tfwis Posted February 28, 2007 Share Posted February 28, 2007 My ex wants to get back together with me, but I feel guilty about what I've done this past weekend. I'm not really sure what to do. I need some advice about if I should say anything, or just keep quiet about it. And what happens if she ever finds out? Here's the story: I'm in my mid-twenties, and I dated a girl for almost a year and a half, who is a couple years younger than me. I had known her and been friends with her for months prior to dating her. It was very serious, and we both stated we wanted to marry each other later on, when she's out of college. The problem was, just before we started dating, she was taken advantage of (raped) while she was drunk, by a "friend". Halfway through our relationship, she went into a depression, and did things that she would have never otherwise done. She cheated on me (did not have sex) with her ex boyfriend, who she was with prior to the rape. She couldn't handle the guilt, and she broke up with me and started dating someone for a month or so. A couple months ago she came back, and said she made a huge mistake, that she knew I was the one she wanted to spend her life with, and she wanted to marry me eventually, once we get past everything that happened. She realized she was just scared, and that I never left her side. We remained friends the past couple months, trying to get past everything, but this month we started fighting a lot. There was a lot of bitterness involved from the past. We never actually got to the point of a "relationship" again. A week ago, she sat me down, and told me we don't have what it takes to get past everything. Our fights were getting too bad for her to handle. I was very torn up. Over the weekend, I had a few drinks, and something happened between a friend and I. We slept with each other. I never meant for it to happen, I guess I was just so upset about my ex and I, that I wasn't thinking clearly. This morning, my ex called me and without being too blunt, made it clear she was willing to give it another try, even if it takes a little counseling or any other option. The problem is, I'm feeling really guilty about what happened over the weekend. I know it wasn't really cheating, but I still feel guilt. Even though I was cheated on, and left for someone else, my ex had never actually slept with anyone after me. So now, what do I do? Do I tell her out of guilt, and probably lose her? Do I keep it a secret, and hope she never knows? I've never lied to her about a thing in my life... Am I just getting too worked up over nothing? And what happens if I don't tell her, and she asks? Or even worse, finds out later on down the road? Quote Link to comment
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