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JohnGalt

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  1. Yeah, I mean, nothing has changed. I had a weak moment. Back to NC for me.
  2. Actually she responded. Not mean or anything.
  3. Broke no contact. oh well. Sent her a text. 5 minutes ago. No reply. She won't reply. She's over me. I am finding it hard to move on.
  4. Make that Day 1. LOL. I sent some popcorn to my ex that she hadn't had in 2 years. It is a special brand. She's always talking about it. Just told her to enjoy snacking on it while she studies for finals. I sent it a while back, arrived today. She reached out with the thank you good memory stuff. We sent some emails back and forth. Now back to NC.
  5. Day 8 - I have no urge to actually reach out to my ex. I know where I stand. I know where she stands. I'm also not doing no contact to heal. That's stupid. I don't need it to heal. I'm doing it because I don't want to be her friend or be in her life if I can't be her boyfriend/fiancee/husband. Hopefully she'll come back in a few weeks or months. So yup. Day 8.
  6. probably had a dream and had the urge to contact.
  7. I think you know, friendship is something that is just as sacred as a relationship and it also gives the dumpees a little bit of power where the dumper wants to stay friends. As far as I'm concerned, my friendship is a perk of the relationship. No relationship? No friendship. And it doesn't make me feel bad. You dumped me as a romantic partner. I dumped you as a friend. Seems fair to me.
  8. How about work on your own marriage or give your husband a divorce. This type of stuff makes me not want to get married.
  9. Ghost - it is all about you man. Start from Day 1 if you want or continue from Day 3. The NC Challenge is about discipline and making it a habit. The idea is not to go to 30 days and then start contacting your ex. It is to prove that you CAN go 30 days so you can go another 30 and another 30 until you're fully healed.
  10. I am only on day 3 of no contact, but I think i'm at a turning point because I don't think I'll be thinking about my ex anymore. I'm going on a date with a girl I've had a crush on for years. And all i can think about is not messing up.
  11. Wow. A whole week. Might not seem like a lot, but I am amazed that I've gone an entire week without contacting her. In one way I feel like this is necessary for healing. In another way I think it is a game. First one that breaks no contact loses. I'm very competitive and refuse to lose.
  12. Hey pumpkin, Happy Thanksgiving! I hope you had a great one. -John
  13. Still doing no contact. The problem with me is that I'm prone to break no contact for no particular reason at all. I'll go all day without thinking of talking to her, but then one fleeting thought and I'm almost thirsting to contact her. I ALMOST did it again tonight, but refrained. No Contact in tact.
  14. So want to reach out to her and invite her to see a movie. I haven't. I've kept no contact, but my emotions are on edge this morning. My mind believes that there is a chance. My heart is hurting.
  15. Gosh. I love you. I messed up by losing you and now I'm paying for it. I know you are going to come back but it won't be anytime soon. I've been trying to find someone to replace you but that hasn't been working. Last night I dreamed we were back together. Alas waking up I realized that my dream was a fantasy. My dream will come true though one day. But this relationship must die and a new one must replace it. I'm moving on but I'll be here. Oh and I hate you for putting me through this John
  16. Another day of no contact. This is easier once there's simply nothing left to say to your ex. Nothing that could change their minds. I am exhausted. I want to sleep. I need a day off from work.
  17. Excellent point zep. Know that I'm with you in this journey and I'm proud of you! Keep it up. I'm with you too - no looking at Facebook (my ex is deleted) and no looking at pictures/cards(threw them all away) or texts (deleted her from my phone). I want her to become a ghost.
  18. Dear [ex] Yesterday, I loved you with all my heart. I was optimistic about a future for us. Today, I hate you with every fiber of my being. You are so beautiful on the outside, but so ugly on the inside. You are selfish - you take, take, take and rarely give. You promise and then do not deliver. I discovered for myself that I deserve better. I have promised myself that I will not give anymore. And when you do come back - which you will - I will not take you. I will not laugh or take pleasure in your misfortune, but we both know that you're in for a long hard road and I will not save you. Not this time. Gnight and Gluck -John
  19. I guess I'm technically at Day 1. Ex talked to me yesterday -- said she's moved on. Said she is not in a relationship nor will she be in one soon. Said there's a future for us, but the future is "not today and it is not tomorrow." She basically wants nothing to do with me. And I have finally moved on from being delusional about our relationship to hating her. I don't know if hate is healthy. But it consumes me and makes me feel better. So day 1. Oh and if NC is to heal, why is it in the getting back together subforum?
  20. Day 2 - Here we are again. This time, i have blocked Gmail from my desktop. I will only get email from my phone. No temptation to unblock her and chat. Chamachama - She's confused. I'll give her that. I'm sure there's a third party or parties involved. She is in school after all. But I don't think that she's close to getting in an emotional/relationship. She's very picky about who she commits to. She's certainly not in a relationship and she has every right to sleep with whoever she wants to. I am not being celibate just because I want her back. lol. So I mean, whatever. If she ends up in a relationship, it wouldn't bother me that much either. She's only had two long term relationships, so I mean, chances are that dude won't last. I've never reached out to an ex while they are in a relationship, so that would certainly end the need for a no-contact "challenge." But right now, I'm just going to look at things face value, give her space and see where the chips fall. This isn't stopping my healing process though. I really want this girl back, but I'm not holding my breath or putting my life on hold.
  21. That's not true. I'm not the fall back guy. She would definitely tell me if she never wanted to get back together. She's one of these girls that doesn't need a fall back. She's genuinely confused. But I agree with you and everyone else, my contact just makes it worse. It isn't helping and it isn't healthy. I know that.
  22. She came back on later and said she still loves me. She says that there's hope for us in the future and wants to get through her first semester. Said she isn't opposed to hanging out, but her schedule is brutal right now. I'm going to leave her alone. I'll see what's good in January if she's still single.
  23. Back to day 1. I have two email accounts. One i don't check very often. Went on. She was on gchat with the status "too much on my mind." like an idiot I reached out and invited her to brunch. She declined saying she had too much work that day. I asked if I should not invite her places, if it was too soon. She said it isn't that...it's just law school doesn't give her a lot of time. I then asked if she loved or missed me. She said she wasn't having that conversation and signed off.
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