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This is SO true to public speaking. I took a public speaking course that sadly didn't share that wisdom. When I took the course, I realized I didn't have fear about speaking, but fear of speaking about my job responsibilities (I don't really like my job, it's only a "paycheck" and I find fulfillment in many other ways) Watch some TED talks and you will see a myriad of passionate speakers who weren't born to speak, but rather know and love the subject so much, the audience is the least of their concern. Before I hijack the thread even more, OP I think the cliche "find your passion, and you will never work a day in your life" has some truth to it. In my circle, people who are truly engaged in their work get their promotions. You did mention "I was diagnosed with social anxiety which makes it hard for me to speak up and ask for clarification or help when I need it." That raised my eyebrows because one of my first bosses was an impatient jerk and I had fear of him, especially as a newbie. We didn't work well together, but just 6 months later, he moved to a different department and my new boss was awesome! We got along perfectly and I was doing the same job. The boss, company, and environment you work for makes all the difference with social anxiety. Something to really think about before changing jobs.

Me too. Call me what you want "judgemental" or "closed minded", but I think most cheaters who don't have integrity or strong moral fibre to begin with don't change. Also, as someone who has been cheated on, and experienced it first hand, it is the most painful thing I have ever experienced in all my decades. I would never want to take that risk again. My ex cheated on her next fiance, and then with the next boyfriend as well. Sadly, I think she sees cheating as a normal pattern to enter new relationships. I wonder if a bank manager would hire an ex bank robbery felon for a bank teller position?

Unless you have had conversations about exclusivity, it's a free world in the dating scene! Against old dating traditions, I think it's common knowledge that people continue to date several people at the same time.

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ban·ter /ˈban(t)ər/ noun the playful and friendly exchange of teasing remarks. "there was much singing and good-natured banter"

This sounds like a response to another question instead of asking for advice?

This is a really good question because it's very telling of their nature a) if that person told you right up from that they were unfaithful, that means they want to build trust and are owning their mistakes and being open an honest of their past mix ups. However, there is a still the possibility that you will also get cheated on, and that is something you will often left to wonder. b) if you heard it from someone else, personally speaking, I would end the relationship because red flags are red flags.

after 5 unsuccessful starts and stops, maybe it's time (it seems you are saying that in your post) for both of you to take some time to be single. Recharge and later this year start dating other people. Life is too short

Boundaries! You need to establish boundaries with your ex and your family. I can see as a very short transitional period, but not for years. If so, the young impressionable kids are going to get really confused. Also, your new girlfriend relationship will be severely strained with the ex hanging around. I get that you are in good terms with your ex and that is a good thing for all involved. And it sucks that she has not much in the way of family, but you it's very tricky to be friends with an ex and a new girl friend at the same time. Too much to accommodate. Compound that arrangement with a new baby on the way, and there are going to be tough discussions and disagreements....eventually. I know there is a good metaphor out there for this, but it's like those old homes in the country with 8 old rusty cars in the driveway. Why keep 8 cars around when you already have one car that works well. It's too much clutter.

With little context to go on...if you didn't have a house together, I am guessing you wouldn't be together anymore. If that is correct, you need a proper one on one to sort this all out. She is no longer invested in the relationship and the mixed signals aren't doing anyone any favours.

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catfeeder took the words from my mouth. You need a challenge, a real challenge out of your comfort zone. There is a really nice thing about trying a new thing...the momentum often leads to habit. As a retired athlete I am sure you have had this experience. I was in some sort of existential crises a few years back and a friend suggested meditation or walking. Guess what? I did both! Every morning (6am) for almost 2 years now, I walk for 45 minutes a day or about 2.5 miles a day! Last year alone I walked 700miles! And I meditate for 10 minutes at the halfway point of the walk. It's my "me time" before the worlds demands are slayed upon me! AND, I subscribe to several podcasts that keep my brain learning and building myself as a human in this chaotic world. It's been a game changer for me personally....and it's 100% free! All it cost me was a good pair of running shoes. So if that's not your gig, check out the other suggestions. Maybe public speaking courses or improv classes...or maybe a side hustle that can help you earn some $ Good luck!

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I can speak to this, since it was a huge life changing moment for me. I think of myself as a pretty intuitive person, but the rug was absolutely swept under my foot. When I discovered her cheating on me, I didn't think of much of the signs at the time, but discovered them in hindsight.... Something was "off" with her behaviour. She couldn't look me in the eye. She looked troubled/distracted. I thought it was post-partum depression revealing itself at the time. The thing that really threw me off was that she seemed happy and content on some days, and distracted with other days. After it happened, I learned a lot about her. bi-polar, she was a very skilled and convincing liar to myself and the previous 2 or 3 men that followed me. A really messed up individual, that appeared very normal on the surface. If you are suspecting it, -keep an eye on body language (does the body match the conversations?) -watch changes in personality, (seems obvious, but some are pretty telling) -bettering themself? Working out, more concerned with appearance, etc. then the obvious ones we have all heard about.. -"staying late for work" -stuck in traffic -going out with friends (more often than usual)

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my bad. I missed that connection. Good luck Coily. A sticky situation for sure.

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yes, they hired another outside accountant, but how about a second outside firm.

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^ this. There is no need to build a case for yourself and break it off, he's taken care of that. It is difficult to say goodbye to someone you love, but from where I sit, it is time to move on. You will fall in love again, and hopefully the next person you find will be more respectful (not sexting others regardless of situation) and handle conflict well.

I don't know much about the companies structure, but is it possible to hire another outside accounting firm to audit/verify books? This would at the least clear your name... and conscience. Just a thought

Ghosting is, unfortunately part of the online dating dance. Do yourself a favour and NEVER take it personally. Whenever you get ghosted, remember there are over 7 billion people on the planet, it just takes time to find the right one for you. I will leave you with this... Patience attracts happiness: it brings near that which is far -Swahili proverb