chopstixmaster

My gf and i have been on and off for almost two years now. A few months ago we went to the beach and we both had a great time. a couple of days after that she tells me she wants to end it. i was shocked. turns out she had a so called talk with her mom. (her mom by the way hates me because i am cambodian and am supposedly not good enough for her family, only chinese and whites are) so her and her mom have a long talk about her future with school, guys, and marriage. her mom says she is young, should be single and experience guys. so after she "talked" to her mom she felt pressured to break up with me which she did. i knew in my heart it wasnt her choice when she broke up with it me, even though she never said so. so 2 months pass by and we both go back to school. i bumped into her we chatted for a little and finally asked her why she made the decision and if it was really hers. she admitted that it wasnt really her tru decision she also told me that right after we broke up she saw her ex. her mom loves her ex b/c he is white and is rich, not sayin im poor or nething. her mom talks about him all the time to her blah this blah that. so she went on a few dates to make her mother happy and to see if her mother was right . when she told me this i was really hurt, and she said that it made it clear that she really loved me. so i was okay with since they did not do nething sexual (shes waitin till marriage, which is why her ex dumped her). so another few months go by and everthing is great again. it doenst last of course. when we went home for winter break the gf one day called and i knew something was up. the next day i talked to her she was like i just want to be friends, which was totally different from what she said right b4 we left home for break. but by the way she talked and said things i knew that there was something else. she feels guilty that she is with me b/c she is lying to her parents and that she wants just to be friends. dont get me wrong i am ok with being friends, but i already went down that road and its the same. after we broke up b4 i was just her friend and she still couldnt hang out or do nething that firends could do. i just feel that she could never stand up for me and especially herself. she always does what her parents want sacrificing her happiness. our relationship has been absolutely wonderful, we love spending time with each other, and i really truly love her. the only time things are sour is when her parents come up. if they know we are together they give her lots of trouble by saying degrading things and ignoring her. if they dont know we are together the gf feels guilty of lying and stuff. i just dont know what to do, i told her that i wouldnt talk to her anymore becuase the problem isnt between us and that she is taking it out on our relationship. i told her she has to talk to her parents if she really loves me. its not like im a criminal or ever treated her bad. i just feel the bottom line is that she cant talk to her parents because they will degrade her again. its not like im telling her to decided between her parents and i. i really miss her a lot and dont know what to do. =**(

i just feel the mom is indirectly trying to get rid of me, she cant say im a bad bf b/c i havent dont anything wrong. if she says im bad then she would just push her daughter away b/c i havent done nething to be bad. so instead of sayin im bad she just says something else. same goal but just a different route. her ex bf whom she went out with in high school was white and her mom had no prob with him. she in fact loved him to death and when he broke up with my ex her mom tried to get them back together. i dunno if its true but most asians see white people as a higher class. even though im asian she sees me as a lower class asian. i dont know. i dunno wuts rong wit the mom she maybe jeoulous? i just feel she wont let her daughter grow. the mom says shes too young to be commited and she could miss out on the one. the young and commited thing i can understand that, but if nothing is broken then y fix it. if the one comes then nothin will bring them apart. i just feel my relationship with the ex was ruined by the mother.

her mom "says" im a good guy that i treat her daugther very well and everything. so she tells her daughter that i deserve better, shouldnt i be the judge of that? with the mom thing it is more of a status thing. i wont make the family look good or something b/c i am not chinese or white.

what about the mom issue?

my ex and i have been broken up for about 2 months. the first month was easy because we were both at home, but this month has been hard because we bump into each other all the time on campus. she broke up wit me because her mom says she shouldnt be commited right now, and if shes commited to me she would miss out on the other guys. she is really close to her mom and takes what she says to heart. her mom hates me b/c of my race and thereforeeee apparently im not good enough. but the last month we have been bumping into each other and i could tell she still had strong feelings for me. so i ask her out to lunch n stuff, but she makes excuses. i didnt say anything at first, but after talking to her sister who im pretty close with, i decided to talk to her. her sister was definitely surprised by the breakup which came outta nowhere. so i asked to talk to my ex and she came over. at first she was keepin her distance, and it was awkward for the both of us. but soon after talkin it became normal just like the old days. we cuddled and everything we even told each other i love you. i knew she was trying to avoid me because she was trying to hide her true feelings for me. she broke up wit me not becasue of how i treated her or things i did but because of some issues inthe future that no one can predict that her mom scared her with. she didnt want to see me becase it was easier to get through that way, but i couldnt get over her because the relationship between us two ended becasue of an outside factor. the two years we have been together have been amazing. im just not sure what to expect now, i no she still loves me. she says she is scared of being commited b/c she might miss out on someone else( more like her mom sayin it). she says she wants to find herself and grow n stuff like that but how does having more guy firends have to do anything with that. i no my ex wont do nething with the guys but it im scared of the guys takin advantage of her b/c she is innocent and always thinks the best of everyone. i just feel like we broke up b/c of an issue between her growing up from her family and they take it out on me.

a month and a half ago my ex broke up with me for various reasons. we went the beach, she told me she loved me, everything was good and two days later she broke up with me. the reasons she said were i just dont see it working out in the future, im goin to transfer, i shouldnt be committed right now im too young, i need to see more guys. all of these reasons came out of nowhere. and i do not see them being an obstacle to our relationship if they are legit reasons. after talking for a while i found out she talked to her mom. all the reasons she gave to me were from her mom. her mom has always hated me just for the fact that i am cambodian and my ex is chinese and apparently im not good enough. her mom has always been trying to break us up by making my ex feel bad about herself. everything is extremely wonderful when her mom is not involved. my ex's sister was completey surprised by the quick change of heart. so we had no contact for a month. once we got back to school she was supposed to call me because we were supposed to clear things up about being friends or not. she didnt even wanna call me b/c she said things would be hard or weird. eventually we saw each other and i could tell she had feelings for me. i asked more questions and the way she reacted i knew her mom was why we broke up. she cried a bunch and i knew she was torn between doin what she wanted and doin what her mom wants. i talked to her sister and found out her mom told her not to be friends with me b/c her feelings would come back. the past few days i bumped into her a few times and i could tell she was happy to see me. it is hard for me to get over her b/c we didnt fight or cheated on each other, we broke up for a dumb reason. we obviously have feelings for each other still. the two years we were together were amazing and i just dont understand how it can change so dramatically in two days. i want to get back with her i jsut dont know how i should act or what i should to or say.

a month and a half ago my ex broke up with me for various reasons. we went the beach, she told me she loved me, everything was good and two days later she broke up with me. the reasons she said were i just dont see it working out in the future, im goin to transfer, i shouldnt be committed right now im too young, i need to see more guys. all of these reasons came out of nowhere. and i do not see them being an obstacle to our relationship if they are legit reasons. after talking for a while i found out she talked to her mom. all the reasons she gave to me were from her mom. her mom has always hated me just for the fact that i am cambodian and my ex is chinese and apparently im not good enough. her mom has always been trying to break us up by making my ex feel bad about herself. everything is extremely wonderful when her mom is not involved. my ex's sister was completey surprised by the quick change of heart. so we had no contact for a month. once we got back to school she was supposed to call me because we were supposed to clear things up about being friends or not. she didnt even wanna call me b/c she said things would be hard or weird. eventually we saw each other and i could tell she had feelings for me. i asked more questions and the way she reacted i knew her mom was why we broke up. she cried a bunch and i knew she was torn between doin what she wanted and doin what her mom wants. i talked to her sister and found out her mom told her not to be friends with me b/c her feelings would come back. the past few days i bumped into her a few times and i could tell she was happy to see me. it is hard for me to get over her b/c we didnt fight or cheated on each other, we broke up for a dumb reason. we obviously have feelings for each other still. the two years we were together were amazing and i just dont understand how it can change so dramatically in two days. i want to get back with her i jsut dont know how i should act or what i should to or say.

i am seeing my ex after 1 month of NC. and i am wondering how should i act or what i should say. one of the reasons she broke it off was that were in a serious relationship at a young age and i kinda guess she was scared of missing out on things. i want to know if a girl really does get that curious about other guys. my ex has always gotten a lot of attention from guys even during the 2 years we went out in college. does she miss gettin hit on from all the guys?

my ex and i have have gone out for about 2 years and we broke up about a month ago. she wanted to have no contact with me until we got back to school which is in a few days. she instant messaged me a week ago asking what i was up to and when she was going back to school, i responded casually. yesterday she emailed me the exact date of when she was going. i did not reply to the email. i want to know how i should act or what i should do when i talk to her. she broke up with me b/c her mom doesnt approve of me(not because of how i treat her but more or less my ethnicity) her mom tells her that she shouldnt be commited right now she should to see other guys, she is gonna transfer to another school( just a few hrs away no biggie for me i can drive to see her when i can) and she wants more guy friends. so since she broke up with me i am still confused about which one is the real reason or maybe a part of all of them is real. the breakup caught everyone by surprise even her sister was surprised. things between us have always been GREAT but her moms disapproval of me really gets to her. i am also wondering what she thinks about other guys as well. i am her first serious bf and even while we were goin out guys hit on her and emailed her for dates n stuff, i did not act jealous or let it bother me cuz i know she loves me, but does she miss all the attention a single girl gets? maybe shes bored of me? i just dont know what to say or how to act toward her once we talked in a few days. we will have not seen each other for a month. need sum advice of what to do

we are not contacting each other right now at all. she has one semester left at the same school i attend. so in 2-3 weeks when we go back we will talk. i just hate the fact that everything is soo perfect between us w/o the mom sayin stuff about me and what she should do with her "future" which i think she is just sayin to get rid of me indirectly. i know my gf needs to do what she wants but she has always done what her parents want so it is hard when she is at home, and i know that she loves me because she told them she was goin out with me. i also want to know if girls get "bored" with their guy after a long period of time. my gf b4 i got with her always got a tons of attention from guys and even when we were going out guys always still hit on her. i didnt get jealous by the way. does she miss that? all the attention? i am her first serious bf. so im not sure what questions to ask when we talk or how to get her back. i just dont understand how her mom could "hate" me even though she doesnt know me. a lot of people hated me after i got with my gf because they were jealous of me but even after awhile they got to know me and became friends.

my girlfriend and i have been going out for 2 years and she recently broke up with me. this caught me by surprise as we just went to the beach and had a great time. she said there were a couple of reasons for breaking up. One was that she was transferring to another university, her mom said she shouldnt be commited right now, she might be missing out on opportunities(im guessing with other guys), and she wants more guy friends( which i have no prob unless she knows the guy likes her and she continues). all this happened right after her mom and her had a talk.her mom has never approved of me for whatever reason i dont know b/c i havent wronged her or my gf. her mom is chinese and from what my friends say is that she doesnt think im good enough because of my ethnicity. my and my gf always get in arguments after she talks with her mom about her "future". her transfering to another school is no biggie for me b/c i can just go and see her when i can(only 2 hrs away). she says she doesnt wanna talk to me for another month. im just really confused right now and am not sure what to do. we really do love each other but things just get crazy when her mom gets involved.