first of all, how old are you? secondly how old is he? and what are the experiences the two of you have had in the past sexually? most guys(not all) especially the young ones think with the penis.....there is two ways to look at it 1.) seduce his ass...get him excited and ways that a guy woould be or 2.) if u want to have a healthy relationship with this guy...just open up the feelings and talk about it....if he is shy it woudln't be a good thing to pressure if you do then they feel like pressured stressed whatever....just ask him about and let him put the moves on when he is ready......what ya think