My boyfriend does not like sex?

I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now (we're both 21), and we are great for each other. The only major problem is our sex life. He has had many girlfriends before me, but I am his first sexual relationship. I was the one who initiated sex, and it took awhile for us to even try. And it doesn't work. It's uncomfortable and he can't stay hard most of the time. Sex is so important to me, and I can honestly say he has never satisfied me completely. We talked about how he feels about the act of sex itself, and he says he's never been really turned on by it. He has a specific fetish, and when he used to watch porn he would just watch that. He never got anything out of watching porn of people having sex. He can be very sexual, but the act of penetrative sex is not something he seems to be into. I know he wants to please me, but it's just not working because the sex drive isn't there. What do I do? I've been so patient and obviously it's not his fault, but it's really killing me. I want my boyfriend to make me feel good, but it doesn't seem like that's ever going to happen. It just seems so bizarre to me that someone doesn't have a desire for sex. Any advice?

What is his fetish?

In the kink community I met people who have step away from fetishes in order to have a more standard sexual relationship.

I'm just curious does he have any sort of ASD? I was diagnosed with Asperger's when I was young and with my social development being stunted it took me awhile to really enjoy sex.

Sometimes, it doesn't matter how much you like someone, if you're not compatible, you're not compatible.

What is his fetish?

 

In the kink community I met people who have step away from fetishes in order to have a more standard sexual relationship.

He has a peeing fetish. I've been very open to it and want to please him, but it's not always very convenient. He likes to make me hold it and then wet my pants. He's way more interested in this. It's like this is the only thing that will satisfy him. The act of sex just doesn't turn him on.

He has a peeing fetish. I've been very open to it and want to please him, but it's not always very convenient. He likes to make me hold it and then wet my pants. He's way more interested in this. It's like this is the only thing that will satisfy him. The act of sex just doesn't turn him on

 

What do I do? I've been so patient but it's really killing me. I want my boyfriend to make me feel good, but it doesn't seem like that's ever going to happen. Any advice?.

My only advice is to pack your bags and leave. This guy will NEVER make you feel good. EVER. Not many people would feel good about peeing in their pants. He needs to find a partner who shares his (gross) fetish. You two are incompatible. Leave. The sooner, the better (imo). I would be out the door so fast you wouldn't see me for dust.

Sorry to say but life is too short to go without sex in a sexually incompatible relationship. You are both doing each other a disservice by trying to force-fit this.

Try not to be the martyr at 21 by being patient about his porn and fetish and lack of desire for things that are important to you..

This is a major incompatibility and will only generate resentment and frustration for both of you. At 21 there is a host of sexually active and ready, willing and able people out there for each of you to meet who are more appropriate for either of you.

This is a time when people can enjoy and explore and discover their sexuality, not have it stifled and suffocated by this type of incompatibility.

We talked about how he feels about the act of sex itself, and he says he's never been really turned on by it. He has a specific fetish, and when he used to watch porn he would just watch that. He never got anything out of watching porn of people having sex. He can be very sexual, but the act of penetrative sex is not something he seems to be into.