Why does my ex want to be friends so badly?

He broke up with me 6 months ago. He contacted me last week and we saw each other at a conference and caught up. He initiated most of the contact. I told him I have a boyfriend now and that I think it's probably too soon for me to be able to be friends and he got mad about it. Does he just really value my friendship? My boyfriend knows about this and said he probably just wants to hook up so I am very wary. Still have some pain left over from the breakup and to be honest I don't know if I can ever really be friends with my ex.... advice?

As you cheated on him, perhaps he still wants to get back at you.

You should be in NC, out of respect for your bf. Block and delete.

Yes that is the plan.

How is he getting back at me?

He could continue to make digs if you are in contact. he could try to get you to cheat on your bf.

I don't see any good coming from this. Did you tell your bf? What does he think?

Yes I told my bf as I want to be very honest with him. He is fine with me being friends with my ex if that's what I want but he said that I should be aware his intentions are likely not good and it might be too soon. So I want to show respect for my bf and I am very aware of trying not to do anything wrong this time, I learned my lesson.

I think it would be best to stay clear. Nothing good can come from it. Leave the past, in the past.

Ok thanks holly I appreciate your advice

My thoughts are that some events in life should be left in the past, and that's one of them.

We can each only speak for ourselves, and I don't believe in playing friendzies with an ex beyond being civil if our paths cross in public. Otherwise, it's just a mess that's avoidable as we each focus on building our own social and love lives free of ex drama.