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Thread: Am i overthinking about this guy ?

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    Originally Posted by Chinil
    Yes, iím wondering if he started coming on to me ? I donít know how to react.
    I don't think it matters if he was flirting or not. If you are interested in getting to know him better, your responses showed him the opposite.

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    Act professional and keep it impersonal as you have been. That will send the message that you are there to work, not flirt/date.
    Originally Posted by Chinil
    Yes, iím wondering if he started coming on to me ? I donít know how to react.

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    Do you think he is flirting ?

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    First decide if you want him to be
    Originally Posted by Chinil
    Do you think he is flirting ?

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    What do you mean ? Is this normal for guy say this to friend / coworker ? I kinda like him.

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    Then it's not workplace sexual harassment, but rather you have a crush and hope his actions indicate an interest in you.
    Originally Posted by Chinil
    I kinda like him.

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    So , he is not flirting. Iím overthinking then ..

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    He might be - but why do you care -for your ego? You want to know your coworker thinks you're attractive? Here's the thing- even if he was, you shut that down with your responses. If you'd like to get to know him better and see potential for going on a date at this point you're going to have to be proactive about initiating a back and forth friendly conversation.

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    Thanks. Itís not for my ego.Iím just shy and nervous..

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    Originally Posted by Chinil
    Thanks. Itís not for my ego.Iím just shy and nervous..
    Your responses to me did not come across as shy -maybe partly -they came across as cold and disinterested. Shy doesn't have to mean responding in that way - so it's fine to be "shy" even when typing on a screen but perhaps try to think about the other person and how he might feel if he acts in a friendly way and gets rebuffed, more than once.

    My husband was extremely shy when we first met many years ago -took him a lot of courage to ask me out for lunch -back then no internet, no cell, no texting -and we worked at the same company. But because he was interested in me as a person he chose getting to know me over giving in to shyness. If you want to get to know this person, contact him and start a conversation and if he is responsive (he might not be since you were unfriendly last time) then see if he wants to continue the conversation over coffee or a walk during lunch, etc.

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