Don't Let Your Heart's Trust be Blinded

Trusting someone can be one of the most frightening things we ever have to do. It takes a great deal of vulnerability and courage to open our hearts and minds to another person. When it comes to relationships, this is especially true. Learning to trust a boyfriend can be a difficult process, and one that can take years to build and solidify.

It is important that when making the decision to trust a boyfriend, the trust is based on more than having feelings for the individual. Too often, individuals rely purely on their emotions in order to make a decision on how much to trust someone. This is an inherently flawed way of trusting because choices made from feelings are not always rational, and can lead to unhealthy and unrewarding relationships.

The best way to learn to trust someone is to build a basis for it. The foundation for this type of trust is built on a few key traits such as consistency, accountability, communication, and reliability. It is important to look at the person's actions and behavior rather than words when determining if trust should be given. Someone's words can be hollow and they may not always carry the same weight as the person's actions. While a person may tell you one thing, it is their actions that will speak loudly to who they are and if they are trustworthy or not.

When assessing your boyfriend's actions, start with asking yourself these three questions: Does he do what he says he's going to do? Is he honest with me, even when it isn't comfortable or easy? Is his behavior consistent? If the answer to all three is yes, then the chances are good that you can trust him.

Building trust between two people, particularly intimate partners, is a journey. It is important that, over time, trust is consistently proven and deepened. efforts towards repairing the trust when it is broken down must take place in order for the relationship to be healthy. This commitment to trust helps build and maintain strong bonds, as well as promotes love and understanding between two individuals.

Trust requires effort from both parties. Your boyfriend must be willing and able to establish a pattern of trustworthy behavior. Relationships, after all, cannot depend solely on the trust of one person. If the boyfriend is focused on creating a positive bond based on trust, the the couple is much more likely to remain strong and loyal to each other.

It is up to the individual to decide what level of trust to give a partner. People must remember to look at the evidence behind the individual’s behavior, rather than buying into what the person might be saying. Building a trusting and healthy relationship requires work, but with the right effort, it is possible. Don't let your heart's trust be blinded, be rational and follow your head when deciding whether or not to open up your heart to a person.