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  1. scorchio
    has anyone got any stories of getting back together after a while, give me some hope P L E A S E been split now for over 4months Ive been doing N/C for 3 1/2 months hurting like hell, a void of silence, nothing when we used to never stop talking about anything!!! weird how it all works out getting stronger day by day, still a mind full of ex and what is she doing, is she thinking about me etc etc etc OBVIOUSLY at mo would love that text or phone call from my ex out of blue.................................. I must stop looking at my mobile, it never rings ............................. but some hope would be nice any advice or anything, does the dumper still suffer inside the same time span that we do, does the dumper grow weaker as we grow stronger ???????????????????????????????????? Thanks anyone
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    Is it worth texting her, just so im on her mind, or will I still be on her mind anyway and it will be a wasted text !!!!!!!!!
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    Are they more likely to think about us and remember us if we dont get in contact...........................................................
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    Thankyou all of you, I am so low myself at mo Regret1, I just wanna text her, send her a picture message just to put in her mind that im still here and that she wont forget me. I want them back im staying strong N/C and yet crumbling inside
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    Well, I am doing the obvious things, keeping fit, going out with friends etc etc been split from ex for nearly 4months, Ive been doing N/C for 3 1/2months, lapses included. Dont get me wrong, I want my ex and her daughter back so so much. Has anyone got any advice on how I can stop all those thoughts of, what is she doing, who is she with - if at all !, is she thinking about me (hope so!) any advice to get those thoughts of her out my head, however much I dont want to, I know I need to in order to have a clear and open mind, especially if one day If I break N/C and I can do that with a clear head.................
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    Hi thanks Royl, what sort of time period had you done the N/C for before you heard she was asking questions etc, 3 1/2 months N/C is driving me nuts, I am getting stronger, making time for myself but still miss her and want her to miss me too (deep down, she probably is) who knows, wonder if she is strong enough to get in contact in the near future. Hope so!! biigest question im sure for this site is WHAT IS GOING ON IN THE DUMPERS MIND !!! dumpees suffer, when we recover, does the dumper's sufferring start then !
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    regret I totally take on board what you have said, I thank you for that. but as you said, you are going through the same pain as I am ........ but at least you are being contacted in some shape or form by ex. I really do appreciate what you are saying, I am trying to move on, I am keeping myself busy, it doesent stop me feeling that maybe, just maybe one day she may change her mind...... I know, im not silly, that I cant hold on to that, but I can have it in the back of my mind to deal with if it happens. I hope I didnt cause offence at my message, because you are wise and I appreciate your comments thankyou
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    muneca, i wish you luck i wont take from it false hope i promise, it certainly is nice to think about you never know ...............................................
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    muneca, thankyou, did he get in contact out of the blue !!! by the way, a lovely story, I envy you. and good luck with it
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    regret, well done proud of you my story gives you inspiration, im glad of that surprised tho I feel so so weak and miss her like crazy still im trying to be strong
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    Thanks all of you for your lovely advice, some hard to hear some good, im still finding things very difficult, suppose its the not knowing what she is thinking and what is going on in her mind. still ! I am trying, it might not appear as such, but I am trying to be strong and move on, I will always have in the back of my mind that I would love more than anything for her to come back to me, but I wont let it stop me. im trying to tell myself she doesent deserve my love but hey its difficult
  12. scorchio
    I feel so week today apart from a few hiccups, and I do miss my ex and her daughter so so much, The N/C has been for about 3 1/2months, it is helping me heal, I am slowly moving on, but YES OF COURSE I still want them back. I feel so weak today, I want to text her anything, picture message , no writing. I feel if i dont get in contact, she will forget about me, worried that, she will forget me and if she changes her mind in the future I would have become a distant memory because of no contact and she wouldnt come back ...................................... Am I being silly ! if there is N/C does that mean they will forget or think its not an avenue to get back if they change there mind. HELP!!!!!!
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    Feeling really weak, miss her SO much, wish she was missing me or thinking about me, dont believe that after 3 1/2 months you can just make the memories disappear of someone and just forget about someone. The fact that that she has not contacted me since we split up (3 1/2months), surely that must be eating away inside her!!!!!! I sit there at times thinking about her, wondering what she is doing......... why cant she be thinking the same about me .................................
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    Thankyou guys and girls, as ever much help Thanks TMAN - as ever calming and helping, thankyou. Thanks for PM Danimal77, i'll reply soon. Thankyou everyone, pretty mixed up at mo trying to hang in there and stay strong.
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    WOW, You have my full admiration, im impressed, I hope my ex regrets dumping me and comes crawling back one day, like yours did I really do. at the momement how i feel and love her, im sure like you did I will say YES without hesitation. But LIKE YOU ! you never know I might then think the same way you have Thankyou. your post will inspire many people you have me................
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    my N/C has made me stronger, (been about 3 1/2months of n/c) I am trying to keep busy too, working up to a point ! I do miss my ex and her daughter alot though and i, like most people would love to get back with ex........... etc my question and worry is, will me doing N/C, make her forget about me, forget what we had, make her not think about me in some shape or form, make any feelings she might have deep down disappear, etc. I hope the silence, me not being there, will in time, make her realise in time that she misses me etc, you hear so many stories of this happenning on this site, just doesent happen to me LOL
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    thankyou bounder, I just wish one day out of blue I could get an Email or text from her, dont get me wrong, It is her that will need to instigate any contact, even tho the urge is there for me to text her (i wont!!!) Just wish she would lol the 3 1/2 months split feels like forever
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    bit low tonight, just miss g/f and her daughter good and bad days I suppose mind is in overtime at mo, what she is thinking !!!! what is she doing !!!! hope her mind is wandering as much as mine, wondering what I am doing, heres hoping !!!!! im trying to stay strong, honest !!!!
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    hi regret, my thoughts are of anger as far as why when i gave all that loving to her and her daughter without very little back, was ultimately paid back by her ending it, complete silence, from day one of split to now. I am getting stronger, one day the thoughts of her are in my heart and the next day the thoughts of her in my head - is she with anyone, what is she doing ! is she thinking about me ! etc im sure you all know those ones. I am sure what i conjur up in my mind (worst case scenarios / what she is doing etc) is so far from truth and probably the opposite.
  20. scorchio
    wow Tman, im glad your ex contacted you, but yes ! maybe can of worms being opened like you say, not always a good thing. just my point is, it would be nice for my ex to contact me at least so I knwo she is still thinking about me, still has feelings buried deep down somewhere in that stone heart LOL and then I can make a rational decision, unfortunately I am not in that position, I hope as time passes I will find myself in that position
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    you guys and girls are great for the advice you are giving me thankyou just wish all the stories I read about ex's calling out of the blue text or email, and people wondering what there next move is !!! wish I could have that sittuation at mo myself...... thankyou everyone im trying to stay strong
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    the weirdest thing is, I actually from day one of the breakup have wanted her to make the contact , to intiate it, not me. does that make sense ! apart from the odd text i have sent in the beginning. I want her to have the change of heart not for me to initiate her change of heart, even though I obviously want them back deep down Does that make sense. Please dont get me wrong I am moving on slowly but as each day I get stronger, but at the same time its frustrating for me to know I have become an even better person that I know she would fall for all over again, but she is not around to see it, does that make sense to anyone !
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    she's 31 yes she has always been very stubborn, maybe masking feelings as has happenned in past then boils over / emotion etc
  24. scorchio
    hi regret, nice to hear from you again, its funny, i want to be in your sittuation, my ex contacting me you in mine, being strong (ish) hang in there regret we will get through this with luck and strength
  25. scorchio
    thanks for the advice and coments, I do understand what you all saying, just it is so difficult to be told to move on and forget about someone when you love them so much. dont get me wrong my N/C really has helped me get stronger and I have come on a long way, that I know and feel inside. I have been doing alot more for myself too. surely its nice to think that in time and space, people may change there minds, not that I would wait round forever.
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