Jezabelle73

Right on appollo!!! I couldn't have said it better!!!!

Whew...you just said a few things that I've been screaming from the inside...except there are a few missing facts...My boyfriend is from Canada...and I live in Florida...he's in the army, and is currently in Afghanistan...the deal is this...this other couple live near me..and I met my boyfriend because he lived accross the street while he was here for training...this other couple...they're VERY, VERY open about their sexual...um...adventures I'll just say...my bf and I never had relations with them prior to his initially going back to Canada 2 mos into our relationship....but that influence from the 'neighbors' was there...so bf would say things like, if anything happens, it's alright with me, just take pictures, girl on girl of course...well, part of our current thinking is this...we considered the female, female thing, but never factored this womans husband into the situation...and that's where we really screwed up...I, personally, think that we DEFINITELY didn't think the situation through...and yeah, there were more people there...I was never undressed the entire evening...this woman asked me to perform on her husband...and supposedly they are both friends of mine, AND of my bf....hmmmm...doesn't sound right does it?? You know...bf will be here in less than 24 hours now...and neither of us can wait....we have definitely learned from this situation though....I have told him that I have drawn that boundary...If that kind of thing is capable of having that severe of an impact and consequences on a relationship I consider SOoooooo important, then I want no part of it....and he has agreed to back me up '150 million percent.' I do appreciate your questions though, and think I will definitely make a point of asking him....Thanks!!!!!

As we all know...these postings are great because a person can get so many different kinds of opinions...I appreciate each and every one even though some of them were hard to read...I'm taking what I think is right, and leaving what I think is wrong....We got into a discussion about boundaries...cause I'm setting up firm ones based on this experience...and not wavering...yeah, it's a turn on for a lot of guys to think about their gf/wife with another woman...but there's a fine line between fantasy and reality, and for me, I now know this is a line that's never to be crossed again...Yeah, I understand the message I was conveying to others by being a part of these types of situations...no more...like I said...this has never been a part of my nature or makeup...and now I know it never again will be something to experiment with...I AM very lucky that he has been forgiving....our connection to each other is extremely strong and hopefully that will be what enables us to get through this...if anyone has any further input...I'm all eyes...

Alright...I'm not a cheater...and I cheated...my boyfriend of six months on the 1st of April, is overseas with the military...we are very close..and have been very honest with each other about all of the different aspects of our lives including our desires....one of his, one of many men, is seeing his gf with another woman...I wasn't sure what to do...I thought, I'll experiment...so I did in his presense...he went away...said if anything happens, take pictures, ha, ha....well, something finally did happen...but it happened with this womans husband....it started out as a group, everyone was drinking liquor...everyone passed out...there was no actual intercourse, but he did do other things to me...I did nothing to him....this woman did ask me to perform on her husband during the evening and I said no...while these things were happening with her husband, I stopped it before it went to the point of actual intercourse...Actually, I'm starting to wonder if I was taken advantage of in the state I was in....I've told my boyfriend, he's upset but has forgiven me...he has acknowledged the fact that he's basically egged me on in the situation, and I've expressed that that was part of it, but I take full responsibility...I've told him that if this is what's going to happen when we get involved in these situations, then I prefer not to be involved as he is much more important to me than any of these other things...he's agreed to back me up '150 million percent'....he's going to be here in 2 days....he's asked me to forgive myself...I have been doing so...now I want to do anything I can for him...he tells me to be myself...I tell him that if there's anything he ever needs to talk about...to do so and I will listen...we've decided to stick it out together...like I said, we are very close in a lot of ways...I don't want to feel like a cheater any more...I hate it...how do I show him that I'm not a cheater?

The heat suggestion is the only thing that really works regularly for me....I have a microwaveable pack...heat that baby up....stick it on the pain...and lay down with a blanket and the remote control...and maybe a glass of hot tea to relax...or whatever it is that helpsyou relax...I swear by this method... I don't even need medication when I do this....and I've historically had some pretty bad cramps....to the point of almost passing out... Jez

Hey there... Man!! Just some of the stuff I need to hear....So Peterson's has a good study guide on cd-rom...what about the math...I'm a Psych graduate...I need more focus on the math...

This is coming from someone who feels like they've been where you are...if you have any other questions...let me know...I've worked with troubled youth...

OK...school...I went back to school after 4 years off...during that time I had a baby....now I've been a single parent for 11 years.... FIRST, I've always wished I had gone to trade school, gotten a 2-year degree, and had a good paying job while I went to 4-year college. You might consider starting as a mechanic, then going onto something you're more passionate about...and it seems that working with at-risk youth is what you're passionate about...By the way, that is also what I love to do, because like you, I didn't have the greatest time as a teenager.... which leads me to the next part SECOND, If you're going to go to a university to obtain a degree working as a social worker or psychologist or whatever, there are 2 things to understand...one is that when you go to a university, you have the opportunity to take a lot of different subjects, and in some way, you learn something about yourself from each one...this is why I majored in Psychology...I learned a lot about myself and those around me.... The second part of this section is...understand that to make any money working with troubled youth...you need at least a masters degree...so be prepared to go to school for both your undergraduate degree and a masters degree...it's DO-ABLE!!! Go for it if you think you'll love it! One of the last things to consider is what I opened with...don't get yourself too involved in any real committments yet, esp children, because that only makes it that much harder to reach your goals...it can still happen, but it's very difficult... I hope this input helps...I've got my bachelors' degree in Psych and have worked with troubled youth...but was unprepared for where a bachelor's degree would actually get me....Now I'm struggling and will have to go back to school.... Best of luck...these decisions are tough... Jez

In my experience, there is nothing better in a partnership than having a partner who loves to give as well as receive...I'm willing to bet that if you received as much as you seem to be indicating that you give, you would find the giving part much more enjoyable.....that's just one aspect....also, think about what movements can be made during sex...think about how, depending onthe position, the feeling is different...now simulate some of those positions orally....additionally, don't be afraid to give him foreplay...it'll strengthen his desire for you, which is a complete turn-on...make him lay down...and using your tongue trace up the inside of his leg...without touching his genitals, lick the crease between his leg and torso...kiss and lightly bite a bit....run your tongue up the outside of his stomach and chest...run your fingernails lightly on his chest..touch his nipples, make them erect...once you get to his arm...move yourself to his neck, licking his neck, ear...kiss him intensely...now work your way down the other side...doing the same things....once you reach that spot again....start giving oral...don't be afraid to tease a bit....he'll love it

Hi, I'm a little older than the average replier here, but some things are worth having a say at....at the risk of sounding like a parent, recognize that you are only 14 years old...I have an 11 year old son, and I am always telling him to be a kid while he still can, cause once you enter the adult world, there's no going back...being young is hard, but being an adult and participating in adult-type activities has consequences that most young people don't realize...maintain the lifestyle you feel comfortable in...I've recently experienced something I was initially unsure of...and now I regret going along with it all...I should have stuck with my gut feelings, but went along with someone elses ideas because I questioned my own. I was wrong. Sex is always a game of fumbling around and being awkward at your age, no matter how much the other guys/chicks act like they've got it down....take your time so you know you're doing the right thing in that situation, you won't regret it...and by the way, not all sex has to be meaningful, but it's so much better when it is, and when it's truly meaningful, there'll be no question in your mind....Jez

Hi Mermayd, I was in a situation that sounds somewhat similar...sounds to me like you're making all the sacrifices...and that's alright if your partner is making some form of a committment to do the same for you, but that doesn't seem to be happening...I got some advice from a friend about four years ago...she said that she wasted two years on someone who she basically knew wasn't going to work out for her....ask yourself...are you wasting your time with this person when you could be moving on? Jez