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my ex boyfriend was honest with me and told me about cheating on his ex girlfriend (twice) because he was honest i had more respect for him and the honestly and trust continued until we broke up the reason being we were honest about our feelings and continued to be friends xx the saying once a cheater always a cheater may be true in a lot of cases, but if you dont give him a chance and tell him your worries you will always wonder what if ????? x

the best thing would be to forget about it but judging by your worry how can u ? and u know what will happen youll just have a drink at your formal and say it and he'll be embarrassed and itll ruin the evening. if i was you i would go visit him and say "oh cool, photos lets look" look through them with him and then confront him in a joking way and say oh my, is that some sort of artwork ??? haha he'll smile at that and be honest -- then its all out in the open and you can get on with enjoying yourself with him without him knowing your a snoop xxxxx

women who put out on the first date will get a name for themselves in my opinion and as my ex boyfriend said to me if i had have done it he wouldve took advantage but he wouldnt have called me the next day !

if you feel ready for this big a commitment and you are not juming in feet first then you should be honest with your boyfriend ! the longer you wait the harder it will be ! i have been in a similar position and he will find out in the end anyway so its best he finds out before you get to getting your mortgage he will a)know what hes getting into and b)respect you and feel special that you could trust him with such a sensitive and personal problem. hope you sort things out xxxxxxxxxxx

I learnt this lesson the hard way !!!!! i broke up with my ex ex boyfriend but was still deeply in love with him and kept going on dates and going to stay at his after id been out, i felt like a total booty call and we were just using each other which eventually hurt us even more, when i finally realised it wasnt what i wanted and met someone else who treated me properly i ended it, it was only when he realised i didnt want him and didnt depend on him any more that he told me he loved me and wanted me to move in ????? men are a strange species at times, the best advice i can give is to have some space to get your head straight and try not to do the old drunken txts and calls proclaiming your love as he will tap into your insecurity and use it against you !! good luck

Please help !!!!! I have been with my boyfriend for a year, after 2 weeks he told me he loved me and after about 4 months he was asking me to move in, we just clicked as soon as we met, and were totally honest about our past and everything so we started a new relationship with all the skeletons out of the closet it was great, hed get jealous when other men looked at me, but would always proudly put his arm round me as if to say he shes mine whixh i secretly loved because i loved being his ! we went through bit of a rough patch the last few months but before that things were perfect, we went out together all the time, and just loved spending time together because we just made each other happy !! then about 2 months ago we just started to argue over nothing, i couldnt do anything right, i was trying to pay off bills so wasnt going out with my friends as much and would never tell my boyfriend to stay in, he had worked all week so i wanted him to go out and have a good time. Things just went really weird, we seemed to grow apart, we stopped seeing each other as much and i kept saying we need to sort this out before it gets to the point of no return and he always just wanted to forget about it and move on from it !! we had a big talk and got everything out in the open, and everything was fine - we were like we used to be, always laughing and smiling when we thought of each other. we split up about a week ago, he said it felt "fake" i said it probably feels like that because we are actually being nice to each other again and he said he doesnt think he will be able to feel the way he used to and that was the end of it !! he came round to my house and sobbed his heart out last week (which i might add was the first time in a long time i'd seen his emotions) he kept hugging me and wouldnt let go, it was so upsetting and made me realise just how much i do love him, but now its to late !! weve been txting each ther most days just to see how each other is, its just so hard with it being xmas too, im miserable and even though i dont want to spoil xmas for my family i just want it to come and go without the fuss, i cant believe im actually saying this because i usually LOVE xmas but now it will just remind me of the time i lost my true love, and my heart was broken !

yes i have experienced this, i was with my boyfriend for years and then we split up with the same situation as you he felt i was to good for him as i gave a lot of love but he couldnt love me back in that way anymore as we had gone through a rough patch that he couldnt get out of his head, what i say to you is to BE CAREFUL!! it sounds as if your ex girlfriend really does love the thought of being in love with you and its not fair that she can move on (but at the same time keep you waiting in the wings with the occasional text) and return to you - still waiting for HER to make up her mind,refusing to speak to her and ignoring her texts will surely make her think hmmm why isnt he at my beck and call, but as you have said yourself as soon as you get back in touch it all cools down again, thats because shes got you back were she wants you ! take control and take yourself away from your job your life and every day stresses somewhere that you can take time out to think of YOU and what YOU want-even if it upsets you, the thought of being single !! sure its great when you get back with someone and it works out, but can you possibly see this happening with your ex?? it will always be ing the back of your mind whats happened. ive been single for a week now, and if im honest im upset all the time and it sickens me the thought of my now ex boyfriend being with someone else but i strongly believe that everything happens for a reason, and you just have to let fate decide. good luck xx