Would I still look at porn if I was single?

[emit_remmus]

Thats a rhetorical question...don't answer that. Many times when I watch some porn, I'm like "man! I wish I could get some of that!"

 

It sucks being single, especially when you see your friends copping a grab on their girlfriends' boobs. I've gone intimate before but never a relationship, and its only left me wanting more. Those times, I've wanted the night to last forever. I cringe whenever I see a couple kiss and hold hands. I'm like "you know they'll be in bed together tonight!"

 

Since I'm being super superficial, I'll throw in this...I need someone to give my care and love to.

 

I guess what I really want to know is, when will my time come?

 

As of now, I'm sitting on the fence of becoming a sexist jerk because I've tried and I've had enough.

 

The last girl that I was trying to be nice to was just rude. Still is. Maybe I just talked to the wrong girl, but I'm tired of it. Today, I had many chances to meet girls. I saw it happening too, but I shrugged it away. I know if I keep up this attitude, nothing will happen....

 

....or will it?

 

If its really in the cards, the girl, whomever she may be, will chase me. I've had it happen before plenty of times. I just wasn't into any of those girls because they weren't my type if you know what I mean.

[CynicalGuitarist]

I, personally recently gave up on women. It's hard to deal with... but at least I'm not one of those delusional guys who thinks that every girl wants him. Some people have relationships, some don't. I guess I wasn't one of those people... but I can't tell your fate. I agree that it sucks being single... but the one positive is having a lot of free time and extra money.

 

Nobody can tell you when/if your time will come, but you're just gonna havta find out for yourself.

[emit_remmus]

Thats crap. What about a palm reader eh?

[CynicalGuitarist]

A palm reader might/might not know what he/she is doing. You might get an accurate reading, you might not, but if the reading was wrong, you've been jipped. I'm not saying I completely disbelieve in it, but I think that a lot of that stuff can be a scam or for craps and giggles... like fortune cookies.

[emit_remmus]

First of all, fortune cookies are crap. I've tried it before. They can't even teach Chinese properly. Second, those fortunes are only made to make the people eating them laugh because they're just that ridiculous.

 

Now, ouiji boards...thats another story, but I'm scared of ghosts!

[CynicalGuitarist]

I agree that fortune cookies are crap. that's what I just said.

 

I have heard some very crazy things about ouiji boards... and I wouldn't touch one of those things with a 10 foot pole.

[emit_remmus]

I'm getting chills in my spine just talking about ouija boards!

 

Tell me my fortune cookie aquaintance, have you even ever been in a relationship before?

[CynicalGuitarist]

No. That's why I gave up hope. If I'm ever gonna find a gal that doesn't care about the fact I've never had a girlfriend before... then I might as well join the Republican party.

[CrazyKing]

Well, palm reading is insane - I see that I have depression, I'm sexually an introvert person, but I'll have wife & kids plus a career - well, that sounds nice...

[Weeblie]

Today, I had many chances to meet girls. I saw it happening too, but I shrugged it away. I know if I keep up this attitude, nothing will happen....

 

....or will it?

 

Sometimes when you give up, someone wonderful appears. You start to believe that there's hope. That yes, you too can have that special thing called a relationship. Then they rip your heart out.

 

If you need some time away from the dating scene to regroup, go for it. I've been doing the same. But don't stay away too long. I know that when I became really passive about dating, I attracted some weird passive guys. They didn't want something serious, but I did. I guess I started to send out a vibe that I wasn't looking for a relationship?

[Dating Coach]

I'm not sure about the content of the first post but in relation to the thread title... I'm in a relationship and I still love porn. My fiance' and I watch it together sometimes. It's hot.

[emit_remmus]

Thank you for sharing that and now I'm jealous.

[CrazyKing]

Thank you for sharing that and now I'm jealous.

Me too, doh!!!

 

LOL...

 

I have nothing against couples watching porn, but young kids like 12-14 year old ones - hey, they get the wrong concept of a sexual relationship and sex itself - Porn is interesting, but that's doesn't show how a real relationship of that kind works... or am I just jealous...

[Luke Skywalker]

It's good to stay away from porn. I'm still officially single (although dating one person), and at this time, I have an absolute no porn policy, I just stay away from porn. Even graphical images on movies are avoided, if possible, but sometimes my finger is too slow to press the fast-forward button.

 

I got a good porn-buzz when a crush I had a strong limerance (crush) on went with another guy and broke my heart during my six months of porn abstienance. After six months of porn abstinence I broke the abstenance and I can tell you that you just get a powerful buzz if you stay away from it - try to interact in the real world, socialise, and just look at it six or seven months later if you get nowhere as a last resort.

 

Use porn as a reward mechanism, say if you get rejected by someone you really had very strong feelings for and you did the best you could to try and make a relationship. So, first is to find someone that you have a strong crush or limerance on, or to find a gf, and continue until you find someone you can really connect with and stay away from porn.

[Leonhart]

Use porn as a reward mechanism, say if you get rejected by someone you really had very strong feelings for and you did the best you could to try and make a relationship. So, first is to find someone that you have a strong crush or limerance on, or to find a gf, and continue until you find someone you can really connect with and stay away from porn.

 

What?

 

Using pornography as a reward system? I've never heard of that before. lol

[Dating Coach]

I have never heard of such a thing. Porn abstinence? Yeesh. Sounds a bit strange to me. Someone told you that Porn was bad didn't they?

[JadedStar]

I have never heard of such a thing. Porn abstinence? Yeesh. Sounds a bit strange to me. Someone told you that Porn was bad didn't they?

 

Because almost all men tend to view this stuff and the shock value of it all is almost non existent, i can't help but have a tremendous amount of respect for a man who chooses to abstain from it, regardless of the reasons.

 

I know that it is the norm for most guys but it is a shame that it is not even shocking to most some of the things that go on in it.

[Dating Coach]

I know that it is the norm for most guys but it is a shame that it is not even shocking to most some of the things that go on in it.

 

I guess that depends on what kind of Porn you are watching. I don't like any freaky deeky stuff, just normal girl and guy. I don't think there is anything there that I should be shocked about.

[Luke Skywalker]

What?

 

Using pornography as a reward system? I've never heard of that before. lol

 

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Especially if you have a crush, limerance, or unrequited love for someone over time, then it serves to 'sexualize' the world a bit.

 

I used it last year as a reward system when I got some nasty crash and burns from people I meet online. I've had crushes that were non-reciprocated, bad positions in love triangles, limerance, and after a few months of failures, looked at porn again in November.

 

The style of porn I may look at may involve softcore images of women that I was infatuated with but had no success - I may have been romantically interested (as opposed to sexually interested) but would then play with this by looking at porn.

 

That's just my experience. Of course, I would not condone or encourage anyone to look at porn for any reason. I felt justified to look at it due to my bad luck with women and just got fed-up. For example, between March 18, 2006 to October 1, 2006, where absolutely porn-free - but I tried to get a gf or 'somewhere'. After that time period passed out of a porn-free zone, I looked at it in October (although tightly regulated in a three strikes your out rule), and in November I allowed myself to look at anything I pleased.

 

Initially, I got a nice release or buzz after the abstinance period as things were seen in 'sexual' terms around me and it felt really nice. You have to deprive yourself for an extended period of time to enjoy something or keep it in a leech from going out of hand (porn-escalation). So far I've managed to do just that, but at this time, have no intentions of going back into viewing porn at this time.

[Luke Skywalker]

I have never heard of such a thing. Porn abstinence? Yeesh. Sounds a bit strange to me. Someone told you that Porn was bad didn't they?

 

Porn is bad because the Bible says in Matthew 5:28 that there are such things as 'thought sins'. Looking at a naked woman could constitute a thought sin of fornication, uncleanliness, adultery or lust, and thus is forbidden.

 

Sites such as link removed exist because people out there have porn addictions that may have started with innocious porn viewing. What happens with uncontrolled porn use is invariably and inevitably, you'll need higher stimulating images to maintain the same type of 'high' which would lead to more and more damaging styles of images.

 

There are plenty of sites on the internet and elsewhere that can show how porn use has broken up families, made people lose good jobs, and destroy people's lives, just like alcohol or gambling have done. To be sure, unless you can abstain from porn and look at it when you choose to, then you are addicted by it, and you choose to look at it based on getting an 'anytime fix'.

 

Furthermore, it just doesn't feel right in my spirit or sit well with me after I view porn. I do feel guilty or unclean to some capaciy and my eyes feel weird like I looked at something I should not have looked at.

[Dating Coach]

Porn is bad because the Bible says in Matthew 5:28 that there are such things as 'thought sins'. Looking at a naked woman could constitute a thought sin of fornication, uncleanliness, adultery or lust, and thus is forbidden.

 

I don't pay attention to that nonsense. If I want to read archaic idealogies I'll get a history book. I might even read it while watching some Porn.

[Luke Skywalker]

I don't pay attention to that nonsense. If I want to read archaic idealogies I'll get a history book. I might even read it while watching some Porn.

 

Are you selecting conveniant points of my post? I've also mentioned how there are sites that show porn is an addiction and show how it has ruined people's lives and is a highly toxic thing.

 

Sigh, in a sense, this only applies to Christians who want to walk that straight and narrow way so I'm not expecting everyone to get it. Heck, I dont get it either sometimes, but I still know right from wrong, even if I make the wrong choice.

[JadedStar]

I guess that depends on what kind of Porn you are watching. I don't like any freaky deeky stuff, just normal girl and guy. I don't think there is anything there that I should be shocked about.

 

I guess I should clarify what I meant by "shock value". I mean that we don't even flinch anymore when we are on the Net and see a female spreadeagle with a man going at her....i am saying that you would think that SHOULD be a shock but its not to almost everyone and that is because porn has become so widely accepted.

 

Don't get me wrong, I am not slamming ya nor am I a prude. Just was saying that I find it admirable to actually hear from a guy who abstains from it. I haVe been known to watch it from time to time myself but normally it does nothing for me.

 

That said, everyone who looks at it is not an addict nor are they going to hell, in my opinion of course. That is ridiculous ... and that also would assume that christianity is the only right religion, of which there is no proof.

 

But i am not going to get into a debate on religion. LOL that is a debate I'd rather not have!

[Luke Skywalker]

JadedStar;

 

Your avatar could be construed as non-nude photography or borderline soft-core porn. Has legs exposed in a cartoon format.

[JadedStar]

Yes it can Luke, which is why I said I don't have a problem with it. Did you miss the part where I said I don't have a problem wtih it and watch it on occasion?

 

If you think that a woman's exposed legs are porn tho, well ... nevermind. I won't comment further.

 

I guess you missed the whole point of my post. I am not slamming porn, I said it was admirable to find a guy who abstained from it. I don't slam people who don't .. however. And want to make that clear. I thought I did at first but apparently failed at that.