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the name is Ken ANYONE can be an Alpha personality I'm like a real life MacGyver,hence the name, except I don't do espionage lol

Yes you can but you need to take the 1st steps or buy me a plane ticket, $200 a day for expenses and I'll come over and show you how it's done. Comfortable and at your own pace is where you have been all your life and you wouldn't be asking advice about it if you like it! The assignment is for you to go out and just talk to women and you will fail miserably at first so you really don't need to prepare anything to hear the initial "no" because that is exactly what they will say. The plus side is that you may even hear yes sooner than you think. Did you ride a bicycle perfectly the first time? No, you fell on your face, we all did.

Slowly? no, speed it up and start now no matter what!!! Go out for a , listen to some and find some to \\ with.

Alpha male or female = most desireable type or leader of the pack, type A personality. Being extroverted and outgoing are the key things and can talk to anyone or be in the spotlight w/o hesitation. i.e. gang leader, movie stars, wealthy, genius types, dancers, the football/basketball/soccer player types, prom queen/king, cheerleader, gymnastics etc. etc.. I am Alpha male and yes, quite a lot.

You missed the point AGAIN lol 20%+ is fine, 30-40% is really good 70%+ and you were the school mascot or Prom Queen/Cheerleader or a stud banging everyone in sight..... Social status? You were NOT a loner or social outcast in school and you did associate w/ a diverse group of people. You will succeed in this more than most people.

Actually, You listen to your "gut" from past experience, but since "you" have no experience in this area and as such "your" gut is talking about a fantasy you want! Your brain plays "tricks" on you until the experience is there to guide it. Did you ever hear this expression? "A Doctor who heals himself has a fool for patient!" ............ 1 Only Alpha males get hit on by the girls, you need to be more of an Alpha male. Don't expect women to come to you until you have something they want. Really? I hope so, that'd actually explain a lot of things. I think I'll make a topic on this. .............. Yes, really!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And we all know it and thats why you have received so many responses about finding interestes to attract women. Think like a woman for a bit, what do you offer her? She also has no clue what the answers are to these because YOU haven't spotlighted anything to anyone because you won't talk to anyone yet. Good in bed? Nice guy? tons of them. Great cook? Expensive car to flaunt your income? 2+ Degrees and a high IQ? Movie star? Athlete? Explorer or innovative science leader? Artist? Craftsman? etc etc. There is one sure thing she does think about you and it's that you could be like the last 10 scumbag/date raping/low lifes she has dated.

HEY!!! watch the Geek slams! I was a Geek, probably still am to an extent..... If you fit in with/talked with at least 40-50% of the people? that's more proof that there's nothing wrong with your social skills or looks. Class acceptance and social order is awful at times when you're in school.

1 Only Alpha males get hit on by the girls, you need to be more of an Alpha male. Don't expect women to come to you until you have something they want. 2 Gut?? it's your worst enemy. It won't turn out good until you decide to set yourself up to actually talk to a girl, get rejected, learn then keep trying. You will not make out on every attempt, nobody does. We learn to shrug it off when it happens. 3 Guess what, you need to learn how to be bold and walk up to women 1st. Pick girls you aren't really interested in so you won't care about the outcome and keep practicing while working your way up to what you really want in a woman after the confidence building you got from the others.

No, attraction is not universal, it is cultural, especially for men trying to meet women. Women can cross culture easily if they're good looking and dress well, Guys really can't. Women usually want a guy with money and/or power, it's in their genes and is sad but true. You never see a poor ugly woman with a rich guy but you will always see hot looking "poor" women with those same rich men. If you you were the leader of the local gang/clique etc., you would have any of the girls you want but you're not even in the running as far as the status for your area is. You would need to take on or fight the Alpha male to get the girls to really notice you and that wouldn't be a very wise idea unless you take a lot of martial arts classes. Bingo = If you don't "fit in" with the crowd, then no, you're fighting a losing battle in that area. Find people in another area who are more like you to do things with. You need your own Alpha male gimmick/style etc. to lure them to you. Let's face it, what girl is going to leave dating a higher ranking gang type person for an avg. person? Are you in a skilled labor/craftsmen job? Office Exec.? and making a lot of money? No? Then you need "something to set you apart" from everyone else. This is why people take up/are good at hobbies, dance, flying, racing, sports etc., common interests are ways to meet like minded people and we've been telling you this for a reason, you need something to offer them that they will notice. The successful guys all have something that the women want to brag about to their friends (no, it doesn't have to be money) and they will chase you if you have what they want. There is a movie called "Just one of the Guys" (10-15+ yrs old) watch it a few times, it will sink in. It's about social acceptance from a girl's point of view who is dressing like a guy for a newspaper story, learns how guys get picked on and see's the other point of view. If I walk into a new club where nobody knows me I'm just another guy. But, If I spot a girl who looks like she can dance like me and ask her to dance it instantly changes how other girls see me and that now sets me apart from the other guys, then both sexes are usually asking " * * * kind of dancing was that"? Dancing was just another skill I added to what I can do. I HAD 2 left feet and never really danced before but I learned 3 types of swing dance in 1.5 yrs. and am still taking lessons for advanced moves. It will take most people around 1-3 months to get the basics and 6 months to be decent at any type of dance. Experienced dancers are always eager to help new people because it's a "community" of dancers sharing the same interests. Normally everyone dances at the same time, this is a swing jam circle, basically a time to have fun and show off a bit one couple at a time. link removed tons of other swing dance clips here, link removed

They also seem to get jealous when you start dating someone like you're the standby and now oops, they may lose you. It doesn't happen often but it does happen.

I have a 1 date cancel rule in the 1st 3-4 dates unless it's school work or actual job work. But if she doesn't reschedule, she's history.

1, are the pics current and of you? We're all judging those pics because you said they areof you. The answers could be different if they do not look like you. 2, I never made fun of you but reasoning hasn't worked so far so "toughlove" is what you're getting now. think, Good cop/Bad cop 3, you're not alone, we all have that problem to one extent or another. someone else posted "desensitize" and you need to understand that you will not be accepted by everyone. Deal with the people who accept you for what you are and the interests that you have and can share. I'm not familiar w/ how everyday life is over there so; What type of neighborhood do you live in? low/middle/upper class? type of people around you? Friendly/stuckup/quiet? the Girls go for what type? the Guys are brutal or reasonable?

Ross, re-read this advice over and over while looking in a mirror many many times every day. Feel it happen as you continue doing it. Then this part, You're looking from a male standpoint!!! This is why I go clothes shopping w/ female friends, it's a whole new ballgame w/ them picking out stuff for me and that's what women like. Then you may get, "are you gay"? no!! I'm not gay!! "well you dress very well for a straight guy" The women will make the decision as to what you look like and what you are projecting to them. It doesn't matter what you look like to yourself if you're neat and clean and you already said you dress w/ some style if not a lot of style by the brands you named in the other post. Hmm, Why am I thinking he's probably going to end up writing a book in a yr. or so to help others, then get on the talk show circut, maybe even a movie and will probably start dating Angelina Jolie then dump her for Denise Richards....

Toastmasters + Dancing and POOF, you will have enough confidence to let someone else borrow some!! BTW, the Lol@MacGyver statement is a giant leap into confidence for you, keep it up. Don't ever be intimidated by anyone, including me. O

1, you answered your own question. 2, everyone has told you that in how many threads now? and you don't listen. 3, 52, don't push it and you created the problem. The only piss, is what you want to happen. You're 30 and need someone to tell you you're ok enough looking? We all know your ready but you won't accept it. Time to stop w/ the oh poor me scenarios you're using for excuses, put the textbooks down and go out into reality no matter what it brings. You will get shut down but you need to keep trying, it's not like the first girl you meet is going to marry you on the spot. You will go through many relationships before that happens. We all did.

Hmm, a new reality show maybe? "Ross needs a date but he's too shy to leave the house." The camera slowly pulls back from his face to reveal 100's of women trying to break into his home. Interviewer asks; Ross, they want you what's the problem Ross replies; I need to ask everyone how to talk to them 1st. Interviewer; Well, it seems like they're pretty willing Ross; Well, I want to make sure Interviewer; Son, It looks pretty sure to me, 1/2 of them are throwing undies at you Ross; Well, I start SA therapy in a few weeks, maybe after that.....

I suppose SA is a good excuse, and it is just that, an EXCUSE to stay inside. you actually have "fear of women" syndrome..... Ever do something for the 1st time??? Talking to women is the same, practice makes perfect. Go out and talk/play/bed? some girls tonight!! I don't want to hear anything else until your ready for advice on condoms.....

Photos are a generalization, everyone knows that, but you are not looks impaired so don't use that excuse unless you weigh 400 lbs?? You could have at least a PhD in dating by now with all this advice and all the other threads if you get off your backside and go into the real world. Rejection will happen, then you will find smeone, it's not etched in stone that you will make out 1st, 2nd, 3rd etc time but it will happen eventually . Even I don't score all the time but I still keep trying. (Yes, even the love god can strike out) FYI, I'm 52 yrs old, my pic is recent and I have women from mid 20's to 70 chasing me. I'm even dating a DOCTOR who makes 5+ x's more income than I do! Why? because I got off my backside a long time ago and went out and did something about it.

You love to argue, but it's always with yourself. Are you disenfranchised from reality? these are from that post.... ......... from Ta ree saw/33 F Yep - I think it totally depends on the person. Personally Ross - If I had a connection with you on-line and then saw THAT avatar - I would be more than willing to meet up with you. ........... RayKay/26 Man Ross, you really beat yourself up, don't you! To be honest, you look like someone I dated a long time ago for a while, he was your age then too! ............ maggie18 Those pictures aren't ugly at all. I'm sure some girls would say otherwise, but some girls might think you are a stud. ............ alteer I agree with iceberg on this Ross. You are not ugly!!!!!!!! I have read a few of your posts and I think you are way too hard on yourself.

It's pretty obvious that she won't answer. Blaming everyone else "is" much easier than trying to actually help yourself. "What i need is people with good character." Ask yourself if you have have enough actual good character to attract that in other people? Not your perception of character, but what others think of it or it's a one sided opinion. "I don't care about the grammar or sentence structure." Most people at least try their best unless maybe severe depression is causing it? "I need people who are supportive and don't judge." Using need vs. want is a cry for help but you don't want anyone judging you. That could be from your past friends telling you what you should do and of course it's always them that are wrong. "I wish i can live on an island with a sailorman." So that is what you want? living in a "fantasy world" rather than reality?? "I think i'm allergic to people" No, you just seem to shun people who try to help. Try to open up a "bit" and listen a "lot". "Has any single girls gone to a Sex or S&M club"? Yikes! where did this come from??? Gang bang for social acceptance time?

Women are attracted to all sorts of different things. IQ and/or Univ. degrees profession you're in how your backside looks muscles/body humor/nuttiness sports dancers cyclists motorcycle/bikers (talk about ugly??) sports/SUV/luxury cars MONEY the size of your wiener (john thomas) character dressing style That's a partial list, are you getting it yet? There is no set answer.....

I concentrate only on my partner, listeniing to moans, sighs, coo'ing etc. for what gets the most response and feelng the body shifts and how to make it better for them.

It really depends on your age. 30 partners and you're 25 yrs old? that would avg. to more than 3+ per yr., 30 and you're in your 50's? that's less than 1 per yr Which would be safer? The less experienced the person, the greater the risk since they usually don't understand symptoms or won't get checked out for STD's due to the "I'm low risk, It can't happen to me" mentality. These are the higher risk people according to the many Dr's and RN's in my circle of friends.

Now wait a minute, do you really want him to flirt w/ older ladies??? They always say yes to younger guys and don't know when to stop!!! Are you trying to kill this poor kid his first time out????