I'm going to try to make this as straight-forward and short as possible.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a couple of years now and we are having in issue (at least I think so). My boyfriend does not think it's a big deal to call people back. He rarely answers his phone. We have gotten in a few arguments about this. I called him last night leaving him a message to call me back and if I don't pick up, leave a message 'cause that means I'm still at work. I never heard from him all night until the next afternoon (today). I told him I was irritated that he didn't call me back last night and he got angry and short w/ me, saying that I should've just bit my tongue about it. But what irritates me is that when I ask him to call me back (after an argument), he will say that he will try to fix it. But today when we argued, he was saying how he thinks I get angry at him not calling me back because I want some "control over him". And this angered me, because if he felt this way I feel like he should've told me this from the get-go. How am I supposed to know he feels this way when he's never told me? I feel like I shouldn't even have to ASK my boyfriend to call me back... it seems so ridiculous. He thinks it's ridiculous that people expect to be called back all the time, and I agree for the most part, except that I'm his girlfriend of almost 2 years and I feel like it should be a given that he return my calls...
I want to know if you guys think this is not a big deal or if you would be upset too.
I tried to get out both of me and my boyfriend's opinions on this. If you have any questions, please feel free to ask and thanks in advance.