HangingInThere

as i said in my post, i did apologize that night and again last night!

My bf and i had a horrible fight in front of his family - i mean really really bad. needless to say, I am very ashamed and embarras. We broke up the same night of the fight (this happened 3 weeks ago). After the incident occurred, i called his mom and sincerely apologized to her, she was upset, i dont blamed her....inthe midst of my anger i yelled out, your son is a fu*king liar! Now, my bf and i made amends and we are going to really work things out. Last nigth I told him we should have a talk with his mom and tell her our intentions. So we are walking into her house and she looked at me like she had just seen a ghost, she said, "you again" and was totally not happy to see me. My bf basically said to her that i am the woman he is going to marry and he loves me and that night it was all his fault. She then turn and say, that she was surprise at the both of us and i disrespected her by saying what i said...he then said, " that i was very upset and i just blurted it out...he was really defending me and taking the blame for what happened on that infamous night! she then said if that is what we want to do and we need to stop arguing and yelling so much and we concur that it was never going to happen again! Well i felt very uncomfortable and i wanted to leave, he basically said to me she is going to get over becuase she never seen either of us behave that way before. Now i do not know what i should do, do i stop going over to the house when he goes, this is something we did quite often in the past or do i go hoping she is going to come around. BTW, he said she asked for me this morning and didn't appear upset! but who knows, maybe he is just trying to set my mind at ease! His mom and I had such a great relationship int he past, but now i do not know how to mend it, if it is 'mendable'! please adivse!

How Should I Approach Nc? I Have Tried In The Past But It Caused More Problems Than None - Well I Did The No Contact For 2 Weeks, We Made Amends And Things Seem To Be Great. Now It Seems Like He Is Back To His Same Old Rotten Behavior. When I Tried To Swicth Up How Often I Am Around Him, For Instance I'll Say, Oh I Think I Am Going To Sleep At My Place...he Would Say Okay Cool, But Then The Next Day...oh You Changed And Why All Of A Sudden You Want To Sleep Home....then I Find Myself Saying, Ok I'll Be There Tomorrow Night. The Most Asinine Of All, I Was On My Way Home From His House (30 Minute Drive) And It Took Me Longer Than Usual To Get Home (he Called My House I Wasn't There) So He Called My Cell Sasking Me Why Is It Taking Me So Long And Why It Doesnt Sound Like I Am In My Car And So Forth. When I Tried To Give Him Space, It Causes Problems But At The Same Time He Is The One Suggesting That I Come Over Or Presume That I Am Coming Over....then Last Week He Said I Was Smothering Him...i'm Like What The ....! I Think I Am Truly Falling Out Of Love With Him And Everyday I Think About When Is The Right Time To Break It Off With Him....but I Keep Getting Deterred Y A Day Of 'niceness' There Are Too Many Issues To Mention In One Post, But I Will Gladly Speak On It When Asked By You Guys! But For Now, How Do I Approach The Nc Or Perhaps Not Call Him As Often? I Tend To Call Him And Speak To Him Many Times Throughout The Day While I Am At Work...and If He Doesnt Call Me By A Certain Time I Get Frustrated And Jealousy Kicks In...oh Yeah, I Have Some Trust Issues With Him. Sounds A Bit Confusing But Really And Truly The Relationship Is! Very Confuse/sad/unhappy Please Feel Free To Ask Me Any Questions

As mentioned in another thread i created, my boyfirned and I didn't speak for 2 weeks. i never returned his text msgs and he called me from private numbers - i knew it was him, but i still didn't call him back. A couple of days ago he called and said he thinks we need to talk in person - ok cool! We talked for hours and he really confessed so much to me and basically blame himself for the wrong that has happened in our relationship...however i didn't let him take the blame because I too was at fault! He said it feels great to love freely and this is a new beginning for us - ok great! Now, prior to our breif sabatical, I was always the clingy type...however, the last 2 weeks before our break I became more independent (lack of a better word) not going over as much and not spending the night when i normally would! I actually felt good about this. but in turn, it started to make him thik i was cheating so his behavior became very revolting towards me. Anyway, we had a small argument that lead to us not speaking for roughly 2 weeks - I had enough and i didn't feel the need to communicate with him...this is quite the opposite for me, being I was the one to always make amends first - so he didn't know how to act. So he made amends , had an indepth conversation about us and the reasons for his behavior - A FRESH START! now, my question to you, how do I maintain this and not become too clingy again but at the same time not seem to distant to make him wonder (yes I know that is his own shortcoming or insecurities). These last few days he made plans for us and we spent the last 2 nights together. he already planned our weekend - so basically i am going witht he flow...however i do not want him get to accustomed to seeing me because even though I am enjoying it now, it may back fire and he may crazily think I am being too clingy - his mind is twisted this way.

well it should be common sense...we haven't had the best of relationship - actually it was pretty bad! I feel like i do not owe him that satisfaction of calling him....he did what he did and like the saying goes, the straw that broke the camels back - i guess i am nit that interested in calling him..... but i really wanted some insight on is why he just text me to mention the gift and not even a Merry Xmas Happy Holiday, do you think he is through or is he really waiting for me to make the move again (something I always did - 9 out 10 times i was always the one to make amends 1st) - i am pretty sure if he gretted me properly then i would be more receptive and reply to him! What the heck, I have your gift for pick up need a time........dude this aint Sears!

i posted my reply the same time you posted yours.. you are not confused that is exactly what it is!

well we never actually said it was over - i juts implied that it was. since we have been together even after a fight we never let a day go by with out speaking to each other! so we had that argument and he hung up on me and i didn't call back and i haven't spoken to him since! i guess he had the gift already!

brief synopsis: My boyfirend and I have been going through some differences in the last few months. We had a big fight the week before Xmas. For Xmas he text message mi saying, "I have your gift here for pick up, just need a time" what the hell is that?! I didn't reply later that day I get a call from a weird number (just found out that number was him) I didn't answer the call. I have since rec'd a few calls form a private call - i guess just to hear my voice! he sends me another text the day after Xmas (8:28am)...pretending it was Xmas day when he sent it. It read, "Its 15 minutes after 6, r u coming for your gift! I didn't reply! later on 12/26 he sends me a blank text! Ok guys maybe you can give me some clarity - but what the heck is this about! i really do not fell up to speaking to him and i thought he felt the same way....but i am getting mix signals! To this day, its been a 10 days and I haven't spoken to him - we were together almost nine months!