I can speak with recent experience. My ex and I broke up a few months ago because of a lot of confussion and he let it get the better of him, so he decided to call it quits and I just gave up....wasn't going to fight it anymore; it was too painful. We decided to be friends and the first evening he came over we ended up being intimate-he took that as a sign of getting back together. I, however, am happy with the way my life fell right back into place; going out with my friends, focusing a little more on my school work, and I feel so much better about taking an internship that's coming up. Point here is: I regret being intimate because it was like breaking up all over again. Usually when people break up and get back together, they fall into this trap of going back to old habbits, etc. It becomes a routine: break up, back together, break up, back together. There's no end to that circle. And most of the time you end up loosing so much of yourself. I've done it before and I saw myself falling back into that this last time. I feel lucky to have caught it now so I can stop it...doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, but it's better to look at the long term vs. the here and now satisfaction. Of course I love him, I always will. I believe once you love someone, they will always be special to you. After all, they have influenced your life one way or another whether you like it or not. The thing about the wedding I"d be a little weery about because a wedding is a sensual ceremony and I know sometimes can make people think things and intamacy usually is what the end of the evening leads up to if there's any history of that between the person you go with. THere's my thoughts for now....