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Any ideas on how to regain passion in a relationship? I am so in love with my wife, both physically, mentally, emotionally, etc. She's in love with me the same ... but the passion is gone. She's very emotional, and very sexual at the same time. For some reason, she does NOT want to have sex with me anymore. We've been together for awhile now, and have never had problems in the past. I don't need to rekindle anything ... just looking for ways in which women have been able to rekindle the flame, take back their lost passion for their boyfriend and/or husband. PLEASE HELP!!!!! I'm at a loss ... Thanks.

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Has anyone here every been diagnosed with depression? If so, what pills were you prescribed? Did they make you happy? What was the effect they had on your mind, body, and spirit? I knew someone that had really bad anxiety - so when they went to the doctor, they were prescribed Paxil. This was horrible. They went from being a worry-freak, to not having a care in the world, just lounging around all day, not going to school, not taking fun in activities they once enjoyed. I always hear people talk about happy pills - but do they really make you happy?

Hey, I've been wrestling with this for awhile now ... my wife and partner for many years now says she's unhappy. She isn't sure why - she doesn't know if its me, if its her, or if it's something chemical. She can't point her finger on what exactly is causing her to be unhappy. My question to you all - what is happy? Is happiness driving a nice car, living in a nice house, in the suburbs, with 2 kids, 1 dog, and 1 cat? I don't think that anything is so cut and dry, and for her to claim unhappiness is just unsettling to me. If you don't know why you are unhappy, you aren't sure what will make you happy, how do you go from here? Lets say this isn't a depression thing at all ... just a quarterlife crisis, how did you all over come these fellings? Please help - thanks.

I've been with my spouse for over 6 years now. In marriage counseling sessions, she's mentioned that she sees me as her best friend, but not as her lover any more. However, in the past, it's always been both. I've read on various marriage websites, on how to ingnite the flame, and get her to love you all over again. Most of the ideas are pretty vague, and in turn they want you either to attend some retreat, or buy their book. While money isn't an option right now, good solid advice is a higher priority. Has anyone experienced this in a relationship or marriage? Whether the guy or the girl has lost the flame, how did you guys get it back? Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

Honestly, I wish I could elaborate more, but that's all I know. We've never had any issues with intimacy in the past, it's all of a sudden become a huge issue. In her mind she's seen this as an ongoing thing for over 1 year now. I've noticed it mostly within the past 6 or so months. Whenever we would make love, she would avoid kissing me. She would want to shower after we had sex. She would just feel dirty. She claims to be unhappy - not knowing what will make her happy. She assumes that since she's with me, and she's not happy, it must be me. Things aren't that cut and dry, and this whole sex situation is just one piece of the puzzle that needs to be addressed by our counselor. We've never been unfaithful to one another - the only thing that has come up recently (1+ years) is she's been meeting a lot of new friends, and getting back with some of her old friends from high school. Unfortunately, most of them are single, and don't know what it means to be in love, etc. I've read tons on the internet about 'igniting the flame' for your romance. Has anyone succeeded? Any luck you would like to share? I'm looking for any kind of help. Thanks.

Hey All, Thanks for looking at my post, and hopefully, thanks for posting a reply with advice. I just recently got married, however, we've been together for many years. We just started marriage counseling, because we were having some issues. One that came up in our session yesterday was the fact that when we are intimate, kissing, making love, fondling, whatever, she feels as though I'm her father molesting her. Thus, she feels very dirty, and doesn't ever want to have sex. She just recently moved out of our house to have some time to think things through. During our marriage counseling session yesterday - she did say that she was NEVER molested. However, there was an instance where there was some inappropriate gestures, comments by her music teacher in high school. Things such as playing with her hair, hand on her thigh, etc. If anyone has gone through something similar to this in the bedroom, please help. My wife is my life, and my soul mate, and I will do anything for her, and to save our love, and marriage. Sex is a HUGE part of a relationship, and we've never had issues up until about the past year. The first 4+ years were perfect. Thanks.