sexyshorty1485 Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 ok so last night me and my boyfriend were talking and he ended up telling me that 2-3 years ago he went to a rub and tug 3 times. i'm kind of upset over the situation because i feel like he should have never told me....its not like i asked him. am i over reacting? Link to comment
Beec Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 He was pretty much being an idiot to tell you. The real question here is how does this affect how you feel about him. Is this a deal breaker? Or is his telling you the deal breaker? Or, can you adjust to knowing. Take your time, don't be in a rush to make decisions. Link to comment
New_Horizons Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 I dunno, the whole 'ignorance is bliss' thing doesn't make sense to me. Are you really over-reacting to the fact he told you (which I doubt) or to the fact that he did it? Link to comment
BornToResist Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 What's a "rub and tug"? Link to comment
SherriLi Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 Hi there, lol "ignorance is bliss" May i ask what a run-and-tug is? Link to comment
4thelast1 Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 Im with you SherriLi , What is a rub and tug???? Link to comment
shikashika Posted October 18, 2006 Share Posted October 18, 2006 getting a hand job! was this before you were dating? if so.. why is it an issue? if it was while you were dating. yes, it is a problem...but not if it was before Link to comment
Juliana Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 Eh, who cares. Ask him why he told you....maybe he's fantasizing, or something; wants you to play along... Link to comment
SquareWheel Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 I've never heard it called a run and tug, but I'm pretty sure the poster is referring to one of those massage parlors or spas where guys get a massage followed by masturbation or something more. Some people call the service a massage with a happy ending. Link to comment
rikka Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 If it happened before the two of you were together, I don't see why it is a big deal. Perhaps finding out why he told you is the thing to do. IMHO, in relationships ignorance is not bliss. Link to comment
suresuresure Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 Doesn't it come down to your values? Is it more that you don't want to know his past, that you don't want to be with a guy who's received a happy ending, or that you're totally cool with the idea and feel guilty that it doesn't bother you? Or is it some combination of those? You really haven't given us enough information to offer you any useful advice. Link to comment
AwdreeHpburn Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 do you also not want to know if he was breast fed before he met you? Or would that be ok to tell you? Should he not tell you if he's ever masterbated before or is that not something you want to know? I mean, you know he was alive and did stuff before he met you, right? You just don't want to know what those things were? Link to comment
Rabican Posted October 19, 2006 Share Posted October 19, 2006 whats a rub and tug? you mean one of those shady massage parlors? Id consider that cheating if you were together at the time... if you werent together... that wouldnt really bother me but thats just me. Link to comment
shikashika Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 ok, now I see in your post that it was before you hooked up... let it go... its just a hand job... and it was BEFORE YOU MET!!!... Link to comment
Lovely8466 Posted October 20, 2006 Share Posted October 20, 2006 Was this some kind of "rub and tug" party or something? wow.. pretty strange.. but yeah, like some of the other posts.. it's no biggy, it was before you met and i'm sure it's what he does to himself all the time.. Link to comment
New_Horizons Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 Well, I don't know...if I had a girlfriend and I found out she had had the equivalent of a rub and tug, I wouldn't feel comfortable being with her anymore. I mean, there's an imbalance in experience. I haven't had one but she has...it's not compatible. I'm sure if the OP had had such an experience, she wouldn't fnd her boyfriend's rub n tug an issue anymore. Link to comment
suresuresure Posted October 22, 2006 Share Posted October 22, 2006 haha, probably true. I don't know how I'd feel if my girlfriend told me she had the female equivalent of that...still there is something of a societal double standard in that regard, for better or worse. A girl who goes to massage parlors to "get her rocks off" is probably somewhat odd (not to say guys who do aren't, I don't know any guys who admit to doing this), since if she's just after physical pleasure it's likely quite a bit easier to find a willing party than it is for the average guy to do the same. This is assuming she's somewhat attractive and not a social retard. P.S. I still giggle when I read "rub and tug," I never heard it referred to that way. Is that British slang or something? Link to comment
BlueFire Posted October 23, 2006 Share Posted October 23, 2006 If this was something he did before the two of got together he is fair and open with you, wants you to know what he did in his past and how you think about that and how that makes you feel. Being open in a relation and being honest is a good thing [only if it happens before u2 started dating] In that case see it as an good omen, he wants to be open with you, not big deal. Link to comment
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