Webslinger51 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 On day 4 of NC. Sort of in an anger stage where when I think of her I call her vicious names in my mind, like "that stupid jerk" but much worse. I made a bet with my best friend that I can be strictly NC for 2 months. If I lose the bet, I have to pay $80. Link to comment
IBelieve Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Day 11 for me. I always thought NC would be easy but I keep feeling the urge to open the lines of communication in case she wants to chat (ie: log on to chat). I won't though. Gotta stay strong! Link to comment
RunMeRound Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Day 3. So I thought about the things that I miss about my ex that I could still have as part of a friendship. Honestly it comes with so much crap that its really not worth the effort. I have other friends who I don't have to walk on eggshells around. The things I really miss are things I can't have any more. I do know this, I just have to accept and believe it. Every day I go without talking ot him is a step on that path and makes it easier. Link to comment
UCLAMike Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 21 days into NC. still going strong. just checking in Link to comment
montgomery Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 day dunno. the last couple of days - weeks really - have been very strange. I've gone from missing her and wanting her back to resenting the fact that she's around, and not thinking very much of her as a person. she's done some nasty, vindictive things, and is carrying on as if nothing has happened. until she cares to give me her version of what's gone on, I'm assuming that she hasn't the courage to deal with it. I've left the door very much open to her, not to come back, but just to do the decent thing. and she won't. I hate feeling like this about somebody I cared so very much about, but maybe it'll fade and I'll become more sanguine. more than anything, I'm sad that it's come to this. OH WELL. hope you guys are all good. Link to comment
Cuminator Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Day 4 for me. Hopefully this thread will help keep me in order. I went about 15 days and had a 10 min convo on the phone. This time I won't let that happen... Link to comment
luxe_13 Posted January 17, 2009 Share Posted January 17, 2009 ok. millionth attempt at no contact after seeing someone on and off the past year. we've always remained friends in the off periods but i have realised now i can't do it. i love him too much and i am doing my head in unnecessarily over him. time to STOP. day 1: have taken myself off facebook as this seems to be the biggest tool for my obsessing over him. feels good. will activate my account again, but will try to stay off it for atleast a month. after a good cry last night, actually feeling ok about everything. time for a fresh start..if he decides he wants me then he will come to me. i know contacting him only does me damage. Link to comment
luxe_13 Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 day 2. had trouble sleeping last night, kept thinking about how lonely i am which led me to start worrying about all other this stuff in my life too - moving house soon, where is my career going etc etc. woke up this morning feeling better. went to the beach for a swim with a girlfriend who is going through a break up of her engagement. kind of made me feel like my situation isn't as bad. supposed to be having drinks this afternoon with some friends from work. but i don't feel like socialising. in terms of instant messaging - are you all blocking/deleting your exes? or are you just leaving them on there and resisting temptation to chat? Link to comment
MISSgracie Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 count me in. im heartbroken... it will be tough but i believe it is necessary thanks for the advice, i hope it works out for me weve been broken up 3 days, and this is the start of day 1 Link to comment
Decaf08 Posted January 18, 2009 Share Posted January 18, 2009 day 30 of no contact, 30 days since we've split. I'm losing hope of getting back together, everybody tells me to give up. I'm starting to see th point. Memories are just. They're better in the past. Link to comment
luxe_13 Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 day 3 & 4: been back at work so not thinking bout him as much. always think about him in the mornings when i wake up but soon as i am elbow deep in work he soon fades away. he tried to chat to me on msn today. i gave him one word answer then ignored. that doesn't count as contact surely? feeling really good about everything especially today. don't feel like i need him anymore. could easily take a back step but it's a good day! Link to comment
JohnGalt Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 I've been breaking no contact...but I'm here for the challenge for good now. I've been harboring hope that we'd get back together...but there's no hope. I just want to heal now. As long as it takes. I know that I cannot heal if I keep responding to her. She contacts me. I answer. She says really nice things and tells me how much she cares about me....then I break down and ask for her back. no more. Day 2. Link to comment
Cuminator Posted January 20, 2009 Share Posted January 20, 2009 Day 8. I go off & on about my feelings about her. I'm the one who dumped her but now I miss her more than ever since she started seeing someone else. I agree the mornings & nights alone make it the worst. Link to comment
SighSob Posted January 21, 2009 Share Posted January 21, 2009 I'm not counting the days but it's approx. a month now and I feel...good. I'm doing my best to not think about her and the breakup...I'm still hoping for a reconciliation but as days go by I'm getting used (and quite enjoying it) to a life without her. Family, friends and a cute girl showing interest in me are helping a lot...! Oh and what is helping the most is NO CONTACT of course...! By not knowing what I don't want to know (such as how is her relationship with other guy going) I avoid unnecessary pain...ignorance is bliss...I know I wouldn't be feeling this good if I knew that they are falling in love with each other...but I have the power to not know so.... Link to comment
androidmj Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 Together 3 years, then she broke it off. Went 4 days NC, she imed me to put some pictures up on facebook of us, I took it as a sign and asked her out for coffee for the weekend. We had coffee and were really friendly and laughed with eachother. Then didn't talk for 2 days. She imed me today saying a strap broke on the boots I bought her for Xmas. I blocked her on im a few hours ago after we talked briefly. Hoping I can last like 10 days now...why is this so hard. Link to comment
lauramed Posted January 22, 2009 Share Posted January 22, 2009 39 days of NC for me. Hard enough as it is and saw the ex yesterday. Had no choice but to speak with him, though I played it friendly but cool and ended the conversation first. It certainly made me feel as though I'm starting over again. Arghhhh!!! This sure is tough. Link to comment
cookiedough1 Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 29 days of NC...i am sooooo tempted to break it. I thought this would get easier??? Sigh...def. lost all hope of reconciliation. Trying to give up on that last shard of hope. Link to comment
Decaf08 Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 Day 2 of NC, I called her up on her Bday, according to how the interaction went, My friend says her answer clearly indicates she doesn't want anything to do with me ever again... Time to heal, Link to comment
wiley Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 Day 1.... I need to do this, even though it is hard. It helps that she has a new BF as this stops me wanting to contact her. I'm going to stick to NC this time! Saw her yesterday and it put me back to square 1 emotionally. So this is a fresh start. Bring on the next few days! Link to comment
RunMeRound Posted January 23, 2009 Share Posted January 23, 2009 Day 10 I think. Some days are actually pretty easy. Its getting easier every day. Link to comment
fiffy Posted January 24, 2009 Share Posted January 24, 2009 Haven't posted in ages so thought I would- day 22 About 100th attempt at NC! Still miss my ex, wish I didn't. Still can't get over he is with someone else. Good luck to everyone xx Link to comment
cookiedough1 Posted January 24, 2009 Share Posted January 24, 2009 Day 1 for me guys. I broke NC last night after a month.... I called and he did not pick or call back. Live and learn right? I just hope that from now on, when I am tempted to break NC, I will remind myself that it did nothing for me when I broke it. Link to comment
looking4ward Posted January 24, 2009 Share Posted January 24, 2009 Day 5- good luck everybody!! Link to comment
RunMeRound Posted January 24, 2009 Share Posted January 24, 2009 Day whatever. I've been ok, but for some reason last night and today have been tough. This is my second go-round at NC and its almost harder because for almost a month before this, we were LC and it was going mostly well until we stupidly spent a night together. Its like I got a glimpse of working back to something and I intentionally kind of picked a fight to derail it because I didn't want to be in that position of hanging on. I keep wondering what if I had stayed cool and not forced things. Arg. Must stop thinkng like that because he has not changed. Link to comment
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