How to tell if gf has a promiscuous past?

[whattheheck]

First of all, the only reason why I said in my first post that she would probably lie about the number of people she has been with , is because MOST WOMAN LIE about that.

 

In fact, I know of a large number of females on this forum who DID lie to their Bf about their "number."

 

So that is why I might not believe her.

 

Anyway, I know she has been with others before me, and so have I, but I was just curious as to her "number."

[Grosse vache]

I've had sex with 9 men.

I've given oral sex to countless men

I've made out with countless men.

 

Do I care? No.

Do guys care? Who knows

Do I care that a guy might care? No.

 

Am I a * * * *?

[andyg]

IMHO... only because you asked, Yes, I think you are. But only because you used the term countless to describe BJ's

[whattheheck]

I agree with andyg.

 

Countless oral???? Wow, that would definitley be a dealbreaker for me.

[Grosse vache]

I gave oral sex to guys while I was university so I didn't have to have actual sex with them. The number is probably between 25 and 30. If that makes me a **** then so be it. I really don't care.

 

I wonder what a guy who had received oral sex from countless women would be described as?

[whattheheck]

I gave oral sex to guys while I was university so I didn't have to have actual sex with them. The number is probably between 25 and 30. If that makes me a **** then so be it. I really don't care.

 

I wonder what a guy who had received oral sex from countless women would be described as?

 

 

why did you do oral so you didn't have to go all the way with them?

[andyg]

He would be described as "a guy who had received oral sex from countless women"

[splashdown]

lucky...

 

 

 

 

 

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[Grosse vache]

Oh please Andy - You know as well as I do he would be described as a stud. But whatever, that's the way it works.

 

Whattheheck - Simply put, because I didn't want to go all the way with them.

[JoeWho]

I think oral sex is sometimes more intimate than regular sex. I have always wondered why so many college aged girls do that like its a hug or a handshake. I'm not complaining by any means, just never understood the logic behind it.

[andyg]

Grosse,

 

Do you still engage in these activities so regularly? and if so, are you busy this afternoon?

[andyg]

I think the OP's point is that if she's been ****ing herself self around, she's more likely to be less commital and less faithful. If it was years ago he might need to consider blowing it off. If it was recent, these are valid concerns

[Grosse vache]

I felt in control of the situation. Something I wouldn't have felt had I gone all the way. I never let them ejeculate in my mouth and all I took off was my top. It was always on my terms and going all the way takes away the control and gives it to the guy and that makes me uncomfortable.

 

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 21 to a friend. I haven't had sex in a year. I've made out with 2 guys in a year. And I haven't given a blowjob for a year either.

 

University for me was a lot about trying to lose my inhibitions, wanting to feel that I was attractive, wanting to feel in control and wanting to be a bit of a rebel. It wasn't just about sex or oral sex, it was also about drinking and smoking and getting streetwise and trying new things. If that causes a guy to judge the person that I am now then whatever. I don't want to associate myself with him anyway.

[shes2smart]

Anyway, I know she has been with others before me, and so have I, but I was just curious as to her "number."

 

Another possibility...

 

What if the honest answer is she doesn't know her "number"?

 

I mean, it never struck me as a game where I'd be expected to keep score, so I never bothered counting and keeping track. Seein' as how I've had more than 2 decades of being sexually active, didn't get married til I was 38, and have the usual memory gaps that come with age, I really have no idea of a "number."

 

Much as I'd like to believe I am one-of-a-kind, I'm guessin' that I'm not the only person around here who can't produce an accurate "number" on demand.

[fnlyfrei]

And again Grosse....they think YOU are the "**" because you are female...the guys recieving it can't help themselves because men are just pleasure oriented, opportunistic animals. They aren't accountable for themselves..they take what is offered. Only women are accountable. Works out nice for them doesn't it?

[fnlyfrei]

I think the OP's point is that if she's been ****ing herself self around, she's more likely to be less commital and less faithful. If it was years ago he might need to consider blowing it off. If it was recent, these are valid concerns

 

 

 

Well, he waited EIGHT MONTHS into the relationship to ask. Gimme a break.

[JoeWho]

I dont always take what is offered. Maybe only 90% of the time. JK lol

[fnlyfrei]

Grosse,

 

Do you still engage in these activities so regularly? and if so, are you busy this afternoon?

 

Case in point. :sad:

[whattheheck]

fnlyfrei - why are you so bitter?

 

My whole point in this thread is that I DON"T want to ask her.

 

But I am curious of her number, and would want to know if she has been with many, many guys.

[lady00]

But I don't really see how you could find out without asking her. Anything else would just be guessing blindly.

[whattheheck]

Lady - you are right

[answersguy]

Don't keep worrying with this. Either let it go (my recommendation) or ask her and risk making a woman who gave you 8 months of her life feel vulnerable and judged.

 

Whatever you do, do it now because I'm sure these thoughts are affecting your relationship unintentionally.

[fnlyfrei]

Sure. He should go ahead and ask her...but as has been stated and RE stated..he says he will not believe her answer anyway...because he states women HERE lie about their numbers anyway...(whatever) So I am thinking he just needs to break up with her. It's better than name calling, judging and mistrust.

[Grosse vache]

Case in point.

 

Yeah. I decided to ignore it.

[whattheheck]

fnlyfrei - You talk about trust - Then how come you say it's none of your SO business if he asks?

 

You call that TRUST?

 

Gimme a break!!!!