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Thanks Brando, sensible and nice words, good to know you are of or was of similar sittuation. dont have a problem with the single mum sittuation, love kids. When my ex split up with me, she wrote me a letter a week after, no revellation, just covering the same ground as explained for splitting up (kid, sily argument etc) BUT!!! one thing she put in letter REALLY hurt me big time, I personally thought it was a cheap shot statement... she wrote in one bit, " If you had children yourself you would realise they have feelings too", that hurt especially after all I did and put myself out for, for the kiddy. I felt there was no reason for that remark, almost silly.

Thankyou Brando, At least I know you was of a similar sittuation, think you summed it up. Wow, wot a challenge someone else's kids, its a tall order. (who you love, and show this), in my case, used against me (or feels like it). Thankyou, nice to know you been there too

OUCH! This is difficult - N/C

thanks for your kind words again all of you, as far as the "me being in denial", I can understand what you saying, and thankyou, but I used the silent treatment phrase, because well, it was always her saying! when we 1st got together she always used to say that her way of dealing with being angry or p***ed off with someone is silent treatment as she has with previous b/f's, thats the reason I worded it like that. I accept from her point of view the reasons she broke off like I explained, but the pont im just trying to get accross is, we argued shortly before the break up - which ultimately forced her into the decision "so she said". And she said in her words when I said to her, "you dont look very upset as we have just broke up" - she said she hasnt had time to be upset yet because she is so angry with me, me unhappy her going clubbing the night she was suppose to see me - as i have put in 1st post) so I know deep down she is angry with me (hence silence), but she made it clear how she felt, not once has said she has fallen out of love with me. I am also the 1st to agree with the statement, a mum should put her daughter 1st - i so agree, but, if i had not included the daughter, then sure i can understand that, but i so did, in everything, even down to valentines, i booked the meal/table for me, g/f, and her daughter. and although hotel for just me & g/f, (daughter stayed at her grans) i made sure we took the daughter out to a fun park with rides the next day so she didnt feel left out. I hope that sort of thoughts stay deep inside her feelings, do you see my point.......... sorry if i have gone on a bit.

thankyou for the great advice, im going to keep the N/C, well try my best and be strong. I will try and give her some space, love them both very much, just hope one day she will see that and that I would have taken care of them both. "maybe my problem, always putting others 1st" sorry you just broke up with yours lyr521.

yes, thankyou. cant denie, the N/C has made me feel that if she did contact me, and here's hoping, that I would ask her to consider my feelings more in the relationship, and not be a bit of a carpet like i think I was, but cant help it, just like making a g/f happy, hmmmm, forget me sometimes.

thanks for your kind and sensible words... its good to see how the N/C thing is being dealt with by people here, it helps i had my faults, of course. but yes i did do my best to make them both happy. even won over her mum, she loved me (because her daughter and grandaughter being looked after) - thats a 1st for me lol

yeah. I meant i have been N/C

hi all, me and my g/f split 2months ago...........i have no N/C for about 1 1/2months now, she didnt reply, its so difficult, want her to get in touch.... we was together for 2yrs, i was really close to her daughter. I would do anything for both of them romance for g/f, day trips out for the daughter, included the daughter in ABSOLUTELY everything, more than alot of guys would have, have done, or would do. we split up because a few silly arguments, the daughter didnt like mummy arguing or upset so became funny about that. we split up 2months ago, reason being, my g/f saying her daugher is not happy, so she has to put her 1st. The week before we split up was the weekend I was suppose to see my g/f (we only saw eachother every other weekend, because of space for her daughter and g/f - which I agreed to, of course - more than alot would do), and she went out clubbing, so I wasnt happy about that as missed her, we had a biggy argument, and she said thats the final straw. Apart from saying its over as explained, she has blanked me ever since.........(wish she is known for when gets in arguments or angry - childish i know but hey) she said hurts her to do it, i should know how I much she still feels about me and cares for me. So its not even that she has fallen out of love with me. She always said I was the only guy who has really taken a genuine interest and look after her and her daughter. she has been out with a few guys before me included the daughters dad, who all have treated her bad, she found it very hard to open up to me when we 1st started out together, she wasnt used to the love and romance, being treated nicely. but I always feel thats what it should be lie, especially when they are worth it. sorry if i gone on a bit, a brief explanantion covering events. I love them both very much still, i can handle most things, but silent treatment OUCH. in limbo now ...................................

reading all your posts, helping each other is very comfarting for me. I split up from ex 2 months ago (she dumped me), been finding it hard, she has NC/blanked me since, ive tried no contact, but still nothing.......................................... want her back lots, getting stronger, BUT OUCH when will she get in contact .................. miss her nd her daughter alot