Do you have the right to ask your partner to stop going to lap-dancing clubs?

[EvaGina]

^^ I hope you didt do yoga iwth no instruction at all, you can really hurt yourself

 

If you want to do somthing hard, find an Ashtanga Vin Yasa yoga teacher,... believe, Ashtanga is HARD!!!!!!!!!!!

[TiredMan]

^^ I hope you didt do yoga iwth no instruction at all, you can really hurt yourself

 

If you want to do somthing hard, find an Ashtanga Vin Yasa yoga teacher,... believe, Ashtanga is HARD!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Just from a book with pictures and detailed instructions. But I got the hang of it so far. But your scaring me lol.

[RayKay]

I haven't gone yet. I do yoga myself at home but haven't gotten to the classes yet. I've seen em while I was stretching. Maybe I'll try it but I noticed it was too slow for me. I do power yoga to get the cardio burn and they seemed to be doing it differently.

 

But I may try it once just for the view.

 

I definitely prefer power yoga to hatha or iyengar which many studios do practice. Even ashtanga, while hard, limits itself in it's pure form to a certain series if poses. Power yoga encompasses hundreds of poses, variations, and has a much better flow with the vinyasa's in between.

 

However, you may enjoy hot yoga; I have gone a couple times and it was a very cleansing, interesting experience. You sweat buckets, so attire is definitely limited to as little as possible but you do leave feeling quite refreshed. And it is tiring as it is rather long, hot and you can go deeper into positions as your muscles are much warmer.

 

I do most of my practice at home now too; but classes now and then can help to just spice it up and correct technique if you are doing it incorrectly and show you that you can do more than you thought too.

[TiredMan]

Thanks RayKay.

 

I may check out a class or two. I'll so not fit in. I'm a tall athletic guy in a class that I see is like 95 percent women heh.

 

But perhaps I'll do one to learn the "techniques". The book I have is a mix of all the stuff I said so it's geared towards someone like me. If it was just plain yoga, I'll get bored.

 

I also got this flier from my chiropracters office of some lady that teaches a class. Maybe I'll contact her for a private lesson and bring my book with me and have her do THAT with me. That might be the best.

[RayKay]

Thanks RayKay.

 

I may check out a class or two. I'll so not fit in. I'm a tall athletic guy in a class that I see is like 95 percent women heh.

 

But perhaps I'll do one to learn the "techniques". The book I have is a mix of all the stuff I said so it's geared towards someone like me. If it was just plain yoga, I'll get bored.

 

I also got this flier from my chiropracters office of some lady that teaches a class. Maybe I'll contact her for a private lesson and bring my book with me and have her do THAT with me. That might be the best.

 

Hey, don't fret about that; my boyfriend has gone and he is 6'4", lean and definitely athletic so he stands out too

 

That is a good idea too, because sometimes that objective viewpoint helps you to really understand a pose better/do it correctly if you did not know you were not!

[TiredMan]

Hey, don't fret about that; my boyfriend has gone and he is 6'4", lean and definitely athletic so he stands out too

 

That is a good idea too, because sometimes that objective viewpoint helps you to really understand a pose better/do it correctly if you did not know you were not!

 

I'm pretty much same height as him then.

 

Just a matter of finding someone I can trust and then going once or twice.

[cantexplain]

If you want to do somthing hard, find an Ashtanga Vin Yasa yoga teacher,... believe, Ashtanga is HARD!!!!!!!!!!!

 

anyone here do kundalini?

 

if so, you'd not go to lap dancing clubs (at least not for fun or to support the industry) and would know you'd have the right to ask your partner not to go to one!

[cantexplain]

But I got to tell you, some hilarious stuff happened in that place lol.

 

like what?

[cantexplain]

 

Sorry... too many put spins and twists on issues like this; it's no wonder there're so many breakups today.

 

I like that point. Makes me wonder why these put spins and twists on the issues.

[caro33]

cantexplain I really liked your post above (#54 of this thread).

 

I think that the whole porn through to lap dancing issue is a lot more than just saying it's women's insecurity. It says all sorts of complex and sometimes unsavoury things about society, and the attitude of many men and women to sex and to relationships.

 

I am not saying strip clubs are bad per se by the way, but it is just SO easy for the topic to go downhill, for feelings to be hurt, for boundaries to be crossed that it has a bad feeling for me.

 

So I wouldn't ban strip clubs for my husband, but he knows how I feel. He knows that I will not tolerate lap dances for him. He might go sometimes (not since I've known him though, and I would be happy if it stayed that way) but only if it's a social event that is occasional and would be poor form for him not to go. I have told him not to tell me anyway.

 

Thing is, my husband is not a sleaze at all. He's the biggest feminist I know, he adores me and he is absolutely trustworthy. So him going to a reasonably normal/clean strip club under the circumstances above shouldn't really bother me.