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im really impressed, well done, I hope it all works out well for you. im trying to hang in there, I hope my ex will see sense and text me. hope she does....... im fed up waiting next to my mobile for a text

Hi, 2 and a bit months, well done you. its been 3months for me and ouch still very bad days, some good. miss my ex and her daughter alot. N/C does help yes. I too am enjoying the good old british summer, problem is i know she probably is too. well done, im proud of you, keep it up and keep strong. we are all here for you. by the way, not all us men are that bad, have some faith (im sure deep down you do)

been split up 3months N/C about well nearly 2 months i hear what you saying, I am realistic, but ............ she didnt fall out of love with me that surely must hold some emotions

all very true, thankyou. just, i dunno. picture message no words might trigger the old heart strings even if theres no response, or do you think N/C better way of triggering heart strings

thankyou echoe, just feel taht while there is silence, she is blanking me, just feels like she is not thinking about me she is not missing me, she is not upset. sorry if i sound silly and thanks for your support

can anyone slap me around the face, i so want to send her a picture message on mobile i know i know wont do any good just weak tonight sorry

sorry guys & girls im feeling really weak today/tonight just want a text to come through on that mobile hope she will see sense

urban, echo, thankyou for your support, it helps more than you can imagine, and wow how well it helps venting all that frustration and worries on here. something that brings me down to the ground when i get those thoughts is something she always said to me when we met and when we was together, was, I am the only guy who she has been with including the little girls dad who has treated them both nicely and always put the kiddy 1st. I just hope one day that may hit home to her, split up 3months ago, N/C nearly 2months now seems so long ago, once again you are all a great help

Thankyou dstanzler for your kind and sensible words, I have been weak today, but have been strong in not contacting. The biggest thing that is round and round in my mind is; while I am being strong, N/C to help myself heal, yes. But also like so many have described for the making her miss you, making her think about you, to which like you have said im sure deep down she is, bit of mystery. just while im doing all this I worry she might meet someone else....... the silence from her since we split worries me bout this even though nothing at all to suggest its the case .... but .... well just on my mind

hope she realises what she had tho hope that is going through her mind, or if not at mo......... maybe down the road i will try and stay strong, but i wonder if she realises what i am up to as i have been N/C for over 1 1/2 months, it is making me stronger, just hope its not making her stronger

love is a strange thing fantastic when its in your life but when appears to have gone ................ ouch I hope she realises how much i loved her and her daughter and would have taken care of them

thankyou regret, kind words we can be strong I hope. do you have a previous post of your problems......... im 35

tears me apart knowing she didnt fall out of love with me, even she admitted that hadnt changed.

thankyou regret, be strong ! wish i could take my own advice. I worry that by me staying N/C it will make her be with someone else, it has only be 3months since we split, not long I know. cant help but worry about that.

urban thankyou very much You do give good advice, as everyone does it is very hard, but I will try hard and continue N/C, space etc. spose the thing on my mind the most is worrying if she met someone else, although not long has passed since the split but its always an obvious thing on everyones mind.

my problem is: i notice alot of people suggest put on happy face, make her see that you are getting on and what she is missing etc she lives in differrent area to me, not far, but would only be in that area if we was going out together. so she wouldnt get to see me or know that im getting on. just N/C - will that have the same effect, I wonder sometimes. I do understand N/C is to help yourself heal too, which it is helping, but I do genuinely love her and her daughter and want them back. Thanks for your comments about London, YES seems everyone (londoners) getting on with it, everyone walking the same streets, as if nothing happenned.....although obviously prayers with the victims and bereaved still. still, what a poke in the eye for the terrorists EH!!! it will never effect us

Urban, thankyou on all points. I have to say it certainly made me angry with her for that. Im trying to keep strong - N/C But yes, events like that do put things in perspective and bring you to the ground sometimes. You are right there.

Urban thank you very much, your reply has certainly helped me clear my head well, today (thats a start), Have been weak today wanted to send her a picture message on phone. but not going to now. i will read your post shortly about your story can I just add something. I was involved in the bombings in London (im in the ambulance service) so was there helping last thursday. that day i got texts from friends, people i havent heard from for years all knowing that i would be involved in it and they were checking to see if i was ok. not one single text from her, would have been just nice to get a text just to see if i am ok, seems a bit heartless of her to me.

Thanks Beatless, I want to contact her just sending her just a text no writing, just a picture message or something. She probably wont reply but at least it might tug at some heart strings somewhere and make her think what tou think ?

Thanks for your kind words Gradle

thankyou for advice, i wish u luck too just miss ex an awful lot at mo, not ready for others, difficult to fill that gap at mo,

ive done over 1 1/2 months n/c as described in a previous post, been split up 3months. I miss her, get the impression she isnt thinking about me, my mind is making different scenarios up about what she doing when probably not true I know............... its driving me crazy

thanks, i'll try and stay strong Happy birthday!!!! hope it goes well heres hoping for us both

I can totally, I have total sympathy with you, ive been N/C with my ex for 1 1/2months, been split for 3months today... its hurting like hell, miss her, all sorts of feelings, but like everyone has said, let people from here help you stay strong...... yes its Hell, stay N/C tho, helps you get stronger either way, im doing the same, trying to be strong so not to appear needey by calling her texting her etc, and hey hopefully making her think wot the hell is he doing with his life, this i feel may take time, but at least in that time i can get stronger............ prehaps making her weaker... you I think should do the same, whatever the outcome you will become stronger through it. STAY STRONG

bit low tonight, miss them strong enough at mo not to contact them,I think, but just keeps banging on my mind what she is up to.... probably not much as she has daughter. mind just on overtime tonight .................... is she missing me ? what she is thinking ?