hurtbylove

If it's fresh after breakup, she doesn't want to send the message that there is still hope for the relationship. My ex did the same thing, it hurt so much to see the person you love treat you so coldly. It's best for you to try and heal first before being friends with her. It doesn't work when you are trying to get her back and she just wants to be friends. I would advise a period of no contact until you feel you are ready. When you can accept that your ex may be seeing other people, it's a good chance that you are healed. No contact is hard, but you really do need it for yourself. Try to keep busy and talk it out with friends. It helps a lot. There will be days where you might take a step back in healing and the pain comes back. Take it slow, there are better days ahead.

Yes letting go hurts the most. At this point I really couldn't handle seeing my ex with someone else. It feels like even if I were friends with her, I still have ulterior motives i.e. I want to win her back.

Why did you break up with your ex-boyfriend marc in the first place? Is which boy your mom likes really that important to you? Who you like should come first. It hurts when the person you are with starts to think about the past and meeting up with your ex-boyfriend on a "date" probably wasn't the best idea. I don't know about other guys, but I'm fairly insecure when it comes to my girlfriend. I would be pretty angry if my girlfriend went out again with her ex-boyfriend. Even if she said it was just as friends I would still be nervous. Looks like you need to take a break from them both and evaluate your situation. Some questions you should ask yourself are: What went wrong in your past relationship with Marc? How long ago did you two break up? Do you still have unresolved feelings about your ex that is preventing you from "loving" your current boyfriend?

After a certain age, most everyone has had a relationship before. People learn from their previous relationships and it all happened before you were even in the picture. What she did in the past makes her who she is today. There really is no use in thinking about her past, you can't change it. What's important is that she wants to be with you. Don't let this issue get to you too much, just enjoy the time you have with her. Love is often gone before you know it.