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Hi every one wanted to post this out here and see what you think. I only have one person in my life from the past was a 8 year LTR and has been over 3 years now and now dateing a few here and there I can say now very hard to see things the same way I did. I know you can't replace what you had from the past but no one seems to be on the same line I am with I start seeing them. The one I am currently in now has been on going 6 months now, and we seem to hit a bump in the road, the same issues has came up from what had in the 8 year one lack of communcation,I have talked this over with the one I am seeing advised him you have to be able to communcate or things will just get lost like it did 3 years ago. Jelousley seems to be the thing here. And trust is now back in the picture in the past I was wa to trusting to the other person not this time around. I have called this person on several things I has come to my attention and we have to to thistake the month of december and then in january see what we ant to do, so tired of putting so much into relatinsionships these days and not getting any thing back in return. Concerned what do I do.

Hello all Still working on my self and the pain still seems to be there I seem to bump into him from time to time. When does all the pain go way so you can move I have done one thing I have told friends not to tell me any more about what he is doing. In my mind I still think 8 years was a long time and a lot give up and in these day's and times you can't seem to find a good partner these days' I have talked to some couples and the same think I hear is we don't talk. This seems to be the drum beat in todays life style. Does any one believe our paths will pass again down the road and things could be different and given time and we have grown up some thing may come back and enter your life. was just a thought.

I was at a local mall and trying to find a parking spot and rideing around when out of no where here is my X of 8 years comes in front of my car 1st thought was to run him down. Seeing him brought back some emotions that seemed to be still there. Also ran into a old friend who told me he had talked to my X a while back and told me what he had heard and all lies of course. A big part of me still cares and always will. I wished people would change for the better. That is wishful thinking. I think a big part of me wants him back you dont throw away 8 years for nothing. When do you finally move past of thinking of him and for get them. Will I ever have inner piece.

I was in a 8 year relationship with this guy was my 1st and when it was over it almost killer me I was so use to coming home to see him anf having some one there and yes he did cook most of the meals. But when it came to loveing some one he had no clue. I was the oen who seems to have it all together and even at the end I still did. I still miss having some one at night to hold on to but the pain goes away. It has been over a year now but I still see him and I will have the pains he has left behind. will we every be completely over them, I think in time all will be removed from the past. Being in the same town does not help. The pain is still there and one day soon I will meet the one for me who will make all that go away.

Thanks for your replys will take this into consideratio and think about all this and will not not to over think to much here and just take one day at a time. Communcation is the key here I have learned from my past . You have to talk things out not hold them in side over cover them up. I can truly understand things now more than ever from the past. Taking one day at a time and talk to each other and become better at communcation.

Thanks for the information wanted to make sure I did not make the same mistake

It has been over 2 years now and I have started to move on now and have a new person in my life and taking one day at a time. I don't want to repeat any thing from the past I learned from the first time around where I made the mistakes and watching what I do now. in taking my time I don't want the new person to think I am to slow just want to take my time. He is such a nice guy and honest careing person I can really grow to love. Any suggestions on the 2ed time around.

I was in a 8 year LYR has been over 2 years now and we can not even be friends after all we have beeb through. I thouhgt I had a life partner the first few years was great and I was so in love with him so It seemed. He finally owned up one day cheating on me 6 times out of 8 years. After 8 years I had to pull my self to gether I was a basket case how could I go on in life with out him by my side after a year I tryed to reach out as a friend but he never returned the favor. I was the one who put all the energy in to the relationship it nees. I look back now was it a total lost of my youth years. I wasted a life time on a dumb guy who never cared why did he lead me on for that long. Let me clue you in he lost it all and look better than he ever did and no need for me any more. What do you think. He was the one at the end who stopped it all and said he was no longer happy any more I was so over welmed with this and where did I go wrong. Don't ever give a guy more chanced than he can hang his self with because he will. All cheaters will be the same don;t let any man tell you he will change for you he want. There where happy times we shared 8 years is a long time to just give up. I tried therapy he would not go. I learned after 2 years he was the jerk. If a guy ever looses weight and he looses interest in you then it is time to move on let me tell you.

I was in a 8 year LTR and boi did I learn a lesson people will not change if they tell yiu they will they are lieing to you this souds like the same guy I was with it has been over for 2 years now and I hace found out I was the one who kept it togeher all those years so I was tired and was not getting what I need out of thie relationship. I have a new guy now who is all about me and more better than x was any day. Jusrt pick up the the pieces and move on.