Lsangle61003

I know how you feel. It's hard. Been in a situation like it before and am kind of in one like it now but you can't beat yourself up for doing what you thought was best for you. Sometimes you have to reorganize your life and if leaving something or someone behind is part of the process you have to do it and he has to understand that. Another thing is you have to find out what you truly want. If he is your answer then you have to make sure that all the aspects of really wanting this relationship are in place because it's not only your feelings that are being stirred up but his too. As far as the other person in his life, you have to deal with it. If that's who he wants, that's who he's going to be with and if not he'll come back to you. You just have to let things fall into place by themself.

It sounds like she's not really sure what she wants. If she is easily persueded by her friends then I don't think that you can really convince her of anything. Your both still young and maybe she doesn't want a relationship like you want. If you havn't already maybe the two of you should sit down and get it out what you want out of this relationship and what you expect of each other and also who is in control of this relationship, the two of you or those on the outside looking in wishing they had what the two of you have (her friends). Remember misery loves company.

I apoligize ahead of time if this takes too long but I really don't know what to do. I've been seeing this guy that I have developed serious feelings for going on over a year. Back in December we were separated temporarily because of his job. I had never had a problem with him before but obviously with 3 hours between us, I was a bit unsure of our relationship. Not soon after he left we had a little disagreement that put a minor dent in our relationship. About a month or two ago he was relocated back in the area. Because we are expecting in another 3 months, we began to try and find a way to get things back on track. But only a month ago, I found out (from his own mouth) that this "girlfriend" mess he's always joking about is real. Come to find out he met us around the same time and even while he and I were practically living together he was still seeing her. And all the times that he had ever asked me if I was cheating on him, he had been cheating on me and lied about it when I asked. I was so hurt I told him that I didn't want him calling me anymore. He told me that he couldn't do that because he cares about me too much. Yet at the same time he says he cares about her too and doesn't know how to tell her that he's about to have another child. Although you would think that because of our situation (the baby) things would be different, I know none of his family. He hasn't told anyone except his closest friends that he's about to have a baby. And as much time as he and I spent together, she knows his family and I don't, she doesn't even know about me. He won't meet my parents because he says he's not prepared to answer certain questions that they may have. He knows how important family is to me because mine isn't too strong. And to think, before I found this out, he said that he was thinking of the two of us getting married. I want to give him up because like I said, I have serious feelings for him and I can't stand the pain of being hurt. But he tells me that he wants me in his life and wants to do whatever it is that will make me happy (except he doesn't want to let her go). I suggessted a relationship only based on the baby but he wants more than that. And thats where I don't know what to do because at the same time I want a family for my child but I'm tired of being hurt. What should I do?