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hmm if the testicles go in too...wow...I'm beginning to think that might get painful hahaha

thats interesting...once my friend made an analogy about handjobs: "A handjob is alot like a ride in a nice limousine. I mean, I can drive, but every so often, its nice to have someone do it for ya"

I was talking with my girlfriend a few weeks ago and somehow we had gotten to this topic. I knew even before I asked her out that she had gone farther than I had (oral as far as I knew). By now we are extremely close and we got to the point where I felt comfortable telling her that while i was not ready now, I could see in the future considering going 'all the way' with her based on how comfortable and good we always feel around each other. She agreed which made me very happy (just to know that someone shared a similar feeling with me). I don't take the idea of sex as lightly as some do, however I am realistic about it. Following her agreement,however, she said 'I don't know if you should reconsider or not...you'd probably want to share your first time with someone who was also a virgin.' I didn't understand exactly what she meant at first and then I was kind of surprised. She had never told me that she wasnt a virgin. This didn't completely bother me. I still think of her exactly the same. But the idea of her 'suggestion' kinda keeps coming back to haunt me. I think about it and I get almost depressed, because when I first brought up 'us going all the way' I was doing it under the impression that we would be sharing the 'loss of each other's virginity' and it would be something very special to share. I could be naieve, but the thought of her doing that with another guy than me is so hard for me to even fathom. I still consider myself kind of young (16) to have considered this but it had to happen sooner or later. She is younger than I am which makes it even more difficult to grasp (I think its unfortunate cus I'm usually a very understanding guy). If anyone oculd help me out if you've gone through this or otherwise that'd be great. Thanks

i dont think you really have too much to worry about in terms of getting really aroused while making out. ive done some pretty crazy stuff throughout making out while incredibly aroused (grinding for like over 10 mins, my gf has even started touching me through my pants and stuff) and I usually dont 'cum.' Unless of course it ends with a handjob or something lol. In that case I really don't think you hafta worry about how long you 'last' considering the purpose of a handjob IS to make you cum. It kinda shows (in a roundabout sorta way) that she's doing a good job

hmm. well anatomically speaking, most arousals involve some form of heavy blood flow (i.e. when a guy gets a hardon or something. While I can't speak for the female body personally, I know that sometimes when I get aroused I can sorta feel a pulsing, either my heart beating, or any of the veins/arteries/whatever nearest to my ears. lol I hope that kinda helps a bit...

my opinion: doesn't really matter too much as long as we're not talking a rediculous amount of hair lol...shaven is nice, but its also nice when it neatly trimmed. its really up to what you'd prefer on yourself I guess.

hahahah wow i just had to look. Penes?! Yikes I'll remember that for the numerous times when for some reason I'll be talking about MORE THAN ONE penis haha.

I completely agree. (Especially with the last paragraph haha). I've only been going out with my current girlfriend for a little over a month (we had done stuff before we were officially going out, but still), and its something not TOO serious that you can do and really get into while making out. While a guy can hardly achieve an orgasm from it, it still feels good, and personally I really like it when I know that she's 'enjoying it' too. AND definitely if you get walked in on, its a BIT better than if you got walked in on with your hand down a girl's panties or something

ah thank you for the totally amazing idea. weve mostly been doing small ones and sorta saying hello and emailing them. its really nice actually. thanks again

thanks lily04. it seems that a few of you have sorta taken the long distance relationship to a much bigger....well....distance than im used to hearing about (at least from friends around here-- im not sure how many highschool students have realistically worried about such things). for the most part, the two of us are hoping for a long weekend during the school year where one of us could either fly or take a bus out to see the other. and if anything, we would be looking for at least a day to spend together. after talking to her about it, we figured that just a few hours together would be rediculous (especially cus one if not both of us would end up having to be dragged home while begging to stay with the other. ) well im basically hoping for the best. thanks again for all the input and support on this.

thanks alot for the input. computerguy, i havent been on the board too long but may i ask how far away exactly (locations that type of stuff)? either way i think i might try some of your ideas and just basically see how things go. thanks again!

This will probably sound like just another general long-distance relationship, but i figured I might as well get an opinion other than my own on this situation. About a year ago, I went on vacation (a cruise to be precise) and met a few new people, one of which was a girl. On the cruise nothing special happened but we became friends. We talked online and on the phone for about 6 months after that and soon began to realize that we had a definite connection between the two of us. Eventually I told her that i liked her alot (yes in that way) and coincidentally she did the same with me. There was one problem, she lives about 12 hours away (driving distance) from me. We continued our relationship in a very simple manner: never forgetting the way we felt about each other, but at the same time not getting too carried away about it in the even that we didnt see each other. Recently, she and I both turned 16, but in her area she was able to get her liscence for driving, wheras I was only able to get my permit. Now that we can drive, she and I have promised to come see each other at some point. A few nights ago though, we talked about her coming out here to see each other sometime. She offered to come out the next day, but unfortunately her parents aren't too keen on her driving that long and far yet. I accepted it and told her not to worry, we will see each other soon at some point. Unfortunately though, my anticipation to see her (and hers as she's told me) has grown much more than usual. I realize it is only natural, but it is very hard to deal with especially when I know she won't be here tomorrow or something. Does anyone have any suggestions of things to do at all (beyond just thinking about something else) that might help me not worry so much about this? Has anyone else been through anything like this that could give me a few ideas?

I had my first about 6 months ago (i was still 15 then). Just with a friend I was very comfortable being around. It was sorta a mutual agreement that we were at the level in friendship that we could do that. But dont worry about it too much, especially at your age. I mean...sure, when I was 12 I wanted to, but I always kept it at a level where it wouldnt be the end of the world if I didn't. Your time will come.

im really starting to think that people's definitions are changing with the seasons on the 'bases'. but for the most part ive heard the ones that bloodblade and duderanomi mentioned the most.