Bachelor Parties...for the men and women

Ok...girls what would you do if you found out your guy was doing things to a stripper at a bachelor party AND guys what the worst thing you've done..and did you tell?

For the most part, you can't do a whole lot to strippers, either privately or in strip clubs. They have security accompany them and there's a no touch rule.

Well I'm fairly open minded about sex, but if I wasn't there the relationship would have to end.

It really depends.. I live in Canada. We have the 'toonie' dive where you put a toonie coin in your mouth and you lie down on the stage, and the stripper squats down and picks it up with her VAGINA. They are completely naked. My boyfriend got a lap dance once when he was 19, and the stripper put her hands down his pants and grabbed the base of his penis. That was the last time he got a lap dance because he felt sorry for her (not to say he doesn't still go to strip clubs once every 8 months or so with a bunch of guys for bachelor parties)

My ex was at his friends' brother in law's bachelor party and some strippers came over the border. He actually recorded it on his cell phone (which yeah, I know is illegal) but they again, were naked and rubbing their bodies all over the men, and my ex's friend was grabbing her breasts and rubbing them around. I was pretty taken back. Really, it just depends on the stripper.

If my boyfriend was 'doing' things to a stripper, I'd kick him in his grits and I would end it. I don't mind if he GOES to a strip club, but there's NO lap dances. I don't care.

I wouldn't tolerate it, don't care if its his bachelor party or not.

And thankfully, I'm pretty sure my guy has a little more class than that, as do his friends.

Not all bachelor parties involve sexual activity and strippers.

We have the 'toonie' dive where you put a toonie coin in your mouth and you lie down on the stage, and the stripper squats down and picks it up with her VAGINA.

I am speechless.

I didn't know vaginas could do that and it's giving me really strange images trying to figure it out.

Strip clubs are sadly not something I think I can deal with...

Wish I could say "Oh ya, it's totally acceptable" and be the "good gf" but it makes me feel icky.

I am speechless.

 

I didn't know vaginas could do that and it's giving me really strange images trying to figure it out.

 

I guess that's why they nickname the vagina the 'coin slot', haha! (could be for a bum too, but I heard it referred more to the vagina with my bf and his buddies)... I know. I haven't SEEN it, but basically I guess the point is a lot of shifting on the persons face with her vagina to get that damn toonie. I would go, just to see, but if someone did that to my boyfriend, I'd be raging.

I disagree with a guy on his bachelor party getting laid as a last shag before getting married, but a group of guys heading along to a strip club and getting some stripper to embarrass the hell out of the stag on stage is just a bit of fun.

For a friends stag party recently, I organised dinner at a strip club as part of the entertainment, and a lot of fun was had. The girls went to an art class where they drew a pair of naked male models. What's the difference?

The formula that has worked for me is if you and your girl wouldn't go to a strip club together then he shouldn't go it alone. The guy shouldn't do anything she wouldn't find accteptable in her presence. As far as private venues, everyone goes much further, strippers and bachelors alike. If your man is going to a bachelor party at a club it is probably pretty safe. That being said, I went to one in SF where my ex and I both were sucking this hot strippers breast during a public lap dance. All eyes were on us not the girl on stage. No one got in trouble, but if I tried that solo I woulda got billie clubbed! They only let it fly cause another girl was involved.

I really can't see my boyfriend going to a strip club. His friends might surprise him with a stripper though. lol.

Anyway, I don't think that just because it's your bachelor party that the rules don't apply. Stripper is fine, imo. But, doing anything other than looking or shoving the random one down her bra isn't okay.

Well I get married, I most certaintly will NOT have strippers or anything or the sort for a bachelor party, nor will I have one for a bachleorette party.

Me and my boyfriend are simply not into it, neither are any of our friends.

And if my boyfriend was invited to a friend's party like that that had strippers, he wouldn't go! He would feel very uncomfortable and feel it a betrayl to me, likewise if I was in the reverse situation.

So no matter what the circumstance, strippers are highly innapropriate and NOT okay!

Knowing my friends,. they'll get me a stripper....oh gawd...

I don't know about that. I don't think there's really anything wrong with going to a strip club once in a while. I'd go to a strip club and watch guys, and I'd enjoy myself... so I can't tell my boyfriend he can't. It's just a bit of fun. It's nothing personal and I still love him... and it's not that I'm 'into' it, I just think that it's fun sometimes to watch, that's all. I wouldn't be suckin' on a willy or a ball, and he wouldn't be suckin' on some tig' ole bitties either.

Yeah I can't see any of mine, OR his friends doing that. They are modest enough, and they know how we are with eachother, and they wouldn't even have to blink an eye to know how upset it would make both of us to have one.

You can have just a good time at a bachlerette/bachlor party w/o strippers or crazy/wild things happening.

I dont believe even me and my bf will be drinking at one! That's just us though, we don't drink.

When I turn 21 in 9 months, I'll have ONE margarita, just because it's the 21st but that'd be it. He told me that he wouldn't even want to drink on his 21st, let alone ever

I like the taste of cocktails etc, but I wont ever drink enough to get drunk or alot. I'm not a drinker. His difference is, he doesn't like the taste of alcohol AT ALL.

I can't even remember my 21st birthday.... I really tried to think, but I can't. I know it was good.... and it was 80's night.

But yeah, I respect the fact that neither of you would go. Before I get married I'm going to a strip club, but that's me.

Lap dances from a stripper I'm okay with. I'm not okay with sex with a stripper (or anyone besides myself, given that we're exclusive).

I have seen some very bad behavior on the part of future grooms at bachelor parties. Bad enough that the women would have called off the wedding.

Thats why me and my boyfriend would totaly be against that idea, even drinking.

We're very loyal with eachother and old fashioned. He also has good ole friends.

Well all of the guys he's friends with and in his fraternity (strictly acadrmic, no parties/drinking etc) and stand up guys.

But unlike me, he doesn't have any best guy friends. So we're going to have to find him a best guy friend for our wedding! Hopefully hell have one by than lol.

I'm ok with it. I figure that if I didn't trust him enough to have a stripper at a bachelor party then I probably shouldn't be marrying him. I've often wondered what my bachelorette party is going to be like. Should I have a male and female stripper? Actually, what'd be really cool is drag queens. I'm gonna have those.

Let me re-phrase that.

He doesn't have any best guy/gal friends. He doesnt have ANY friends that are girls.

I have one friend that is a guy that is like my brother, he and my boyfriend have become very close.

So if my boyfriend doesn't find a best friend before we get married, I guess my friend could be the best man lol.

But there is time. I dont want to get married til I'm 25.

I'm ok with it. I figure that if I didn't trust him enough to have a stripper at a bachelor party then I probably shouldn't be marrying him. I've often wondered what my bachelorette party is going to be like. Should I have a male and female stripper? Actually, what'd be really cool is drag queens. I'm gonna have those.

Lol. I want a to have a firefighter when I grow up!

For some reason I thought that thought was hilarious.

Our reasons have nothing to do with trust, we trust eachother.

It's just that we'd find the ideas of strippers disgusting and we're very old fashioned and wouldn't find it appropriate at all.

Just like how we don't watch porn at all, becuase we find it objectifying and gross. It makes me laugh in the past when I used to watch it every once in awhile.

If I ever get married to a guy, he's probably gonna be the shy type that is uncomfortable about stuff like that. So I'd make sure his friends got him a stripper and have them take a video so that I could see him turn bright red. hahahahah That'd be fun.

Yeah, see my boyfriend is the shy guy that's not into that kind of stuff.

I sure as hell am NOT shy, but I'm not into that either.

And while he has very outgoing friends, they wouldn't be in to that kind of thing. Not for him that is lol.