lilybud

My bf and I broke up not long ago but we are trying to patch up again. My mom is not supportive of this relationship but I know she would accept him if I really wanted to marry this guy. However, his parents absolutely dislike and disapprove of me. They were never fond of me after the found out that about my health problems (before we broke up). His mom is afraid that I would be a burden to his son if we get married. I was appalled by such behaviour. She did research on my health problems not because she cared for me, but because she wanted to know how severe my problem was and if it could adversely affect his son's future (if we get married). Isn't this unfair judgement ? Situation has gotten worse after we broke up. His parents kept advising him to forget about me and that he should date other girls. They told him that I will never ever commoit to him and that I am not worthy of him. His parents' views on me are very important to him. He is very stressed out because of this. So am I. I am really afraid that these negative forces will destroy our relationship in the future. I know I will have to move the earth for his parents to like me. It's like as though we're not meant to be together. Even my mom is not supportive.

I have gone out with my boyfriend for 8 years. in between we have broken up once and i started going out with another guy. However, we got back together and we are now thinking of getting married. Throughout this 8 years, we hardly had sex at all (we stayed together for a year). We hardly had any sex even during the beginning of our relationship. We have single digit number of experience and we never lasted long enough for him to come. We only touch each other. He doesn't show much interest in sex. I have always thought that the problem lies in me. However, after going out with this other guy, i found that i was capable of performing and enjoying sex. And now I start to compare the lack of it with my bf .... and worse still, he's incompetency at it. i am afraid that the situation will be more or less the same after we get married. How are we going to have kids ? I want to feel the passion too. I do not know how to talk to him about this. I don't want him to think and question about what I did with my ex. He is a great guy in so many ways. He loves me very much. But i do need to feel the passion as well .... which I don't feel anymore. Am I wrong to feel this way ? To be afraid that the lack of sex may jeopardise our marriage in the future ? We are in our twenties ...... Are we a normal couple ?

your ex is going thru a love/hate relationship with you. his moving out is a sign of him wanting to move on without you in his life ..... whether he succeed in moving on, only time will tell. but you should not place your hopes high. your priority in life now is your baby. am not sure if you have had your abortion. regardless, my advice to you is that you should get parental support. this is where you will find unconditional love and support. it's difficult to walk this road on your own. you have done wrong. repent and move forward. life has to go on - with or without him

I have been going out with my boyfriend for many years and I cheated on him. He knew about my relationship with this other guy but he forgave me and wanted to move on with me. I know he loves me a lot and we are thinking of getting married. However, I had an abortion with this other guy. Should I come clean and let my boyfriend know ? I know that I will lose him forever if I told him the truth.