larajenkins4

you say you were talking about marriage? what decision did you reach? because the fact she was discussing marriage with you means that she has some plans to spend the rest of her life with you, surely? how long has it been since she said she wanted time? what might be happening, is that she is feeling forced by her parents to meet new people, hang out with friends, to please them, but not in an obvious way. if you get me? her parents might be giving her the impression she needs to mix with friends too, but not realising it. or, she may just like hanging out with her friends, because girls are close to her friends. but not spending much time with you at all doesnt seem to promising, but i really do think that if you love this girl, and you do because you said, then its worth waiting to find out what she decides. how would you feel knowing that if you had have waited, that you would have had a future together? but what ever you decide, i hope it works out alright with you.

i find it hard to trust people too, i sometimes feel like im living my life like that film 'the truman show' and i find it hard to trust people. i find it quite easy to tell people my feelings, but i find it hard to trust them completely, always thinking theyre lying to me in someway. its not uncommon, but its one screwed up way to think, but dont worry, cus plenty of people do!

yeah, i have, i currently am. but its different to that, its not sick.

i know how you feel, i love someone whos older too, well not quite 45, 35. but you are only 13, thats way too young for 45 year old men to be looking at you, you've only just become a teenager and he wants to do stuff with you, that isnt right. do your parents know? i think you should steer clear of him

well, you need to start talking to her first! get to know her

well where will you see her? in a public place? or a proffesional place?

well, you could start by chatting to her, next time you see her. you will need to find out her status, whether shes married, or got a boyfriend, and you can find that out through chatting to her. when will you next see her?

well, you could ask questions like 'whats your favourite song' or questions that lead to a long answer, and will make her think, that way, shes getting personnaly envoved in your conversation, and it helps you not to seem boring, or you could talk about something you've heard about, or something that might envolve her, her future? what things do you have in common?

what does she know already? whats the situation?

how many times do you find real love? it doesnt matter about the age, if you love him, then be with him. it doesnt matter about the age, it only matters the happy times you spend together. so be with him if you love him, it doesnt matter what people say, or what the age gap is, if he feels the same, then its worth figthing for, no matter what the age gap is.

yeah, i guess i will see what happens in 2 years time. i have already liked him for 2 years, so i dont know what could happen in the next time. thanks for replying, you've made me see it in another light. lara

i know this may sound silly, but what if i waited? even after i had left would it be ok? i have only 2 years left back at that school, i go back into 6th form tomorrow. maybe i could see how it goes in those 2 years? do you think he wud be in trouble after i had left?

i'm 16, and hes 35. we get on really well, and he sees it too. i dont think my family would accept it, but my friends already have, and they support me, but if my family loved me, they would support me wouldnt they?

This is gonna sound a little weird, but i am in love with my teacher, and i know this is not meant to happen rele, but i am, and people say he feels the same, but i dont know. what could happen if it did happen? will it ever happen? it really hurts to think we will never be together. please help. lara