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I was just wondering. Me and my ex g/f recently broke it off once again. Make that 4 times in just under 2 years. The thing is we always went back to each other. Is it really possible for two people to break-up so many times, but yet still love the other person so much that they would spend the rest of their lives with each other? I mean, how many times is too many? It reminds me of THE NOTEBOOK, the only time they get along is when they're fighting and then they ended up dying together. I still may have hope, but definitely moving on for now.

Please, I need some advice, I'm hurting really bad about the situation.

Hi guys, I'm so hurt right now. Me and my g/f of about 2 years broke up. Everything was going good. We always had the occasional arguments but everything was good. I hate it though, Friday I took her to lunch and everything was perfect. We get along so good and tell each other we loved each other uncontrollably. Anyways, she goes to work and then comes home and we have a conversation. She mentioned she just talked to one of her friends. Let me remind you though, everytime she talks to this one specific girl everything goes to hell. She started talking about losing feelings and trust and everything. I hate this, we are now broken up. I believe it's because her damn friend who for some reason has always had some control over her. At some points in the relationship, I felt like I was dating her friend. I can never understand though, my g/f would always talk bad about her but and vice versa but for some reason this "devil girl" controlled my girl. My g/f always knew I didn't like her either but she insisted. We had it all, true love and everything. We had done everything in the book and we still have this connection. When the breaking up was happening we were still kissing each other and hugging and everything before I let her go. Is there hope guys. She's still kind of ignoring me. You can't break up and still be kissing each other. I know she still loves me but why does she do this.

Alright, she wants to give me back the gifts I bought her but I don't want to give her the gifts she bought me. I gave her some jewelry and, well, you know all the other little gifts one receives during a relationship. I don't want it back. What am I gonna do with a ring, necklace, and a bunch of other stuff? Oh yea, give it to my next girlfriend . Should I just tell her to keep it? Do you guys give gifts back?

First of all, they are not your friends if they tell you not to deal with him. They aren't showing either you or your boyfriend respect.

I like it. My ex even liked after I would go down on her, she thought it was sexy. But when it came to kissing after she was giving me oral, I was kind of weary but I did it anyway.

Hahahaha, I should buy a Rangers shirt. Hey guys, one of my friends is a girl that I wouldn't mind taken to the game. Would that be a bad move on my part, there's nothing between us; we are mutual friends. I'm just thinkin my so-called ex will be completely jealous but hey, it may make her realize that I'm not a Burger King so she can have it her way. Thanks.

Thanks guys, I think I'll just take one of my best friends. We would probably have a hell of better time than me going with her. Plus, my friends are easier to get along with, i get the feeling they have more respect for me than she does. I'm tired of giving her all the respect and nothing in return, I'm seriously moving on if nothing changes. Man, you guys seriously opened my eyes more than I could have imagined. Thanks so much. Not to be a jerk or anything, now I don't have to spend all that extra money on drinks and memorabilia stuff. I am just trying to look on the bright side NO MORE I LOVE YOUS, NO MORE FLIRTING, when she tries to brush up against me or do be affectionate in some way i will start backing off. Thanks for all the help, I was just to head-over-heels and my mind was only on one thing - her.

I know guys, but it's so hard. I've always been known for my Macho Ego but when it comes to love, I freaking melt at the sight of her. She contacts me and I contact her and I still love it. I just know realized I am being played a fool for her benefits. Should I put more of my Macho Ego beer-guzzling attitude into play here and ignore the way she's treating me. I guess she thinks she has me wrapped around her fingers and she feels she can go out and do anything she wants. We're going to the Astro's game Thursday night, any suggestions on how I should act around her to show her that I'm not gonna be played a fool anymore. I really need advice, even though she continually says we're broken up, I am still in love (i get the feeling she is to), but I want her to know that I won't take anymore of this crap.

So me and my girlfriend of over one and a half years broke up last Thursday. She wanted space, I needed it to, so we decided to break up. I am very optimistic about our future and think we will work things out, but for now I'm not sure. She says she doesn't have any trust in me anymore because I tend to lie about pity things, but nothing to over-the-top. After we broke up, she went and hung out with her friends, we talked a few times while she was with them but she was treating me like crap. As Sunday rolled around she was nice to me again, even though we are broken up. We spent nearly all Sunday together and I even ate lunch with her and her parents. We came to the conclusion that we are getting along better now than in the relationship, but she continually is bitter towards me and tries to make the situation worse. Monday, yesterday, we decided to hang out and she wanted me to go shopping with each other. Here's the thing, we still flirt, occasionally kiss, say our "I love you's" but she continually says, "You know we're not going out still." She also tells me that it's gonna take a lot of time before we get back together, thats if we get back together she says. Should I play her mind game, I don't know what she's doing. She'll try and say something like, "Well, now that I'm single I'm gonna go out with my guy friends and stuff," or something of that nature. Is there a possible future for us, hell we are going to see the Houston Astros play Thursday night together. She told me if I didn't get the same Astros shirt as her, she wasn't going. Is this childish or what. It's getting out of hand, we want space but then again we want to hang out together. I don't mind it though because she is the love of my life and I am willing to wait for her as long as it takes now. This past week has been crazy with finals and everything to. Any suggestions on why her attitude is like this.

I never thought of that, she doesn't seem like the one to throw a frying pan, but it's possible. The thing is that it happened rarely, 3 times in 1.5 years. We were working on a break right now because we both need space, and "if" in the near future we get back together, how could I stop this from happening again (even if she does it only one more time by the time I die). I respect her so much, I only want the best for her... but I don't want to say, "Go see a professional." She would be upset if I told her that. How would I go about solving it if I we were to pursue each other again. We still love each other and want to get back together, but not anytime soon for either of us.

I know, but what if it was her only way of expressing her anger? Sorry, I don't know much about abuse or how serious it really is. Maybe a psychologist would understand why she did that. Do you think it means she hated me and just was afraid to tell me?

Well, what if I was the one to push her overboard by saying something harmful or demeaning? Then would she have a reason to do this? I know people say harmful things, but I'm sure it doesn't have to turn out like this sometimes.

I didn't really think of it as a big issue until now. We've actually been broken up for 4 days. Whenever we would get into a major argument she would continually slap me or even punch, keeping in mind I never laid a finger on her. She is the nicest girl anyone has ever known so I was wondering why such a sweet and innocent girl would flip out the way she does sometimes. This didn't happen all the time, it only actually happened about three times but what made her want to use full force when hitting me. She always said she felt bad afterwards or she didn't mean it. I shrugged it off but now I'm beginning to think it was something more. Any comments would be great

Update from previous post. Ok, here it goes, today she keeps texting me but she doesn't want to be with me. She's acting like nothings wrong with us because she tells me she still wants to be with me. When I tell her how I feel, she shrugs it off. I'm going into NC mode tonight. I noticed when I wouldn't answer her call or messages, she gets real frustrated. Also, I told her I was hanging out with the guys, she got a little jealous and told me sarcasticly that it was ok. She wanted me to wait, we both needed space (mutual), she broke it off, so why does she not give me my space now. I know its a two way street, but she made this happen. Anybody know why she is acting like this, is it because she wants be back already (come on; 3 days) but doesn't want to tell me.