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  1. belle4
    I honestly think he would appreciate you more if you respected his wishes and not negate them. You need to let him be. It seems like you NEED him when this is a time when you should be needing yourself and find yourself again. Being with someone for that long, you tend to lose who YOU are. All I can say is that if you improve yourself, like learning to be more positive, love yourself,more independent, etc.., you could definatly prove him wrong and hopefully he can see how you're changing for the better. For now, don't call him...whenever you feel like calling him, come on this website, talk to a friend or something....cuz its JUST NOT WORTH IT. My ex came back to me after he realized how much fun I was having and how much better of a person I've become without him. You can do the same, if you just let him go.
  2. belle4
    Yea thats pretty much exactly what happened. We had a long talk yesterday and HE was the one begging for me back. I clearly stated I cannot be with him unless he proves his love for me and can meet the bar I have set for him or any other man I would want in my life. He said he would do anything to be with me. He cried for 5 hours and i couldn't even squeeze a tear out. In a way I felt bad but i really do believe in karma - what goes around comes around and he can wait just like I did. So basically we're taking it really slow. I definitely WANT it to work out with him but I cannot make any guarentees. I love him and I can say I still am IN love with him, so I can only let go of the past and say hello to the future, hopefully with him in it.
  3. belle4
    Thanks scout! I listened to your advice...he's goin out of town so it gives us a few days to really think....and yes we definatly need to talk....i definatly want to take it slow and see how it works first....rushing into anything won't work at all...i appreciate everyone's help and I'll be updating you all soon.
  4. belle4
    The strangest thing just happened....my ex just begged for me back. It started with a casual convo which led to crying and begging on his end...i feel like this is a dream but it isn't. I'm just in major shock right now. I just don't know if I'm ready.
  5. belle4
    THE EX KEEPS CALLING! twice yesterday and now he says he'll call me today....is this the wrong time for some confrontation?? How can i approach this?
  6. belle4
    Well he wont LET me move on...he keeps calling, being sweet, etc....NC is the best way to go isn't it? I really feel its not fair but I still do have feelings for him...but it just sucks that he can get whatever he want. It is best to move on, and I'm trying but every time I hear something about what he did, it just brings me down. How can i cope with that? Just ignore him? I would still like to try again but maybe its best to think and live like he won't ever return just to be safe. My heart is the most important thing.
  7. belle4
    But isn't this what peopel are supposed to do after a break up? I figure he can do whatever he want but why is this hurting me so bad? I feel like he is not as hurt at all and hes totally stringing me along.. I was doing fine until i heard all this. He even came over before i heard all this stuff and told me how he felt so comfortable talking to me and i made him feel better...what kind of behavior is this????
  8. belle4
    Ok MAJOR confusion.....i've heard stories from random people who think i should be aware of my ex's behaviors. Apparently he's being very "friendly" with other girls and is drinking a lot these days (not normal when we were together). But then when we talk he acts like he's been changing his life for the better and acts very caring and sweet towards me and doesn't mention a thing. He told me he really likes how i've changed and he told me that we should just work slowly at things. I'm still not sure what that meant. Anyway, I'm obviously very hurt at this double life he's leading but what can I do? How should I react to this? Should i confront it?
  9. belle4
    NO! Give it time for your own sake...sometimes people forward things to multiple people and only your name shows up. Just be cool, be calm, you'll be just fine.
  10. belle4
    Do guys tend to be more vulnerable than girls to go back to their ex's....yea i know its a dumb and hard question to ask...just curious
  11. belle4
    I just had a random question, is it true that first loves never last?
  12. belle4
    THe way I see it is that people break up and make up all the time. IT IS VERY TRUE that you need to change on your own and not because of your ex. If you are becoming a better person, why should you care what you think? If they are out all night meeting other people, drinking all the time, partying hard, dating someone else, yes it will hurt us but in the end, who will come out a stronger person? YOU.
  13. belle4
    I dont know if you shoudl say anything. Well depends if this break means you are technically "together". I think you should just keep quiet and play it cool. Everythign will be ok
  14. belle4
    That's kinda messed up what your friend said. She can't speak for your ex at all. If you were really the best boyfriend for her, be the best friend for her and understand her reasonings. Being a person still in college, it is SO important to take care of yourselves at this age....and you should be doing the same since you are young also! Go to your job, make that money and be proud that you're doing something productive with your life. You are lucky to be where you are in your life. Also have that inner confidence because us girls can totally pick up on that. Just be her friend and create those positive moments. But also radiate your own inner beauty when you talk to her as a friend first. You need to build up a friendship first after this before anything else happens. Otherwise it won't work out for good
  15. belle4
    Wow, you both have awesome insight....i guess I'm sitting here and I need to realize i can be happy regardless what situation I'm in. I understand why my ex chose to do this but it still hurts because we were so serious. I think I took it way too personal at first but I guess I really admire the fact that he WANTED to be self-sufficient, and wanted that for me too. (there were also some other problems). He said the door was open for possibilities but we shouldn't wait for each other. It's just so hard. I'm really not interested in anyone else or a relationship at this point. And sometimes it is hard to put all the focus on yourself when you are so used to giving to someone else. Thanks for your responses tho, they made a lot of sense.
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