year) Thanks

Hey... My ex dumped me 5 months ago, we were together for four years.... here goes, i stopped contact with my ex 3/4 months ago, she sent me a few txts, over the last few months, ive ignored them... Anyway last week, i got a email of her, asking why i ignored her when i seen her at christmas..... i MSN'd her asking isn'y it obvious, because were ex's.... etc... etc... we I M for about 1 hour, verging on a argument on MSN.... i told her this is why we dont talk 2 1 another..... She says that she missis talking to me and she still cares for me etc.... She sent this reply, when i told her that she really hurt me.... "u seem to think that i was/am fine and it didnt affetct me at all" We are both now seeing new people.... why does she want to be friends with me.... I told her to leave the past in the past..! I just can trust her after what she did to me....! Does she wanna be friends, or is there somthing else..? Thanks Ev's

i Have no interest in her... she broke me and left me realing, i dont think she will ever realize what she did to me... thats why i dont want to speak/see her...!

Wow 5 months have past since my EX girlfriend dumped me...!! heres a update on my story, my Ex finished with me after 4 years, 5 months ago, i went down th route of trying to get back with her for a month, anway i aint spoke to her for about 3 1/2 months.... BUT she still tries making contact with me, she sent a christmas card to me, and a personal txt message on new years eve, i have seen her a few times but avoided her.. Anyway this morning, i signed on MSN (aint signed on for months) and i get a message, 'Why are'nt you talking to me' of the Ex.... I just ignored the message, an thinking why do you think.... Why does she wanna speak to me, and knowing full well that im seeing someone new... (so is she)

Hey thanks for the quick replies.. Umm reasons for breakup were, She didnt love me the same anymore..! shes in university and wanted 'young and reckless' ! and didn't want to be in a serious relationship. after we broke up she relly confused me said that she would see us getting married / kids sumtime in the future, im not willing to wait for something that may never happen, so i left my broken heart, picked myself up and trying to move on.

Hey all... Bit of backround, my g/f dumped me on the 29 august, after a 4 year relationship, i tried doing the 'lets be friends' thing for a bit... any way i couldn't do it so i told her that i didn't want to hear/see/speak to her, until my feelings towards her had gone this was on the 29 october.. Since then i have met this new gal and were gettin on really really well, have a lot in common, and really enjoy spending time with her, it also had taken my mind of my ex.. BUT lately i cant seem to get my ex out of my head, she lives a few doors down from me (when she is back from university) i know when she is home, which is every couple of weeks...! she came to my house the other weekend (i wasn't there) she was trying find out, what im up to ? who im seeing ? etc.. etc.. i still think i have really strong feelings towards her.. what should i do..? does she have feelings for me..? im so CONFUSED... Since breaking up my body hasn't been right, i seem to have lost my sex drive, is this normal after a breakup... im only 22.. im worried because the new gal im seeing will start to get frustrated and move on..! I seem to have a mental block about my ex (sounds mad, but it still feels like im cheating on her) ive only ever been in one relationship.. Please give me some advice Ta Ev's

Dude this is too weird, im in the exact same boat... (see my posts) Me and my ex were together for 4 years... Her 21st Birthday is November 26th, i bought her a prezzie (necklace) 2 months ago with the intention of giving it to her.. after reading your replies that you have received, i will leave the prezzie in the box and forget about it... I tried getting back with her for 2 months, talking/emailin/txtn/meeting up etc.. but it came to a point a few weeks ago when i realised that, she didn't want to get back with me.. So i told her not to contact me an i will not contact her, this was on the 29th oct.. since i feel great, i cant talk about her because i dont know whats she up to.. I even went out on a blind date last night, it was really really good.. Makes you realise that there are many cool and different people out there.. Good luck Dude Ev's

Backround- Girlfriend of 4 years, finished with me a week before starting her second year at university. she said that she needs to "young and reckless". i have carried out a month of NC, she contacted me through txt and email, i responded (does this count as NC on my side ?) i rang her up and asked if i could see her one weekend, she said that it wasnt a good idea, so i left it, a few days later she rang me, and told me that i could go down the following weekend. the weekend arrived, i stayed positive we went out and done fun 'coupley' things, went drinking with her uni friends, went to the zoo, bowling, dinners, shopping, i was there all weekend. we slept in the same bed, that it apart from couching. She told me the one day that she thinks she still loves me and would want to fullfill out future plans together marrage, kids. but not at the moment, she told me that she wants to be single. this week she is back from uni, we met last night at the pub we talked for hours, stayed positive and veared away from any past talk, she is now meeting me again tonight. My question is does there sound like there is any hope for me, am i moving the right direction. my ex girlfriend is very stubborn, and she told me that it was such a big decision for her to make, she doesnt know if she can go back. advice needed please Thanks *************UPDATE************* She didnt meet me on the friday night, she said that i didnt come accross very keen, she caught me on the back foot, i found out that she went out with a lad from her work. I then seen her on the saturday she came to me, i asked her if she had a good night then i found out she went for a curry with him, i suddenly got 'defensive' as me and her used to go for currys most weekends. (i felt as if i was being replaced) i questioned her and she said that they were just mates. that night i was stressed out, back to my body being knackered, no sleep couldnt eat, like ive gone back 2 months from when we initially split up. I deceided yesterday that we could use another break as it was destroying me and her. we talked it got quite heated, she called my selfish and told me that i had a trust problem. i was really upset by this point, i told her that i would leave her alone for a couple of months. it felt like i was being tested now, to see how i would react, i think i may have wrecked all hopes of resolving the issues between us. I still want to get back with her any hope ? i may have wrecked all my chances, as things were going so well.

Backround- Girlfriend of 4 years, finished with me a week before starting her second year at university. she said that she needs to "young and reckless". i have carried out a month of NC, she contacted me through txt and email, i responded (does this count as NC on my side ?) i rang her up and asked if i could see her one weekend, she said that it wasnt a good idea, so i left it, a few days later she rang me, and told me that i could go down the following weekend. the weekend arrived, i stayed positive we went out and done fun 'coupley' things, went drinking with her uni friends, went to the zoo, bowling, dinners, shopping, i was there all weekend. we slept in the same bed, that it apart from couching. She told me the one day that she thinks she still loves me and would want to fullfill out future plans together marrage, kids. but not at the moment, she told me that she wants to be single. this week she is back from uni, we met last night at the pub we talked for hours, stayed positive and veared away from any past talk, she is now meeting me again tonight. during the month of NC, i feel that i have realised my mistakes in our relationship and would be a stronger couple if we got back together, i feel completely different within myself and have got a different outlook on life. Im starting to feel more confident with myself and i think it shows. My question is does there sound like there is any hope for me, am i moving the right direction. my ex girlfriend is very stubborn, and she told me that it was such a big decision for her to make, she doesnt know if she can go back. advice needed please Thanks