This year has been full of losses. I finished treatment for breast cancer, my parents died within 5 months of each other and my husband decided he didn't love me anymore and wants out after 20 years of marriage. He is still sleeping on the couch and isn't making a concerted effort to vacate. He is working on it, but not fast enough for me. It has been a month since he made his announcement and I have been on a rollercoaster of anguish, hope, fear and grief. I still have feelings for him, but they are being overshadowed by feelings of anger, and disappointment. I am amazed that he thinks it's okay to take his time getting out, when he knows how much his being here hurts me.
My marriage hasn't been good for a long time, but I was willing to stick with it anyway and try to make it work. The signs that he gave up were apparent before I was diagnosed with cancer.
Well, there is nothing I can do to change his descision and I know it's time to move on. I asked him if he was making any progress on his move and he said he was working on it and asking him every five minutes won't make it happen any faster. I am wondering if I should be firm and give him a deadline, or if I should just let it go and let him leave when he is ready. I still would like to have a cordial relationship with him since we do have a daughter.