leicsbimale

hi, i am 53, married and bisexual, and have a wife that has no problems with this although i can't bring boyfriends home at all. i go with quite a few guys that are also married or in a hetero relationship and they find this quite unusual, so are there other guys out there like me who have a wife who doesn't mind them having sex with other men/boys? she has always said that she would not be happy with me having affairs with women, but with men she doesn't feel threatened. she does not join in, although she does like to watch bisexual (and some gay) dvds with me, and will happily give me oral, or a hand job, when we are watching. we live in leicester, UK, where there is a big asian population. As I like asian boys, and find them nearly all to be bisexual (it is the same in india and pakistan where i have sometimes visited) so i am rarely short of a new partner. john

nearly all people are potentially bisexual given the right situation. for example, if you both had a night in, with some alcohol involved (inhibitions lessened) and maybe had a bit of dvd porn or something with maybe some "bi" involvement, that could be an opportunity to find out. you could say something like: "oh, i didn't know that kind of stuff was on the dvd, but i wonder what it would be like to suck another guy?" you could then probably get a good idea from his reaction to it. worth a try anyway.

my advice is don't come out to her. mothers have an image of their dear little offspring, and it can hurt them quite deeply if they don't turn out to measure up to what they think you are, show off to their friends etc, harsh, but fact of life. only do so if there is no alternative. i told my wife i was bi, but only when she asked me straight out and i did not want to lie to her. we get on fine with the situation, but deep down she would have preferred not to have known.

there is no possible way to tell. my wife would have no idea i was bi unless i had not told her. i am straight looking, acting, and like girls. i have been married twice, and have three children, but i do also like bi sex. no-one knows apart from my wife, and only because i chose to tell her. mind you, like most women, she had her suspicions.

i think with guys it is different. i am married, and so is the guy i have sex with from time to time, but there is no pretending. so if this girl is coming onto you, and then not,

hey don't worry. i finally told my wife i liked sex with guys, and we talked it through, and now it is okay. much better than her not knowing. if she loves you it will work out fine

how old are you?it is relevant