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yo doug. Go fer it man!... just i wouldnt ask her out out of the blue... try at least saying hi in the hall 1st? Im sure ribley jibbit can help...

Don't be nervious. Trust me, that'll just screw you up and you might end up looking weird. Be cool, and remember, she has to want to go out with you too, so try not to show how nervious you are

Don't try to act differently if you wouldn't be able to stay that way. If you attract someone to you by being different than you normally are, then when they see how you normally are, theres a pretty good chance they'll leave.

Ya that sure took me by surprise!!!

BTW thanks all!

ya i didnt get the last two in time anyway: she showed up like 30 min late, which was ok I guess cause her friend told me she was running late. We talked fer a while, and she tried to teach me how to dance (again, i really cant dance). Then slow dancing, etc... Etc... anyway the point is it went great and we stayed together almost the whole time, minus a few breaks/w.e. to chat with friends/get punch. I definitely second guessed myself, I had no reason to worry at all! That was awesome! 8)

Hmmmm... ya that sounds like a good idea. Ill still try to get her #/AIM tho! Thx! Thanks for the advice all! One hour left! OMG can't wait.... BTW do others suggest I stay with her the whole time (assuming it goes well), or make some excuse to go somewhere else?

ya unfortunately none of my friends r going. I was just trying to get her #, the she brought up the dance! Ya i guess. Anyway, I guess I'll kinda show up and act like im not really expecting too much unless she does, so ill play it by ear. I really dont wanna make myself look desperate like that. Well see. Ill tell u guys how it turns out! 6 hours left till the dance!

Well on that, she's super nice, i think it woulda turned out better if i wasnt so awkward, which i wouldnt have been if i had more time, which i woulda if it wasnt for the teacher talking to ____ after class. Anyway ill try to relax. Ill try to have fun to and see if i can make it go well with her. At least ill try to save my rep. Thanks all

OK so I asked a girl out after social studies... it was kinda rushed because I was low on time and I kinda took her by surprise. (I don't know her too well but i have been talking to her during classes and stuff). Ok so heres roughly the conversation: Me: "Hey, _____, can I ask you a question?" Her: "Ya?" Me: "Well I was just wondering, mebbe if you werent busy this weekend, if you would want to let me take you to a movie or something?" Her: "Well I was planning on going to the dance...."*** Me: "Oh. Well honestly I can't really dance. But maybe I could try to get a ticket" (we need to buy tickets beforehand at my school) Her: "OK" (well I think this is the jist of what she said. Honestly I get really nervous when I do stuff like this, and dont remember the exact wording) Me: "OK, where do you want to meet?" Her: "Here" Me: "You mean right here?" Her: "Ya here" Me: "Wait... right here?" (I was thinking what the heck? does she mean outside the social studies room) Her: "At the school... thats where the dance is." (i kinda looked dumb here... oh well) Me: "Oh ok.. cya later" *both leave for next class* ***OK heres where I messed up. I assumed that by this she was sugesting that we could meet up at the dance. However, later I realized that she could have been using this as an excuse to say she was busy. I guess it turned out alright. Furthermore, later that day this one hyper-ADD girl yells out i the hall "hey its the kid thats going out with ___" . This obvioulsy means that ____ said something to one of her friends, but they probably twisted herr words around and I have no idea if this is a good or bad sign (the hyper-ADD kid was saying it to kinda make fun of me, but this shows that ____ at least mentioned it later). Well, now I think ill go to the dance tomorrow night and see if i can find ____. I'm just worried that she'l have a group of friends and theyll laugh at me and/or ___ changes her mind or wasnt serious cause I caught her by surprise. Then my reputation would be screwed for a long time. So I have a few questions... 1. Do you think I messed up asking her out too badly, do you think she was serious, and do you think I should go? 2. What should I do about annoying, immature people who's goal in life is to ruin yours? 3. What do you make of ___ telling people about me asking her out? 4. What should I say to be able to tell if ___ is genuinely intersted in me? 5. What should I say/do/how should I act in general? We're freshmen (14), but there are freshman through seniors. It's a mardi gras dance, but it is like a week from valentines day. 6. I cant dance fer ****, and I was hoping to avoid it alltogether. Any tips? Should I especially avoid slow dancing, as that could be pretty awkward... (esp for the first time like this)? 7. I am really awkward at this kinda stuff. Any other tips/encouragement? Thanks for your help and please respond ASAP, as the dance is tomorrow (saturday) night!

OK are they young (like highschool age)? If so, some people don't want to say they love someone for fear of spoiling the deep meaning of the word. For example, I have a friend who tells his gf he loves her every 5 minutes. When he says it, it no longer seams as meaningful as if you have just told someone that you love them for the first time.

woa, hold on! Guys are expected to initiate this??? O crap! First, were the ones expected to ask a girl out, not the other way around, and now this?!

well i guess it depends on the guy. But many guys would get jealous/insecure if their gf said that. I know if mine did, I'd get kinda worried.

Ok heres its not "the man may think", he's 100% gauranteed to think that! That would be a very bad thing to say

hmmm.... i dunno what if you wear a hat or something?