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many years ago...i was the kid who would sit by himself, who would just nod his head or say "i dunno" when the teacher asked me a question. Its now a few years later, and im living a very simliar life. My answers stay short, I have a few good friends, and a few others whom i talk to in school only. Im seen by others as a the "strong silent type"....which isnt bad, but that is not who i am. There are a few people who im myself around...where I have a smile on my face and can make jokes and be the life of the party, but as soon as someone else comes around or im in a different setting, my other half comes back. I get anxious, i mumble to the point where the person has no damn clue what the hell i said, and i barely say a word unless spoken to. Ive been trying to make new friends and get myself out there. Last week i met this girl from my school, we talked online for a few days...but then when i actually got a chance to talk to her in the hall, i froze. I managed to get out a few words out eventually as we were walking and then just went to my locker. Today a similar thing happened...a friend who i havent spoken to in a few months invited me out to the park to hang out for a bit...i got there, and the same thing happened...i froze. she did most of the talking and all i could do was make a few one word comments....eventually it started to rain so that saved my * * *. I dont know what to do anymore, i really want to get over this....im just so sick of walking down the hall, hoping that someone wont call my name, or that the teacher wont ask me a question infront of the class...hell, even walking on a bus makes me nervous at times....if anyone has any stories or advice that helped them get over being shy...please tell me....please. ....sorry for making this long.

everything is starting to go wrong again....im failing my math course..by almost 20%...i havent been to training in almost three weeks because of the amount of homeowrk i have. well the homework isnt really the problem.....i just waste time by staying on the computer or doing other pointless things....then i fall behind even more. i failed two other tests last week for bio and chem so now my marks are dropping in the 60's. ive never been good at the sciences or math but decided to take this semester for some reason and im struggling alot. im not one of those people who dont care about school so this is really making me feel like ****. i dont know what to do anymore...?

if you are training with her alot...that might not be a good idea...incase it doesnt work out it might be weird having to see her...especially if there is live training and involves you performing the techniques on eachother..like grappling. i train 6 days a week, i would find it uncomfortable having to see her that often if something happened.....

im starting last year of highschool soon...in grade 11 for chem we did some calculations using different formulas...is there going to be more in the coming years?

In my free time...its martial arts...brazilian jiu jitsu and boxing 5 days a week...i'd love to train full time but doesnt seem like that will happen ...before that it was just online games and sitting infront of the computer all day..bah

ahahahaha...thats funny...happens to me too. usually with people who i dont like or dont like me. just ask about their day or make a joke...make her laugh or "lol"...i hate talking to girls on msn makes things too complicated....especially when your trying to get to know them better

again i didnt do anything.... * * * *chdigugng * * * * this sucks....](*,) ](*,) ](*,) ](*,)

gaahhhh...still didnt say anything to her. today too...passed by her like 5 times, she was always looking right at me...looked like she was smiling at me but i just turned away cuz im an idiot ](*,) what should i say..just..hi..whats up? anything is good i suppose. so much easier when your high...but no i wont do that again.

im 145lbs 5'11..i'd pick A.

I do the same....im not sure why. People always say i look pissed off or that i seem like i dont want to talk to them.

and also...last year with my ex....i was in a similar situation. i became too clingy..i would stress that she didnt call, or didnt answer..i would always be trying to get together with her and started asking questions like u did...if she wants to be together. she gave me same reply as your gf did...but then few weeks later she dumped me. learn from this..clingy not good:splat:

well..before you mentioned that she said u were too clingy..i was thinking the same thing. if i were you..i'd try to keep a little distant over the next week or something...if shes pulling back or not answering your calls do the same, just a little more....you'll be able to tell if shes still into you or not. seems like your doing all the work and is the only one interested in a relationship.

theres this girl at school...i see her in halls everyday basically, i dont know her nor have i talked to her. the past ...2 weeks i noticed that she is always staring at me...i'd be walking down the stairs and from side of my eye i can see her staring right at me...today was walking down hall again and right before we passed she was just looking straight into my eyes...but had no expression on her face...is the looking good or bad..maybe i should say something .......shes one of those loud outgoind girls so if she was interested im sure she would say something first..maybe.

...or does anyone know the steps needed to become one. i know there are three different levels but thats about it. to become the highest one what schooling do you need..and how many years?....tell me everything you know, thnx

yeah its quite obvious they dont go together..or else i'd be with someone right now lol.... one thing for those who are shy...i tend to talk low and people have often told me that i have a soft "relaxed" voice.....but thats how i get when im around new people...so try to force yourself to talk louder. its been helping me.

advice? you know what you have to do. next time dont say no. your missing out more by not going. if you happen to "screw up" then you will learn from that and improve. the only way i got better and am getting better at being more social with girls is by going out there. ive been rejected at times, and others i havent. if you dont make a move, someone else will.

maybe shes looking at you cuz your looking at her? ...lol meh

yeah no developments yet aha...well not anything to brag about...but i decided im not going to use the computer or msn for 30 days..im unplugging this * * * *. im on too much, this way i will get some homework done for once and it will force me to talk to the ppl i talk to on msn at school more. i will be back in 30 days to let you know how this is going .....lol

i ordered it off of the chapters website...came in about a week. i dont know if they have chapters down there..im in canada..im sure they do.

uhhm any book store i think..i dont know how different the book is or if there is extra stuff on it...the audio cd is 2 hours..i've been listenin to it everyday for past two weeks..its old but the stuff works...its by maxwell maltz

yeah...and if you get stuck like i did or whatever..just leave..say nice meeting u, or whatever...for guys like us we need the practice...its better to get the practice and skills now that were young. one thing i wont be is a 30 year old whos afraid to talk to women or other people. and i i read this book, its called psycho-cybernetics..well actually i listeniend to the audio cd..i'd recommend it. alot of the stuff he teaches is old but i'd have to say it works, if you practice the excersices he teaches.

alrighttt...so i havent seen her at school..well i did once..but wanted to talk about what happened tonight...was with friends around the area...i just forced myself to talk to some girls. one was at mall..she was friends with some other friends of mine. i went up just asked questions..name..school.. * * * * like that. we talked for about 3 mins or something. then she just got up and left me ahaha without sayin anything. she was high though, so yeah i duno if that really counts. but anyways...my attempt number two...two girls were sitting down at a table inside the mall..i left my friends and approached them..acted friendly introduced myself..they asked me to sit with them. i talked and asked them questions like before but i froze up after about 4 mins didnt know what else to say. so i left. so overall..i got rejected by the first girl..and with the other two nothing really happened. that was my fault..](*,) ...but i learned things today..and if you want to get over this you just have to get out there and practice..like what i did tonight..who cares if you get rejected or nothng happens. sure it bothered me for a few minutes..but with the first girl..hell i dont even know her who cares. people usually wont do things that you fear most..like start telling you off or being rude...im going to keep doing this until i get better..and i know eventually it will get easier. tonight i already feel better off than i was before....ok

ah sounds good. i had bad asthma when iw as younger. and my parents put something in my room that let off this steam or something..it was a unit like you said with water in it. dont know if its same thing hmm

ohh ic..im going shoppin tomorrow i'll check it out..and it goes through the whole house? or is it mainly for the one room?