What Do You Do When Your Boyfriend Is Broke?

When it comes to a relationship between two people, money can be a tricky subject. No one wants to think about the possibility of their partner being broke, but it happens. Life events, unexpected financial pressures, and tough decisions can leave one person in a position of not being able to financially support themselves. So, what do you do when your boyfriend is broke? 

It's natural to feel an emotional attachment to someone you're dating, and the thought of breaking up because of finances can be especially painful. It's important to consider the situation holistically and take into account your own financial well-being as well.

Ideally, you should have had a conversation regarding money very early on in your relationship to decide who was financially responsible for different aspects of the relationship. If this conversation hasn't occurred, now's the time to do it. This should be done with a level head and no judgement; it's important that everyone involved understands the complex nature of the situation.

If your boyfriend is currently struggling with their finances, there are a few steps you can take to decide whether or not staying together is an option. First, look at the long term picture. Could the lack of financial resources be solved in the near future or is this a long-term issue that could impede the relationship over time?

Second, you should consider how his financial state affects you. If your finances are already stretched beyond their limits, adding the burden of your partner's finances may add undue stress on the relationship.

Third, take a look at any required changes both of you will need to make to ensure each partner's financial health. In some cases, it may require more effort from you if you are in a better financial situation. Whether you can contribute a percentage of your income towards the household expenses or lend assistance in other forms, it's important to recognize what is possible. Understanding the strain on both parties is key for tackling the situation together.

Evaluate the likelihood of the situation changing. Unless there's a plan or negotiation in place, staying together may feel like a gamble. Financial instability can also create tension and resentment within the relationship, so make sure you feel secure before deciding to take on the challenge together.

Only you and your partner will know what's best for your relationship. But it's important to come to an understanding around money so no one feels ashamed or taken advantage of. Whether it's breaking up or using this opportunity to get creative and find a solution, it is important to make sure your needs are met in order to have a healthy, stable relationship.