THE NO CONTACT CHALLENGE - SuperDave71

[wastingaway]

I dropped off some mail at her place just left it on the ground outside of her house does this count as a break?

im on day 5 longest yet and I feel like Im having a nervous breakdown. Just pacing the floors screaming to myself i am having a tough time I miss her and the kids so much.......

[tazzz55]

Day 2 begins. Didn't get much sleep last night, but I've come to the realization that I can't worry about her. I need to worry about me. That's a big change from a month ago when I thought that reconcilition was the only way forward.

[blindreepr]

day 4 nc

 

my first therapy session also, this should be fun

[selkie]

A male friend of mine has freaked me out.

I know he is STILL pining over his ex. I asked him how many days of NC.

 

521 days he told me. And he STILL talks theoretically about them getting back together and having kids.

 

Hmm I think he needs to stop counting and move on.

[CreoUCLA]

Day 10

 

I broke NC today. I finally realized that what was missing from my old relationship was my love. Sure there are/were problems aside from that, but this is the most significant. I took her for granted. We took each other for granted.

 

I have learned to be happy with and to love myself. She told me back when we split up, "I can't give you the love you deserve." It wasn't until a few weeks ago that I realized, "No, she can't... Only I can give that to me!"

 

Continuing with NC, at this point, will only further reinforce to her that I didn't love her. So I have opened the doors of communication (I replied to her last e-mail). Can I be just friends with her? Yes. I thought in the car today, "Would I be okay if she told me that she was seeing someone/engaged?" I smiled and thought, "Yes, because she would be happy." I want her to be happy with or without me.

 

While I never completed the "30 day NC challenge," I know that I have myself back... What does the future hold for me and my ex? I don't know, but I will look forward to it either way!

 

-Mike-

[The_411]

Broke NC to for a business issue. Not personal e-mail or what not. Purely business.

 

She didn't respond which was somewhat of a surprise.

 

My guess is she is coming up with her counter offer.

 

Laff I talked with her new roommate's ex fiance who said he would have * * * * * ed out my ex for her behavior had she said anything.

[Young_Stud88]

this is a great challenge. So count me in!

[Crows]

Day....6... again....

 

I wrote her a letter.. contemplating to send or not. i feel good about the letter.

[tazzz55]

Day 3 begins early for me. Yesterday I was feeling really good about not contacting her. This morning, the anxiety is back, but not as bad as it has been in the past. Anxiety is more to do with fixing me than worrying about getting back together with her now.

[princess_summer_blue84]

Faver called me yesturday and gave me some really bad news. He's being deployed to go to Afghanistan in January and won't be back until 2 years from now. My heart is breaking and my whole world is crashing in around me.

[istillluvu06]

I'm so sorry there arent words to lessen any pain now, but a hug would help? I feel your pain.

[princess_summer_blue84]

Thanks so much!

[blindreepr]

day 5 begins

 

tomorrow is thanksgiving, lets hope I can keep it going.

[love4life]

I think I'm around 70 days now. Had a really good first date last night and actually thought to myself, "I guess there are people out there who are good for, and maybe even better for, me."

[Crows]

Today would have been our 8 month anniversary Havn't hread from her in 8 days again. If her pattern continues, I should hear from her int he next couple days.

[not my real name]

I'm currently on day 3.

 

I rang him on Monday night and had a big chat and just tried to get every single thing I could possibly think of wanting to say to him and talk about out so that I could then throw myself into NC properly this time around. So far has been great and I have had no urge to contact him. Apart from feeling a little apprehensive about having to spend the entire weekend with his mum at a seminar plus an estimated 6hr travel time in total - I have been feeling fantastic. It has been just over 3 weeks since the dreaded "This isn't working for me" was uttered and I'm definitely looking towards the future in a positive light and have been my cheery smiling and laughing self. Probably helps that I lost a little weight and am feeling fabulous about myself though!

[tazzz55]

And day 4 of NC begins. I seem to be able to better control the urge to get in touch as time goes on. It's the worst in the morning when I wake up and find no one in the bed with me.

[blindreepr]

day 6

 

happy thanksgiving sonia, I miss you.

[princess_summer_blue84]

Happy Thanksgiving , Faver I wish u were here and I miss u lots!

[lost_for_words]

I'm still in the phase of checking out his myspace page (god, I hate that site) and I know he's been with his mates every night this week so I doubt he's even realised I've not called or texted him.

 

This NC is hard

[not my real name]

Today is day 4.

 

I feel fine, somewhat indifferent but I'm sure the distress will return at some stage. Dreamed about him last night. Ugh, go away! Nervous about spending the entire weekend with his mum but at the same time it's a good opportunity to showcase that I am actually doing fabulously well which is not what he's expecting!

[glimmerofhope]

Day 4

 

I'm a little surprised Thanksgiving has come to an end without a peep from her. Perhaps it's better this way...I don't know. We'll see what happens with my birthday in a few weeks.

[Chris777]

ok, so here I go!

 

Day 1 on the site, but its really day 9 since i last contacted her.

 

Day 1

 

I don't know how i feel, sometimes i miss her like hell, but she isn't worth it after what she did to me. We'll see where life takes me.

[Crows]

No contact begins for real today.

 

Found things out I had a gut feeling for .. the last two months.

 

DAY 1:

[CreoUCLA]

Day 1

 

Okay, this time I'll really stick with it, because I realized that I don't want her back anymore. I sent her a final e-mail yesterday saying that I can't be friends, and that I prefer that she didn't contact me anymore so we can both move on with "class" and "dignity." I am done!

 

I feel great! I finally realized that the woman I loved is dead. In her place is some immature, selfish, and irrational being... She has a lot of growing up to do. And you know what?

 

Someday I'm gonna run accross your mind

Don't worry, I'll be fine

I'm gonna be alright

While you're sleeping with your pride

Wishing I could hold you tight

I'll be over you

And on with my life

 

-You'll Think of Me (Keith Urban)

 

 

 

-Mike-