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I must admit I do agree with |OCS|Virus maybe he just doesnt want to tell her because it will upset her, is this the sort of thing that might be true of him ?

I wouldnt mind some suggestions as I suffer from panic attacks very regularly. dizziness, trouble breathing, etc. i would really appreciate anything that would help. Thanks ! email removed

Hi I had this problem. its mind over matter in my case. As soon as it happens once, you think about it so it keeps happening and you make yourself sick and feel dodgy. The best thing in my opinion is to relax and sit down and watch t.v or something after you have eaten with a glass of water. I did this for a couple of weeks and I stopped thnking about being ill and I was fine. Also coughing alot during the day can make you feel very sick after you have eaten. Hope this helps

It may be a good idea to distance yourself from your friend for a little while. But if your friend is really in love with you it wont matter how much time you spend away from him, he will still love you more than a friend. I know this from experience and its a real pain I can tell you. I still hang around with my best friend who I am in love with. Quite alot actually but I have just told myself nothing is going to happen between us in the foreseeable future so I am just trying to think of her as a friend and go out and meet more people. It gets very awkward I can tell you, because you have to be careful what you say to your mate incase he gets offended and its not a good idea to mention your boyfriend too much.....however friends are forever and they are the people you need to fall back on when you need them so make sure you stay close to him. Eventually he may go down the same path as me, which is you love them so much that you just want them to be happy, whether it be with you or not. Hope this helps.

Thanks very much. That makes alot of sense. I appreciate that.

Thanks very much for the help. Hopefully everything will work itself out. I hope that we can remain best friends. But I think it will only be a matter of time before I cant go on as friends because it just doesnt feel right or fair on me or her. Thanks again

Thanks cid. This has been going on for a while now so I just hope I can continue to carry on the way I am. It should make me a stronger person for it at least if nothing else. Do you think its worth talking to her about it & mentioning it or just to not bother ? Thanks again

hi all, i am a bit stuck. Its the story of a guy who is in love with his best friend. I have known her for a long, long time. She has a boyfriend who she is very happy with that she hasnt been with very long. I told her not so long ago how i felt about her and she said she likes me as a friend nothing more & she is in love with her boyfriend. Fair enough. She said that it wouldnt affect our friendship and that i am still her best friend. I thought she would just stop contacting me and that would be the end of that. But she has kept to her word and we still are. The problem I have is, i am totally in love with this girl, i cant stop thinking about her, i see her 3 or 4 times a week and we have a great time as friends hanging out and having a good laugh. However, I am not sure what is going to happen in the future, i want to stay friends with her but it hurts alot & at the weekends I know she is with her boyfriend and i cant stop thinking about it. But she always goes out of her way to make time for me & I really appreciate that. Her boyfriend was jealous because she kept spending alot of time with me and she told him she loves us both in different ways and one wouldnt take the others place. She comes round my house with him somtimes but they dont act like b/f-g/f infront of me they just act like friends which is again quite decent of her i think. I dont want to lose our friendship, i really dont. But I dont know whether I can handle this much more. I might go mental or something. Is it worth hanging on to see if they split up & ask her out, or just continue to be friends and see what happens or maybe even just stop the friendship altogether to stop me geting hurt anymore. I want to talk to her about it but she might think I dont value her friendship enough or something. I just feel really down about it and am not sure what the next step is. Any ideas would be greatly appreciated. Thankyou in advance.

Cheers man, I havent seen her since, she keeps making excuses why she cant come round, all of which i know arent strictly true. I do however value her friendship so I would love to remain friends. The only things is, i am getting a little worried she will not speak to me again, i still get the odd message but like it says earlier on this post she isnt saying "love you" and stuff like that now because she obviously doesnt want to get the wrong idea. Infact the messages seem kind of nasty to what i am usually used to !

I told her, she didnt really say how she felt she just said "thats sweet and that she doesnt mind". I told her that i had to be honest, but i think its safe to say she doesnt feel the same and she has been acting slightly differently to me lately. I guess thats only natural though. Maybe it wasnt meant to be, or if it was not yet. Never mind could have been worse.

Thats great guys, thanks for the help. I am seeing her alone tonight so I think it would be a great time to get my feelings out in the open. Is there any subtle way I can go about bringing the conversation up ? Thanks again

Sorry to hear that. A similar thing actually happened to me. I went out with a girl for a year, we were engaged and everything, i always remember thinking she was the one and that it would last forever....how wrong I was she cheated on me and went off with another bloke before telling me it was over and that was that. I know this may sound a little strange but i think if your girl/boyfriend actually says to you "its over" you know its true & real. Where as if they just stop talking to you, you never have to get over them as such if you see what i mean and it leaves you more worked up and confused. But i guess everyone is different. good luck

Hi all, I have a very close female friend who I have known for about 4 years. She moved away a couple of years ago but she came back about a month ago and ever since she has been round mine constantly, every night apart from 2. Now i have always had a bit of a thing for her but i have recently realised that my feelings for her are getting alot stronger. We tell eachother absolutely everything and send each other text messages all the time, some even suggestive ones......however a few months ago she split up with a bloke who she used to live with but she is sure she wont get back with him but thinks she still loves him, she told me this last night and i was very gutted, but i didnt show it. I want to keep her friendship, but am concerned that if i tell her how i feel she may start to neglect me, she may not i dont know.I sent her a message to say dont rush into anything (because shes a bit stressed about her ex). She replied and said "whatever happens i am never going to leave you or move away again because i love you baby". I didnt quite know how to translate this. I am assuming that was just a friendship thing. I am not sure if to tell her how i feel just incase she gets back with her bloke or just leave it and do the "best friends" thing for a while longer. Is it best to just send her a message telling her how i feel, starting with "i need to be honest with you......" and see what she says ?! But then again if she was interested surely she would have said, unless she is too hung up on her ex to notice. What do you think i should do ? Thanks