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  1. TheRealPsiPhi
    Don't try to understand women. They don't understand themselves. I don't think she wants you back. My ex is kinda pulling the same thing. She says that I'm special and important to her and that she'll never find anyone like me, but she doesn't want to be with me. Move on a little. Just have fun.
  2. TheRealPsiPhi
    Maybe I wasn't clear enough. She says that she feels disconnected from herself. That she doesn't know how she feels about anything. Like she isn't really herself.
  3. TheRealPsiPhi
    I didn't know where to put this so I'm doing it in two places. I have a friend who can't seem to get ahold of her emotions and doesn't know how she feels. She said she felt, "disconnected from herself." I asked if it was stress and she said no. She is an emotional rollercoaster that is up one day, but depressed the next. Is there anything I can do to help her?
  4. TheRealPsiPhi
    It's not so much that I want her to come crawling back on hands and knees begging for me back, I just want her get through her problems. I'd rather see her being able to understand what's going on in her own head then to be confused for the rest of her life on her decisions. I really don't know if I could take her back if she wanted to get together. In a way, she left my heart a little empty and I'd be afraid of the same thing happening again 2 years down the road. Probably 2 months with her since she dosn't like to work at things. Maybe some day she'll figure out exactly what she wants and see that she lost a good thing. Who knows. Right now I'm more concerned about me.
  5. TheRealPsiPhi
    Well, she broke up with me. Said she couldn't take all the stress of school, her job, and the relationship which slowly turned into a "she doesn't know how she feels about me" type thing. Of course I want her back, but I feel that right now she is just afraid of loosing me from her life and it's her attempt to reel the "kite" back in. Nothing has really changed in her life and she always runs away from her problems. She didn't say she wanted to work things out, just that she missed me and felt lost. She can figure out what she wants better without me there. In the long run I'm not contacting her cause I don't want her to feel like she is in "control" of me. I don't want her to think that she can say a few nice things and think everything is better and that I'm still ensnared. A lot of things have been said and I just don't feel like this is a sincere thing right now. It's only been a few weeks of NC (3). She knows my e-mail address and number. If she is serious she will contact me again.
  6. TheRealPsiPhi
    She sent me an e-mail of how she's been very sad latly and that she feels lost without me. She asked how I was doing. I'm not going to respond to it though. I'm still healing. However, that is a step in the right direction I think.
  7. TheRealPsiPhi
    I wouldn't let myself be used if I was you. Congrats on her calling you though. I've been kinda following your plight since your first posts and I'm glad to see things are working out for you in a way. I'm on week 2 of my complete no contact and I've already heard from mutual friends that my ex is "always thinking of me" and "is really confused about her feelings." Anyway, as for my advice, tell her EXACTLY how you feel. You being the only person she's ever been with shouldn't be a problem. If she has found Mr. Right on the first try that is great! Tell her that she's more likly to lose you by "wanting to keep her options open" and "seeing how things with this other guy works out." After that, do what you'd normally do. Hang out with her. Have fun! Don't spoil her. Make her pay her own way. You're just going out as friends. Don't treat her as anything more. If she starts to break down on you, end the night. Just say, "Look, we're just friends right now and this isn't something I can deal with. Let me take you home." See how she responds in the next few weeks to this treatment. So a month huh? Man... I hate this damn waiting...
  8. TheRealPsiPhi
    Truer words have never been said. I've hit the one week mark and now I'm having trouble going to sleep at night. And this is supposed to help us?
  9. TheRealPsiPhi
    Yeah... I hate women and their tabs... NC is hard enough. It does sound like you are being a little cold though. Maybe next time she calls answer and talk for a couple of minutes to find out why she is calling. It may be important, you never know. If you don't see the conversation going anywhere, tell her you have to go. That you have a date or something to get ready for. Wether it's true or not, she'll think about it and wonder about you more. Keep her in suspense.
  10. TheRealPsiPhi
    That was long... I read every word of it too. However, just folding to their whim isn't really that good. You're technically letting them walk on you. I agree that if you are about to break up you should respect that, but trying to be indifferent isn't the way to go. I still think you should show compassion. Give it sometime to heal a little and if you can talk to them. Don't beg them to come back, it doesn't work. Just talk to them. It helps.
  11. TheRealPsiPhi
    That's nice. I'm kind of going through the same things. I don't know where it will go, but hey, if it's ment to be, it will happen. Any more?
  12. TheRealPsiPhi
    Actually, I'd like to hear some success stories too. Not to "get my hopes up," but to actually give me hope. It's endearing and uplifting.
  13. TheRealPsiPhi
    Agreed. I just wish I could get my ex to see that. Instead she runs away from all her problems and now she doesn't understand why she is so unhappy in life. She asked why I was willing to help her when she had hurt me so bad and all I could say was, "Cause I love you and want to see you happy." I know I need NC right now. I feel horrible as it stands. However, talking to her makes me feel good for that short time we talk. Congrats on getting back together. I wish you luck on your second chance.
  14. TheRealPsiPhi
    "I care, but we can't keep in touch anymore. Maybe somewhere down along the line, we can. But not for now. If you care about me, then you will give me my space to move on." More or less that is what I told her. Trust me, I know what is best for me right now, I'm just trying to get in her head. Understand what's going on. I already feel like she is being selfish. Anyway, I told her I needed space. She cried and said something around the lines of, "Refusing to loose me from her life." We talked for about another hour. We've come to the conclusion that she'll call me ONLY if she really needs me and only once a week. She said that I should call her if I need her too, but she isn't the person that I need right now. The way she explains her personal problems sounds like she is going through some form of a mid-life crisis. I think she is too young for that. She says she doesn't know what she wants out of life. So, I'm kinda waiting it out. I'm not really ready to start seeing other people yet, but I'm going to keep apart from her a little. Hang out with my boys more. And WoW comes out Tuesday to keep me busy. I'll update in a week or so.
  15. TheRealPsiPhi
    Okay, I've been dating this girl for 2 years. Recently she broke up with me. However, she is saying that she needs me. She cried to me on the phone because she was afraid of loosing me forever, but she said she doesn't love me like she used to. That she still loves me though. That she doesn't want to live her life without me. That she can't be happy without me. This sounds a lot like she wants to have her cake and eat it to. I don't know what to do really. I don't want to give in to her, but I love her and want her in my life. I'll try to explain it better when I get all the details.
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