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Good on your husband, his family, and your family for protecting the kids! Sounds like you have some very peculiar attitudes with how healthy relationships work. You need some powerful professional help.

Ah ha! Okay I lump these types in with the "I'm a vegan." It's like they want to make people uncomfortable, or humble brag about this sort of thing. So keep in mind they want to share, you just happen to be a listener.

I think his taking a peek is just an internal reason for a culmination of various things that just weren't sending you over the moon about this guy. If you were really into him, he could have had his tongue hanging out and panting, and you could have ignored it. Okay not you specifically, but a lot of us will ignore flags when we are all really into someone on the other end of the table. It's okay to just pass on the guy if he's not your cup of tea. I think this is a topic where a level of projection we all paint this kind of action as a relationship killer.

I'm remembering that one. OP I think what you need to do is just find a way to just stick with business while at work. Tell them you have a deadline or something along those lines when you have hit your limit. Kindly shut them down, no need to just be abrupt.

More Yikes. Sounds like you have some really deep seated issues, what's all this "survival" talk? Where is this coming from and why do you think it's okay to abuse your husband and kids? Do you have this much contempt for everyone in your life?

Yikes!!! A whole lot of Yikes in all of this. I think you need to take a good long look at yourself. I have to agree with TeeDee, this is unfit mother territory.

I agree if this has become obsessive or intrusive you should consider getting postpartum support. That said, I can understand why something like this would prey upon your thoughts. If you are religious or spiritual, do something within the dictates of your creed to honor those lost children. But you need to shift focus back to your baby and it's father. It's not a bad thing you care, but you cannot dwell.

I doubt it's "simply" jealousy. There is a deep conflict in the relationship due to social media. We're only getting a very small part of the picture, while I'd rather hand waive this on going turmoil as just jealousy; there has to some very deep seated miscommunication here. OP, you need to have a open conversation with your BF, and see what is at the root of this.

There is a simple solution, one that isn't going to belittle your feelings, ask her to teach you. It will show her that you respect what she can do, and gets you up to par on your normal feelings of being a young virile man. Or if that's not for you, learn a different discipline of martial arts.

For the sake of this discussion I'll break it into, White knight/Simp, the Gent, and the happenstance man. Working from last to first, the happenstance man typically will see a woman in a situation of need and help; he has no motives, nor even contemplates there could be any ramification than being genuinely helpful. They will help just about anyone in need. The Gent usually will go out of his way to help a woman as he has an internal code of honor. Now he won't go to extraordinary lengths once the situation has resolved, but he will have a paternal nature to how he thinks about a situation. The Simp Knight will do anything thing he can to keep his presence around a woman known. He will see a female wanting something, and just give it to her to try and win favor. Basically they are a sex pest, who don't get sex, but think by buzzing around a woman's orbit he will eventually win the prize of her. There are a lot of women on social media who will seek the Simp Knight, mostly to exploit their wallet. These "men" are more than willing to throw money.

I think you're responding to someone else.

This on the surface would seem like solicitation to your BF. Jealous or not, a lot of guys would jump to that conclusion when it's done through social media. No matter how innocent it comes off that way. Your BF over reacted by blocking you on social media. But he's not entirely wrong for viewing this negatively. This to me says how overly reliant people are on for social media for validation.

It's one of those moments you are interested, she's occupied elsewhere. Just be polite and let things go as they had been. If she comes around later great, if not, you have someone to say hi to.

You need to start thinking strategically, while beating this guy to a pulp would be cathartic what will that get you in the long game? Your cheating wife getting full custody of YOUR kids, and this guy getting to sue you or other legal problems. What I recommend is backing off of vengeance and going for revenge. What should that look like, using her cheating to seek full or primary shared custody of your children. Law-fare is your ultimate tool here, use it to maximum effect. It is far better right not to lay hands on this jerk. You could even seek legal remedy against this guy for the costs of your divorce, it may not have good standing, but it will draw him into legal troubles. Also with the evidence you need to collect have your lawyer get into contact with this man's wife, don't do this yourself. But let him answer to his likely angry wife and suffer those consequences. Ruin his life legally, and without raising a fist.

I think it's part of the whole OLD dating conundrum, basically trying to weed out someone as quickly as possible. Having been on the receiving end a few times of that sort of probing question, I just kind of concluded that someone is looking for a flaw to move on, rather than get invested.