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I think I may start recording her voice mails. But now whenever she calls she blocks her number. I've asked her why many times and she just plays dumb with me. Anyways I dont think her ex will do anything this guy and his friends are quote "26 year old smart itallians". And the way she talks she is some internationally known Uma Therman (kill bill) clone, she was obsessed with that movie because it "got revenge on people" She also uses the line "you don't know who your dealing with", as a matter of fact I do, our fathers are friends so maybe I should just talk to her dad. The age difference seems a little sketchy, i'm guessing since this guy is 26 he has enough sense not to abuse someone for a 19 year old girl. but then again he is dating a 19 year old psychotic narcisist. I'm supposed to call her tonite but that's not going to happen, I think tomorow I may get my number changed and block her number from my phone. She was my first g/f, hopefully it gets better.

I've told her MANY times to leave me alone, It seems to inspire her to call and harass me even more. It's starting to get out of hand, especially with remarks like "Don't tell anyone about this or else it will get ten times worse", I cant tell anyone yet supposedly all her friends know her side of a story which she must have embelleshed quite a bit. My only wrong doing to her was not buying her everything she wanted. While we were dating she would go hang out with her ex because I didn't have any money to take her out. I'm a poor college student she should have seen that coming. By the way this b/f who she talks of is actually her ex before me, who she "despised". I told her I'm going to change my phone # if she keeps calling. Her reply is "I know where you live and so do all my friends and they all know what your car looks like. You will get beat up, you've pushed this too far and I don't deserve to be treated this way". I never have and never will kiss her feet and I think that's what she expects from me. I've never done anything to her that would warrant this type of behavior.

I'm sure a couple of you have probably read my posts about my ex girlfriend giving me a hard time. Sorry to say I have another. She ditched me at her house she never returned the phone calls. Two weeks after that incident I saw her in school, she was mad because I "Never called her". I thought three phone calls and no call back it was time to take a hint. She called tonite and asked why I didn't call her this weekend, and told me that she need reimbursemnt. She drew a picture for me when we were dating, I threw it out., now she wants it back. She has pulled this same thing three times now. Every time she has threatened to have me beat up by her b/f and such ( I feel it's a little extreme). When she called tonite she wanted a DVD and some of my CD's plus cash for her "art piece". If I didn't do all this there was going to be "big trouble". I can never get a word in because she constantly interrupts me and tries to say some hurtful comment. I'm beginning to think that she still likes me because she is always making excuses to meet with me. She tries to personally attack me constantly but i'm to the point where I feel i should take everything she says with a grain of salt. Anyways this girl is starting to get on my nerves. I've tried not calling her. If she calls and I don't pick up my phone i'll receive at least three voicemails with threatening remarks. I don't know if she gets off still trying to control me. It kind of feels that way. I've tried breaking contact but she keeps calling and I've tried asking her her "If all these condescending remarks you says about me are true why does you keep calling me? She nevers answers that question.

She broke up with me the first time. Second time she was calling me threatening to have her friends come and kick my ass, calling me names, etc.. When she got there she began crying saying she wanted to work it out. She kept telling me she pushes people away but it takes time for her to not push someone away. I was extreemly mad, told her never to call me or talk to me again, etc. way too much drama. Third time she broke up with me again. Again calls of "i'm seeing my ex boyfriend" who she constantly put down. I felt bad for the guy and I have never met him. Although I should have known she was cold after our first date. Either way it's obvious i'm being used.

My ex and I have been getting along very well for the past few months. She called nearly everyday after our breakup. Last week she mentioned the thought of us getting back together, I still care about her so I agreed that we should try. I picked her up to take her out for dinner, small conflicts in scheduling caused me to be later than planned. When I mentioned this to her she got very angry with me. The rest of the evening didn't go much better. We missed our dinner reservations, soon after she asked to go home. On the drive to her house she mentioned that she only views me as a friend. It was a bit upsetting but knew I at least wanted to remain friends. When we arrived she asked me to drive 30miles back to pick up some photographs at my house. Unwillingly I did only to arrive back at 11pm, just in time to see the lights in the house shut off, thinking, "alright she'll be out in a minute." After 10 minutes and no sign I left feeling very used and confused. I tried caling her the next day but she was unavailable. Again I called monday but she still didn't and hasn't called back. I'm going to end the phone calls since i'm guessing that's what she's hinting at. I didn't want to lose her friendship but it seems that's what has happened.

She just called again. Told me i was wrogn for not calling her and conosling her better after she mentioned that her b/f was missing. I honesly didn't know what so say the only thing i could think of was that i could imagine how he felt. she was calling me a psyhco, selfish, baby, etc for not telling her that i felt she was ignoring me. She thought that i was being a psycho for mentioning her not paying attnetion to me? am i being a psycho? I'm starting to get reallyl confused. Everythign she mentioned was my fault, EVERYTHInG. She told me that she also calls her es's and tells them who she's dating when i got upset for her calling me asking about some guy who was taking her out. She told me that was really weird and sick that i would get upset about something like her dating someone else. This guy who I've never even met leaves a suicide note and is missing, feel bad about that but i have no idea what to say and she always makes me feel worse. I admit i can see how i came off selfish and i can be a bit selfish at times. But she called me saturday night when got two hours of sleep on friday and was workign hard all day sat, then went to a concett until 11 and was extreemely tired, too tired to drive a half hour to her hosue. I just feel like if iwould have called her she would have gotten pissed and asked what was that about last time, why didn't you tell me it wasn't my fault. basically why didn't you tell me what i want to hear. This sitution feels so hopeless and impossible i feeel like i'm scraing my nails against the dirt in a hole i can't get out of.

my jaw dropped while reading that. Everything said on there is what i've been dealing with. For some odd reason reading that... made me feel alot better. thanks

she called me last night around 3 am. telling me how she was at her ex's (before me) house with some friends and was ignoring him. Apparently he has attempted suicide once in front of her and last night attempted it again. She was pretty upset so i didn't want to be a dick but she kept saying things like "your not doing a good job comforting me" and "i'm going to call my friend he knows how to talk to me". It's hard to be nice and console someone when all they do is critique my words. and I don't think i said this before but when she called me the morning after that party she was asking me if i knew anything about some guy there and told me he asked her out and she was considering it. the ONLY reason i could think she would say that to me is to try and upset me. She dates these oversensative guys and treats them like crap, in my opioion she needs soemone thick headed who doesn't care what she does. thanks for being helpfull everyone, you have no idea how much i appreciate it.

1) 6 months 2) 3 weeks 3) money was always too big of an issue, she's an extrovert and i am not 4. i'm 20 she's 19

I think she has already tested my limits. The more I thought about it today the more i realized that there is no reason to care about who she flirts with etc.. She has done nothing but put me down for the past 3 months. It's the fact that she was my first real girlfriend and I guess i just wanted it to last longer than a few months. Hopefully i can find someone.

She does have a job, but always comments on how poor I am. every morning calling me telling me to work in a restaurant which i've worked in 5 and swore i would never experience again when i reached this age. no offense to anyone working in them I just can't handle the stress. She always re assures herself that she's such a GREAT person, i would give her that compliment if i felt it was true. She's told me she hates me at least three times, then when i bring it up she suddenly can't remember, yet she can remember minisclue details of conversations which we had months ago if it will work out in her favor. I know i don't deserve to be treated like this b/c even my parents say it troubles them. I need to stop being so weak twords her. She always tells me her feminist views on things about how horrible guys are how stupid they are, and how she'll get revenge on anyone. When i first met her she came off as this independent person who didn't care about what anyone else thought, and i was deveistatingly disappointed when i found out the way she acutally is. When she calls on the phone, if I don't agree with something she wants she gets immediately upset and starts personally attacking me. I could have done the same to her many times, but I don't feel anyone deserves that. Thanks for the advice avman

My girlfriend of 6 months and I broke up last month. I had problems with her she had problems with me. During the time of breakup she takes everything of hers back including all my change$ and refuses to give anything i left at her place back to me (she's 19, lives w/ parents). She went on a 15 minute speech about how i was not to contact her, talk to her, talk to friends, etc... she even went to far as to say do not drive by her house. (I think she has the wrong impression of me b/c of her last b/f) Anyways she called me up like three days after asking if i wanted to hang out, having a very nice vocal tone. ( I should mention that we broke up once and she went crazy on me having her firends call and threaten me if i didn't give them back her beer, then when the time came i told her i never wanted to see her again she started cryiing and saying that she wanted to work it out) So we start hanging out and everything is fine until she wants to get sex involved in this "friend" relationship. I didn't feel right about it, but we have been having it w/ eachother for the past month. But i don't know what is true with her because she says one thing to me and does another. She came over a few nights ago for a party which was unexpected and tells me she doesn't give a care about anyone outside she came to see me. a half hour later she is out at the table talking to 4 guys and the whole night she doesn't move, she doesn't even acknowledge me, makes me feel like an unwanted stranger in my own home. This morning she called me telling me to get a job so i can have money so we can take a trip out of town this weekend. But she tells me she gave the guy at the party her number and he called and asked her out. I asked "are you going to?" she said she didn't know yet but he asked her to hang out on sunday, but said she would rather take a trip with me. I have no clue what to think I don't know if she wants to be friends but keep having sex, but it bothers me that she flirts with guys in front of me. I know it probably shouldn't but it makes me feel horrible like i screwed up so bad and she's trying to throw it in my face that i was not her ideal boyfriends, to whom she always compares me to, and compares me to her firends and even tells me to be more like my friend. Am i being oversensitive on this issue? It takes me to the point of depression and anxiety when she just flirts with other guys in front of me and treats me like complete crap. Then when they leave comes to me like i'm still her boyfriend. She keeps telling me she wants to be friends and as weak as it is, I don't know if i can handle it.